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breakups

Is it Okay To Write an Apology Letter To an Ex? 10 Queers Weigh In

The concept of the Breakup Apology Letter is a controversial one! Where do you land?

A Fat Black woman is standing behind orange flowers and greenery

first person

Strapping As A Fat Femme Was My Black Queer Sexual Liberation

A fat Black femme explores the relationship with her body and shares how strapping became part of her sexual liberation.

Demetria Blooms —

Nov 11, 2021

A collage of a Black Light skin woman with curly hair touching a green shrub with pinkish flowers. A small handheld mirror is beside her.

sex

I Always (Never) Feel Like — Somebody’s Watching Me

Are you gonna let them watch you strap up or are you a “BRB” kinda babe?

Danielle —

Nov 11, 2021

An image of Red Flowers, Black Harness and a cucumber and eggplant.

sex toys

Strap-On Harnesses For Every Stage Of Your Strap Journey

It’ll give comfort! It’ll give control! It’ll give rock star!! And who doesn’t want to feel like the main character when they’re blowing their partner’s back out!

Archie —

Nov 10, 2021

A pair of legs wearing white high heels stands in front of a pink pattern background with florals. A mouth with a tongue sits next to the legs to the left

first person

Suck My Silicone Or Save Your Mouth For Me?

Should you play suck and blow or what’s the point?

Kris Chesson —

Nov 10, 2021

Kristen Stewart in Charlie’s Angels Inspired Me to Buy a Strap-On

sex

Kristen Stewart in Charlie’s Angels Inspired Me to Buy a Strap-On

Who knew having a dick could be so gender euphoric?

Drew Burnett Gregory —

Nov 9, 2021

a lonely woman sits with her head between her knees by a beautiful lake

dating

You Need Help: I’ve Never Had a Date and I’m So Lonely

The bad news is the answer to loneliness is not necessarily found on dating apps. The good news is you can meet people other ways.

Vanessa —

Nov 9, 2021

One Strap To Rule Them All Or Nah — Not So Much?

first person

One Strap To Rule Them All Or Nah — Not So Much?

Do you only need one strap or is variety truly the spice of life?

Demetria Blooms —

Nov 9, 2021

A Black woman in a black leather jacket is surrounded by green leaves and a small blue flower

culture

An Act of Service: Strapping My Dom As a Leatherdyke Bottom

I still love service, but strapping for the first time expanded my very definition of the word.

A.C. Lamberty —

Nov 8, 2021

Sex Toy Reviews

Do You Love Porn and the Toy Story Franchise? Well, I Have Some Great News!

You've got a friend IN me?

Drew Burnett Gregory

Sex Toy Story: An animated butt plug looks sad

movie reviews

The Vesper Is a Vibrator Doubling as a Necklace Doubling as the Wingman I Didn’t Know I Needed

The whole vibrator-as-necklace thing might seem gimmicky, but the Vesper genuinely looks like a decent piece of androgynous jewelry.

Guest —

Jun 8, 2023

7 Sex Toys for Fat, Queer Sex and Masturbation

As fat folks, we have to get creative in the bedroom. Fortunately, there are plenty of toys that can help you have your best fat, queer sex with yourself or with…

Kelly J. —

Jun 5, 2023

The Roslyn Bodysuit Harness and the B.Cush Made Me Feel Hot and Horny

I took the advice of wise strappers before me and wore the harness and b.cush around the house for a while.

Guest —

May 18, 2023

Meet the Proud Pervs Behind Bedroom Besties, a New Gender-Inclusive Sex Toy Company

Bedroom Besties saw a gap in sex toy marketing. “We realized we could fill that hole — pun fully intended.”

Ro White —

May 15, 2023

How We Have Lesbian Sex

two women lying in bed with heads on stomach

Lesbian Sex: Your 15 Favorite Ways To Have It

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