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breakups

Is it Okay To Write an Apology Letter To an Ex? 10 Queers Weigh In

The concept of the Breakup Apology Letter is a controversial one! Where do you land?

the team

Oct 13, 2025

a bright fire burning strongly in the night

relationships

You Need Help: I Want to Work on Myself, How Do I Do That?

I have behaviors I notice that spill into my relationship that stem from personal issues. I want to be a better person to myself, and my partner. I want to…

Abbie Jones

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Nov 29, 2022

In the bottom right corner of the image, there is a black line drawing of two women with 1950s hairstyles whispering to each other against a light blue background. In the upper left corner, there is a speech bubble. Inside the speech bubble, there is an image of the Iroha Plus Tori, a dark red, teardrop-shaped sex toy with a convex side and a concave side. The concave side has small ridges.

sex toys

The Iroha Plus Tori Looks Less Like A Sex Toy and More Like a Woodland Grub (But It Still Got Me Off)

Because of the Iroha Plus Tori’s ambiguous shape, I wasn’t immediately clear on how to use it.

Guest

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Nov 28, 2022

a young Black woman looking at an approaching train while standing on the metro station platform

relationships

You Need Help: What To Do With This Meaningless, Single Life?

I want to try to hold space here for both: for your (and my, really) pain and for the possibility that you may not feel this way forever.

himani

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Nov 22, 2022

queer person with short black hair lies on their stomach holding a phone that is clearly showing porn

relationships

You Need Help: My Trauma is Activated When My Partner Masturbates to Porn

Your feelings are deeply understandable, even though your partner isn’t doing anything wrong. If you haven’t already, it’s time to seek trauma therapy.

danijanae

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Nov 15, 2022

In the bottom right corner of the image, there is a black line drawing of two women with 1950s hairstyles whispering to each other against a pink background. In the upper left corner, there is a speech bubble. Inside the speech bubble, there is an image of Her Ultimate Pleasure, a purple sex toy with a dildo-shaped portion on one end and a clear, plastic cone around a small, pink tongue on the other end.

sex toys

“Her Ultimate Pleasure” Turned Me Into a Bratty Bottom

When I eventually had one of the best orgasms of my life, I felt like something inside me had been rearranged.

Guest

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Nov 15, 2022

A blue car drives into the sunset. Trees and shadows are visible ahead. A white person throws one arm out the window and reaches into the air.

relationships

My Chronic Yeast Infections Wouldn’t Go Away — Until I Left My Toxic Relationship

I wish my doctor had mentioned the relationship between stress and chronic yeast infections.

Aalis

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Nov 14, 2022

A wooden spoon in front of a white background with gold oil/lube dripping off the side.

sex

What If, Lube?

Lube. Just lube. Lube for regular sex, with or without toys. Lube anytime, for anything. It’s lube!

Nico

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Nov 10, 2022

Diverse group of young women posing for a group photo before practising soft ball at the outdoor city park field.

relationships

The 68 Absolutely Gayest Ways You Met Your Gay Partner(s), According to the 2022 Reader Survey

“We met in 1995. I was in grad school and had a job at the campus women’s center. I helped her hang an art show. We later hung out at…

Riese

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Nov 9, 2022

Sex Toy Reviews

Do You Love Porn and the Toy Story Franchise? Well, I Have Some Great News!

You've got a friend IN me?

Drew Burnett Gregory

Sex Toy Story: An animated butt plug looks sad

movie reviews

The Vesper Is a Vibrator Doubling as a Necklace Doubling as the Wingman I Didn’t Know I Needed

The whole vibrator-as-necklace thing might seem gimmicky, but the Vesper genuinely looks like a decent piece of androgynous jewelry.

Guest

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Jun 8, 2023

7 Sex Toys for Fat, Queer Sex and Masturbation

As fat folks, we have to get creative in the bedroom. Fortunately, there are plenty of toys that can help you have your best fat, queer sex with yourself or with…

Kelly J.

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Jun 5, 2023

The Roslyn Bodysuit Harness and the B.Cush Made Me Feel Hot and Horny

I took the advice of wise strappers before me and wore the harness and b.cush around the house for a while.

Guest

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May 18, 2023

Meet the Proud Pervs Behind Bedroom Besties, a New Gender-Inclusive Sex Toy Company

Bedroom Besties saw a gap in sex toy marketing. “We realized we could fill that hole — pun fully intended.”

Ro White

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May 15, 2023

How We Have Lesbian Sex

two women lying in bed with heads on stomach

Lesbian Sex: Your 15 Favorite Ways To Have It

Riese

Mar 1, 2024

SEX

13 Reasons Women In Lesbian Relationships Aren’t Having (More) Sex

“Lesbian bed death” does happen, and many lesbians feel they’re not having enough sex. But…

Riese

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Jul 28, 2023
SEX

Is Period Sex The Ultimate Lesbian Sexual Indicator?

People who want to have period sex have more and varied sex more often and…

Ryan Yates

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Feb 8, 2016
RELATIONSHIPS

You Need Help: Is She “The One”?

HOW WILL YOU EVER KNOW?

Ryan Yates

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Aug 24, 2015
SEX

87% Of Queer Women Are Into Porn or Erotica, But Not All Of It Is Lesbionic

Our latest round of results from the 2015 Ultimate Lesbian Sex Survey is all about…

Riese

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Jun 18, 2015
SEX

Here’s The Salacious Sex Statistics On Queer Women In Non-monogamous vs. Monogamous Relationships

Everything you ever wanted to know about the sex lives of the monogamous, non-monogamous, and…

Riese

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Jun 9, 2015
SEX

When Did You Do It For The First Time and How Many People Have You Done It With, Huh?

Oh you know, just the answers to everybody’s favorite two questions ever.

Riese

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May 19, 2015
SEX

Women’s Best Bet For A Synced-Up Sex Schedule Is Lesbianism

A new survey finds that men and women like having sex at totally different times…

Riese

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May 12, 2015
HEALTH

Why You Should Care About Lesbian Safer Sex (And What To Do About It)

If sexual health isn’t relevant to your interests yet, it should be.

Christy Duan

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May 5, 2015
SEX

The 100 Most Ambitious Places You’ve Had Sex

“Lost in the Dole pineapple maze in Hawaii.” “On my back in a Corolla on…

Riese

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Apr 30, 2015
SEX

Lesbian Sex Gets Women Off At Astronomical Rates, Our Sex Survey Shows

High femmes, women over 35 and people in relationships orgasm a whole lot during sex…

Riese

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Apr 29, 2015
QUEER FASHION

Here Are Your Very Queer Underwear-Wearing Habits

The Ultimate Lesbian Sex Survey knows what you’ve got on underneath those jeans, and how…

Riese

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Apr 24, 2015
SEX

41 Feelings You Had About Scissoring

How many of you scissor on the regular? And how many of you remain convinced…

Riese

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Apr 19, 2015
SEX

50 Fascinating Things You Really Wanted Us To Know About How You Have Sex

“I say a lot of things about myself during sex that I would not say…

Riese

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Apr 14, 2015
SEX

Queer Women Masturbate More Than Straight Women, Our Sex Survey Says

On the masturbation practices of the 8,566 humans who took our Ultimate Lesbian Sex Survey…

Riese

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Apr 13, 2015
SEX

The 100 Gayest Places You’ve Had Sex

” The back of a Jeep next to a beaver pond. That’s right. Beaver. Pond.…

Riese

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Apr 8, 2015
SEX

How Often Do Queer Women Have Sex?

We’ve got all the numbers on how often you have sex from our Ultimate Lesbian…

Riese

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Mar 30, 2015
SEX

26 Bits Of Solid Sex Advice You Gave Us On Autostraddle’s Lesbosexy Sex Survey

20. WASH YOUR HANDS IF YOU ATE BUFFALO WINGS BEFORE GETTING LAID, OMG.

Ryan Yates

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Feb 24, 2015

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