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breakups

Is it Okay To Write an Apology Letter To an Ex? 10 Queers Weigh In

The concept of the Breakup Apology Letter is a controversial one! Where do you land?

the team

Oct 13, 2025

A dewy rose that looks like a vagina and the text: The Principles of Pleasure

tv reviews

Netflix’s “The Principles of Pleasure” Invites Us Out of Shame and Into the Light

Pleasure can be sexual, but it also doesn’t have to be. I think I could have a healthier relationship with sex and my body by defining what pleasure means for…

Em Win

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May 2, 2022

In the bottom right corner of the image, there is a black line drawing of two women with 1950s hairstyles whispering to each other against a pink background. In the upper left corner, there is a speech bubble. Inside the speech bubble, there is an image of black fabric restraints attached to long, black straps.

sex toys

Anonymous Sex Toy Review: Sportsheets Under the Bed Restraint System

No matter how much she begged, pleaded and yanked on the straps, she was securely held in place and entirely at my mercy.

Guest

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Apr 26, 2022

A Black woman with curly hair wearing a pink T-shirt and jeans sits cross-legged on a white bed with her head in her hands. Windows covered in gauzy white curtains are visible in the background.

breakups

Did My Partner Leave Me Because of My Bipolar Disorder?

My bipolar disorder may have caused my breakup, but I can’t and don’t want to separate my disability from who I am.

anneaxinn

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Apr 19, 2022

Against a white background, a white woman with shoulder-length brown hair leans over a white table and presses her face into a pink cake.

sex

It’s Cake and Cunnilingus Day — Let’s Celebrate Accordingly!

I paired eight types of cakes with eight styles of cunnilingus to inspire your revelry.

Ro White

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Apr 14, 2022

A transmasculine gender-nonconforming person with short blond and bright red hair and a transfeminine non-binary person with long brown wavy hair, waking up together in bed. The person with brown hair is looking into the distance as though thinking about something.

relationships

You Need Help: Am I Still Into Non-Monogamy or Not Really?

How do I navigate not knowing for sure whether monogamy or non-monogamy is for me? And how do I communicate that to my partner and my sexy friends?

KaeLyn

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Apr 12, 2022

The image shows the chest and arms of a Black woman wearing a white T-shirt with a graphic of an open cigar box on one side of the chest, a gray watch on one wrist and a simple silver bracelet on the other wrist. She is leaning against another woman, who was wearing a black shirt and jeans. Only one of her hands and her upper legs are visible.

dating

Your Assumptions About Black, Queer Masculinity Are Erasing My Asexual Identity

As a black, masc, asexual person, I am continually sought out for my assumed hypersexuality. When people don’t get that from me, they automatically assume a flaw, forgetting there are other…

Timinepre Cole

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Apr 7, 2022

In the bottom right corner of the image, there is a black line drawing of two women with 1950s hair styles whispering to each other against a lavender background. In the upper left corner, there is a speech bubble. Inside the speech bubble, there is an image of the Fun Factory Share Lite, a teal, double-ended dildo with a bulbous end and a long shaft.

sex toys

Anonymous Sex Toy Review: The Share Lite

If you’re looking for a double-ended dildo, the Share Lite is an excellent option, but it absolutely does not stay in place without a harness.

Guest

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Apr 4, 2022

Closeup portrait of a Black woman laying in bed alone, feeling lonely, going through a breakup

breakups

You Need Help: Breaking Up Is Hard To Do

I know I must sound like a broken record: “break up…break up…break up!” But I truly think that you both deserve the kind of relationship where your needs are being…

danijanae

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Mar 29, 2022

Sex Toy Reviews

Do You Love Porn and the Toy Story Franchise? Well, I Have Some Great News!

You've got a friend IN me?

Drew Burnett Gregory

Sex Toy Story: An animated butt plug looks sad

movie reviews

The Vesper Is a Vibrator Doubling as a Necklace Doubling as the Wingman I Didn’t Know I Needed

The whole vibrator-as-necklace thing might seem gimmicky, but the Vesper genuinely looks like a decent piece of androgynous jewelry.

Guest

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Jun 8, 2023

7 Sex Toys for Fat, Queer Sex and Masturbation

As fat folks, we have to get creative in the bedroom. Fortunately, there are plenty of toys that can help you have your best fat, queer sex with yourself or with…

Kelly J.

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Jun 5, 2023

The Roslyn Bodysuit Harness and the B.Cush Made Me Feel Hot and Horny

I took the advice of wise strappers before me and wore the harness and b.cush around the house for a while.

Guest

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May 18, 2023

Meet the Proud Pervs Behind Bedroom Besties, a New Gender-Inclusive Sex Toy Company

Bedroom Besties saw a gap in sex toy marketing. “We realized we could fill that hole — pun fully intended.”

Ro White

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May 15, 2023

How We Have Lesbian Sex

two women lying in bed with heads on stomach

Lesbian Sex: Your 15 Favorite Ways To Have It

Riese

Mar 1, 2024

SEX

13 Reasons Women In Lesbian Relationships Aren’t Having (More) Sex

“Lesbian bed death” does happen, and many lesbians feel they’re not having enough sex. But…

Riese

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Jul 28, 2023
SEX

Is Period Sex The Ultimate Lesbian Sexual Indicator?

People who want to have period sex have more and varied sex more often and…

Ryan Yates

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Feb 8, 2016
RELATIONSHIPS

You Need Help: Is She “The One”?

HOW WILL YOU EVER KNOW?

Ryan Yates

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Aug 24, 2015
SEX

87% Of Queer Women Are Into Porn or Erotica, But Not All Of It Is Lesbionic

Our latest round of results from the 2015 Ultimate Lesbian Sex Survey is all about…

Riese

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Jun 18, 2015
SEX

Here’s The Salacious Sex Statistics On Queer Women In Non-monogamous vs. Monogamous Relationships

Everything you ever wanted to know about the sex lives of the monogamous, non-monogamous, and…

Riese

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Jun 9, 2015
SEX

When Did You Do It For The First Time and How Many People Have You Done It With, Huh?

Oh you know, just the answers to everybody’s favorite two questions ever.

Riese

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May 19, 2015
SEX

Women’s Best Bet For A Synced-Up Sex Schedule Is Lesbianism

A new survey finds that men and women like having sex at totally different times…

Riese

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May 12, 2015
HEALTH

Why You Should Care About Lesbian Safer Sex (And What To Do About It)

If sexual health isn’t relevant to your interests yet, it should be.

Christy Duan

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May 5, 2015
SEX

The 100 Most Ambitious Places You’ve Had Sex

“Lost in the Dole pineapple maze in Hawaii.” “On my back in a Corolla on…

Riese

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Apr 30, 2015
SEX

Lesbian Sex Gets Women Off At Astronomical Rates, Our Sex Survey Shows

High femmes, women over 35 and people in relationships orgasm a whole lot during sex…

Riese

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Apr 29, 2015
QUEER FASHION

Here Are Your Very Queer Underwear-Wearing Habits

The Ultimate Lesbian Sex Survey knows what you’ve got on underneath those jeans, and how…

Riese

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Apr 24, 2015
SEX

41 Feelings You Had About Scissoring

How many of you scissor on the regular? And how many of you remain convinced…

Riese

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Apr 19, 2015
SEX

50 Fascinating Things You Really Wanted Us To Know About How You Have Sex

“I say a lot of things about myself during sex that I would not say…

Riese

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Apr 14, 2015
SEX

Queer Women Masturbate More Than Straight Women, Our Sex Survey Says

On the masturbation practices of the 8,566 humans who took our Ultimate Lesbian Sex Survey…

Riese

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Apr 13, 2015
SEX

The 100 Gayest Places You’ve Had Sex

” The back of a Jeep next to a beaver pond. That’s right. Beaver. Pond.…

Riese

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Apr 8, 2015
SEX

How Often Do Queer Women Have Sex?

We’ve got all the numbers on how often you have sex from our Ultimate Lesbian…

Riese

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Mar 30, 2015
SEX

26 Bits Of Solid Sex Advice You Gave Us On Autostraddle’s Lesbosexy Sex Survey

20. WASH YOUR HANDS IF YOU ATE BUFFALO WINGS BEFORE GETTING LAID, OMG.

Ryan Yates

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Feb 24, 2015

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