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breakups

Is it Okay To Write an Apology Letter To an Ex? 10 Queers Weigh In

The concept of the Breakup Apology Letter is a controversial one! Where do you land?

the team

Oct 13, 2025

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sex

5 Lube Dispensers for Your Next Queer Hookup — Because Presentation Is Everything

If you want to look extra put-together, it’s time to upgrade your lube dispenser.

Ro White

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Jul 10, 2023

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love + sex

You Need Help: Am I Being Unreasonable for Feeling Undesired by My Girlfriend?

I think the topic of Asian desire doesn’t get nuanced attention often enough.

himani

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Jul 4, 2023

A white woman with long blonde hair in a bun wears a grey flannel with white cross hatching. She sits in a cafe with her chin in her hand, looking away from the woman sitting next to her. The woman beside her is a Black woman with curly hair. She wears a white shirt with an open denim collared shirt over it. She looks down at her phone. A latte is in blue mug in front of her.

relationships

7 Signs It’s Time for Couples Therapy, According to a Queer Relationship Therapist

You don’t have to wait for an extreme problem to seek out couples therapy.

Aliyah Moore

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Jul 3, 2023

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sex

Try These Exercises for Better Strap-On Sex

It’s pride month! Let’s get jacked for our favorite sex act with exercises for strap-on sex!

Ro White

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Jun 22, 2023

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relationships

You Need Help: How Can I Make Long Distance More Bearable?

Long distance will always be challenging; here are the ways you can strengthen the way you navigate those challenges.

Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya

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Jun 20, 2023

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dating

You Need Help: How Do I Convince My Girlfriend That I Care?

It sounds like she’s looking for something you just can’t give her, and that’s okay. Your life is very full at the moment. It’s not too full for the right…

Darcy

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Jun 13, 2023

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love + sex

How to Have Sex With a Transmasculine Partner

Transmasc people have our own unique desires and boundaries in bed, just like everyone else.

Quinn Rhodes

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Jun 12, 2023

In the bottom right corner of the image, there is a black line drawing of two women with 1950s hairstyles whispering to each other against a blue-green background. In the upper left corner, there is a speech bubble. Inside the speech bubble, there is a white person's torso. They are wearing a low-cut white blazer with no shirt underneath. They are wearing a silver chain around their neck with the Vesper—a long, slim, metal vibrator—hanging off of it.

sex toys

The Vesper Is a Vibrator Doubling as a Necklace Doubling as the Wingman I Didn’t Know I Needed

The whole vibrator-as-necklace thing might seem gimmicky, but the Vesper genuinely looks like a decent piece of androgynous jewelry.

Guest

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Jun 8, 2023

Sex Toy Reviews

Do You Love Porn and the Toy Story Franchise? Well, I Have Some Great News!

You've got a friend IN me?

Drew Burnett Gregory

Sex Toy Story: An animated butt plug looks sad

movie reviews

The Vesper Is a Vibrator Doubling as a Necklace Doubling as the Wingman I Didn’t Know I Needed

The whole vibrator-as-necklace thing might seem gimmicky, but the Vesper genuinely looks like a decent piece of androgynous jewelry.

Guest

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Jun 8, 2023

7 Sex Toys for Fat, Queer Sex and Masturbation

As fat folks, we have to get creative in the bedroom. Fortunately, there are plenty of toys that can help you have your best fat, queer sex with yourself or with…

Kelly J.

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Jun 5, 2023

The Roslyn Bodysuit Harness and the B.Cush Made Me Feel Hot and Horny

I took the advice of wise strappers before me and wore the harness and b.cush around the house for a while.

Guest

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May 18, 2023

Meet the Proud Pervs Behind Bedroom Besties, a New Gender-Inclusive Sex Toy Company

Bedroom Besties saw a gap in sex toy marketing. “We realized we could fill that hole — pun fully intended.”

Ro White

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May 15, 2023

How We Have Lesbian Sex

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sex

Lesbian Sex: Your 15 Favorite Ways To Have It

Riese

Mar 1, 2024

SEX

13 Reasons Women In Lesbian Relationships Aren’t Having (More) Sex

“Lesbian bed death” does happen, and many lesbians feel they’re not having enough sex. But…

Riese

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Jul 28, 2023
SEX

Is Period Sex The Ultimate Lesbian Sexual Indicator?

People who want to have period sex have more and varied sex more often and…

Ryan Yates

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Feb 8, 2016
RELATIONSHIPS

You Need Help: Is She “The One”?

HOW WILL YOU EVER KNOW?

Ryan Yates

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Aug 24, 2015
SEX

87% Of Queer Women Are Into Porn or Erotica, But Not All Of It Is Lesbionic

Our latest round of results from the 2015 Ultimate Lesbian Sex Survey is all about…

Riese

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Jun 18, 2015
SEX

Here’s The Salacious Sex Statistics On Queer Women In Non-monogamous vs. Monogamous Relationships

Everything you ever wanted to know about the sex lives of the monogamous, non-monogamous, and…

Riese

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Jun 9, 2015
SEX

When Did You Do It For The First Time and How Many People Have You Done It With, Huh?

Oh you know, just the answers to everybody’s favorite two questions ever.

Riese

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May 19, 2015
SEX

Women’s Best Bet For A Synced-Up Sex Schedule Is Lesbianism

A new survey finds that men and women like having sex at totally different times…

Riese

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May 12, 2015
HEALTH

Why You Should Care About Lesbian Safer Sex (And What To Do About It)

If sexual health isn’t relevant to your interests yet, it should be.

Christy Duan

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May 5, 2015
SEX

The 100 Most Ambitious Places You’ve Had Sex

“Lost in the Dole pineapple maze in Hawaii.” “On my back in a Corolla on…

Riese

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Apr 30, 2015
SEX

Lesbian Sex Gets Women Off At Astronomical Rates, Our Sex Survey Shows

High femmes, women over 35 and people in relationships orgasm a whole lot during sex…

Riese

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Apr 29, 2015
QUEER FASHION

Here Are Your Very Queer Underwear-Wearing Habits

The Ultimate Lesbian Sex Survey knows what you’ve got on underneath those jeans, and how…

Riese

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Apr 24, 2015
SEX

41 Feelings You Had About Scissoring

How many of you scissor on the regular? And how many of you remain convinced…

Riese

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Apr 19, 2015
SEX

50 Fascinating Things You Really Wanted Us To Know About How You Have Sex

“I say a lot of things about myself during sex that I would not say…

Riese

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Apr 14, 2015
SEX

Queer Women Masturbate More Than Straight Women, Our Sex Survey Says

On the masturbation practices of the 8,566 humans who took our Ultimate Lesbian Sex Survey…

Riese

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Apr 13, 2015
SEX

The 100 Gayest Places You’ve Had Sex

” The back of a Jeep next to a beaver pond. That’s right. Beaver. Pond.…

Riese

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Apr 8, 2015
SEX

How Often Do Queer Women Have Sex?

We’ve got all the numbers on how often you have sex from our Ultimate Lesbian…

Riese

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Mar 30, 2015
SEX

26 Bits Of Solid Sex Advice You Gave Us On Autostraddle’s Lesbosexy Sex Survey

20. WASH YOUR HANDS IF YOU ATE BUFFALO WINGS BEFORE GETTING LAID, OMG.

Ryan Yates

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Feb 24, 2015

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Do You Love Porn and the Toy Story Franchise? Well, I Have Some Great News!

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