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breakups

Is it Okay To Write an Apology Letter To an Ex? 10 Queers Weigh In

The concept of the Breakup Apology Letter is a controversial one! Where do you land?

the team

Oct 13, 2025

A girl wearing a facemask inside a dimly-lit indoor space lifts open the space between two slats of window blinds to tentatively peer out

love + sex

I Spent All of Quarantine Craving a Crush – Post-Vaccination, I’ll Have to Discover What I Really Want

Am I excited for the backdrops of my stories to vary? To have more sex? To meet people in real life? To fuck a couple and leave? To fly to…

Drew Burnett Gregory

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Apr 22, 2021

Two older women, Marie Giardino and Michaeljon Blue, sit next to each other at the Hornell Gardens nursing home. Blue is in a wheelchair.

society + culture

They Planned to Grow Old Together

In upstate New York, a nursing home eviction due to a debt has indefinitely separated two women’s enduring love by 80 miles.

Grey Moran

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Apr 22, 2021

A woman with glasses and a ponytail leans back on a couch, scrolling on a phone displaying the Struck dating app on the screen

love + sex

Dating Download: Three Lesbians Try Dating App Struck and Leave It to the Stars

“I was very turned on by the concept as I have made very public that I am on the hunt for a Taurus wife.”

the team

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Apr 20, 2021

A Black femme with a pink Versailles wig and hot pink thigh high stockings posing on a flowered chaise.

love + sex

Mondo Fetiche Doesn’t See Why Queer Porn Can’t Also Be Arthouse Cinema

Billed as artcore fetish film and “a creative love affair between modern kink and vintage cult cinema,” Mondo Fetiche’s popping color palettes and self-aware cultural pastiches add a fascinating new…

Rachel

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Apr 20, 2021

A photo of moving boxes, a small lamp and small potted plant stacked up against a wall.

love + sex

After a Crash Course in Cohabitation, My Pandemic Relationship Will Have to Weather Outside Socialization

“I usually have an anxious attachment style, and it has moved toward becoming more secure during the pandemic, but that could shift again as we start to spend more time…

Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya

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Apr 19, 2021

Chocolate Chip and Tastee Treasures

nsfw sunday

NSFW Lesbosexy Sunday Is Taking Nudes

How to take great nudes, a new way to learn shibari, how dating is changing and more.

Ryan Yates

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Apr 18, 2021

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love + sex

VIDEO: Learn All About Sex Toys with Archie Bongiovanni

What are good sex toys for use by fat or disabled folks? What’s a good dildo that stimulates your clit? Which is the best beginner vibrator? Archie covers all this…

The Editors

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Apr 14, 2021

A person in a denim jacket with short, partially shaved hair touches noses with a person in a white shirt with slightly longer hair

sex

You Need Help: How Do I Explore Casual Sex If I’m Demisexual?

If you’re feeling sexual desire for friends or if you like the idea of a “friends with benefits” situation, then it seems that most widely-accepted definition of “demisexual” still encompasses…

Ro White

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Apr 13, 2021

Sex Toy Reviews

Do You Love Porn and the Toy Story Franchise? Well, I Have Some Great News!

You've got a friend IN me?

Drew Burnett Gregory

Sex Toy Story: An animated butt plug looks sad

movie reviews

The Vesper Is a Vibrator Doubling as a Necklace Doubling as the Wingman I Didn’t Know I Needed

The whole vibrator-as-necklace thing might seem gimmicky, but the Vesper genuinely looks like a decent piece of androgynous jewelry.

Guest

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Jun 8, 2023

7 Sex Toys for Fat, Queer Sex and Masturbation

As fat folks, we have to get creative in the bedroom. Fortunately, there are plenty of toys that can help you have your best fat, queer sex with yourself or with…

Kelly J.

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Jun 5, 2023

The Roslyn Bodysuit Harness and the B.Cush Made Me Feel Hot and Horny

I took the advice of wise strappers before me and wore the harness and b.cush around the house for a while.

Guest

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May 18, 2023

Meet the Proud Pervs Behind Bedroom Besties, a New Gender-Inclusive Sex Toy Company

Bedroom Besties saw a gap in sex toy marketing. “We realized we could fill that hole — pun fully intended.”

Ro White

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May 15, 2023

How We Have Lesbian Sex

two women lying in bed with heads on stomach

Lesbian Sex: Your 15 Favorite Ways To Have It

Riese

Mar 1, 2024

SEX

13 Reasons Women In Lesbian Relationships Aren’t Having (More) Sex

“Lesbian bed death” does happen, and many lesbians feel they’re not having enough sex. But…

Riese

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Jul 28, 2023
SEX

Is Period Sex The Ultimate Lesbian Sexual Indicator?

People who want to have period sex have more and varied sex more often and…

Ryan Yates

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Feb 8, 2016
RELATIONSHIPS

You Need Help: Is She “The One”?

HOW WILL YOU EVER KNOW?

Ryan Yates

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Aug 24, 2015
SEX

87% Of Queer Women Are Into Porn or Erotica, But Not All Of It Is Lesbionic

Our latest round of results from the 2015 Ultimate Lesbian Sex Survey is all about…

Riese

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Jun 18, 2015
SEX

Here’s The Salacious Sex Statistics On Queer Women In Non-monogamous vs. Monogamous Relationships

Everything you ever wanted to know about the sex lives of the monogamous, non-monogamous, and…

Riese

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Jun 9, 2015
SEX

When Did You Do It For The First Time and How Many People Have You Done It With, Huh?

Oh you know, just the answers to everybody’s favorite two questions ever.

Riese

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May 19, 2015
SEX

Women’s Best Bet For A Synced-Up Sex Schedule Is Lesbianism

A new survey finds that men and women like having sex at totally different times…

Riese

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May 12, 2015
HEALTH

Why You Should Care About Lesbian Safer Sex (And What To Do About It)

If sexual health isn’t relevant to your interests yet, it should be.

Christy Duan

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May 5, 2015
SEX

The 100 Most Ambitious Places You’ve Had Sex

“Lost in the Dole pineapple maze in Hawaii.” “On my back in a Corolla on…

Riese

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Apr 30, 2015
SEX

Lesbian Sex Gets Women Off At Astronomical Rates, Our Sex Survey Shows

High femmes, women over 35 and people in relationships orgasm a whole lot during sex…

Riese

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Apr 29, 2015
QUEER FASHION

Here Are Your Very Queer Underwear-Wearing Habits

The Ultimate Lesbian Sex Survey knows what you’ve got on underneath those jeans, and how…

Riese

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Apr 24, 2015
SEX

41 Feelings You Had About Scissoring

How many of you scissor on the regular? And how many of you remain convinced…

Riese

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Apr 19, 2015
SEX

50 Fascinating Things You Really Wanted Us To Know About How You Have Sex

“I say a lot of things about myself during sex that I would not say…

Riese

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Apr 14, 2015
SEX

Queer Women Masturbate More Than Straight Women, Our Sex Survey Says

On the masturbation practices of the 8,566 humans who took our Ultimate Lesbian Sex Survey…

Riese

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Apr 13, 2015
SEX

The 100 Gayest Places You’ve Had Sex

” The back of a Jeep next to a beaver pond. That’s right. Beaver. Pond.…

Riese

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Apr 8, 2015
SEX

How Often Do Queer Women Have Sex?

We’ve got all the numbers on how often you have sex from our Ultimate Lesbian…

Riese

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Mar 30, 2015
SEX

26 Bits Of Solid Sex Advice You Gave Us On Autostraddle’s Lesbosexy Sex Survey

20. WASH YOUR HANDS IF YOU ATE BUFFALO WINGS BEFORE GETTING LAID, OMG.

Ryan Yates

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Feb 24, 2015

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