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Why Are So Many Trans Mascs Pups?

When a couple trans masc friends are into pup play, it’s a coincidence. When half of the trans men I…

Max Gross

Apr 24, 2024

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I Unicorned for a Couple at a Quirky Rural Swingers Club

I wasn’t going to turn down the chance to explore a massive swinger lodge that’s…

Nico

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Feb 11, 2024

a young East Asian woman with bangs has her face shrouded in shadow

LOVE + SEX

You Need Help: Am I Being Unreasonable for Feeling Undesired by My Girlfriend?

I think the topic of Asian desire doesn’t get nuanced attention often enough.

himani

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Jul 4, 2023

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How to Have Sex With a Transmasculine Partner

Transmasc people have our own unique desires and boundaries in bed, just like everyone else.

Quinn Rhodes

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Jun 12, 2023

four abstractly illustrated figures engage in a celebratory kinky dance. from left to right we have someone with top surgery scars wearing assless chaps, connected bvia a pair of cuffs to a person who is blindfolded and wearing cut out underwear, who is dancing next to someone in a mask and what appears to abe a full body rope bind, and followed by a person in a fishnet, corset and ballgag waving a flogger above their head. The figures are featureless and hairless and purple and the kink elements are red

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How to Find Local Kink Community and Also How to Hire a Sex Worker

“There’re contingencies of queer freaks everywhere, sometimes it just takes a little more effort.”

Vanessa

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Sep 22, 2022

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I Unicorned for a Couple at a Quirky Rural Swingers Club

I wasn’t going to turn down the chance to explore a massive swinger lodge that’s been in operation since the 1970’s.

Nico —

Feb 11, 2024

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You Need Help: Am I Being Unreasonable for Feeling Undesired by My Girlfriend?

I think the topic of Asian desire doesn’t get nuanced attention often enough.

himani —

Jul 4, 2023

love + sex

How to Have Sex With a Transmasculine Partner

Transmasc people have our own unique desires and boundaries in bed, just like everyone else.

Quinn Rhodes —

Jun 12, 2023

personal essay

trans lesbian sex

lesbian dating apps

I Tried New Trans Dating App Fiori and All I Got Was This Personal Essay

“She admired my tits like only someone else on estrogen could and then she grabbed them harder than anyone had before.”

Drew Burnett Gregory —

Mar 9, 2020

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NSFW Lesbosexy Sunday Is Horny on Main

Why everyone is so horny on main lately, kissing and safer sex in the age of coronavirus, a better way to store your nudes and more.

Ryan Yates —

Mar 8, 2020

I Think We're Alone Now

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Selfies Are Gonna Save The World

If we all spent more time taking selfies can you IMAGINE the confidence of the queer community at large? We would be unstoppable.

Vanessa —

Mar 6, 2020

I Think We're Alone Now

lesbian sex

How to Get a Girl to Not Sleep Over

Sleepovers are overrated.

Ryan Yates —

Mar 6, 2020

I Think We're Alone Now

personal essay

breakups

Courting Loneliness

It was like saving a seat on the bus for someone who routinely happened to never show up. It was like setting the table for someone who decided to eat…

Kamala Puligandla —

Mar 5, 2020

101s

I Think We're Alone Now

breakups

Breakups and Being Alone 101: The Autostraddle Guide To Life After Love

We’ve got advice on breakups and exes, playlists to see you through, unhinged behavior we highly recommend and so much more from the annals of Autostraddle’s achy breaky hearts.

Riese —

Mar 4, 2020

I Think We're Alone Now

love is a lie

breakups

How Social Media Fucked Up Lesbian Breakup Culture

Breakups are so often garbage and hard, and managing the social media that surrounds it is just another gross layer that makes them even more garbage and even harder.

Rachel —

Mar 4, 2020

I Think We're Alone Now

dating

Dealing With Rejection as a Single Woman

It’s so easy to take a “no” personal and use it as justification to question your worth. However, there are a number of ways to intervene before this happens, and…

danijanae —

Mar 3, 2020

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How I Learned To Enjoy Receiving (In Honor of ‘The Giver’)

If a stone top likes "The Giver" and it resonates with them, I think that’s beautiful. But to call Chappell a stone top and the song a stone top anthem? A reach!

motti

Chappell Roan as a plumber, construction worker, lawyer, dentist, and detective in promo art for The Giver

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I Forgive Myself for My Past Situationships and I’ma Keep Having Them

I’ve known for a long time that my mom’s lack of emotional availability was a setup for my romantic relationships.

Fatima Kay —

Mar 4, 2025

Are You a Two Fingers or a Thumb Lesbian?

At the end of the day, being a “two fingers” or a “thumb” lesbian isn’t just about physical technique; it’s about preference, pleasure, and the way you connect with your…

Carlo —

Feb 26, 2025

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you need help

‘I’m a Sexually Inexperienced Stud Afraid of Doing It Wrong’

“Honestly I know I’m straight up lesbian ( stud ) and I’ve been in a few relationships with girls and I always ended it when things were about to get…

Summer Tao —

Feb 25, 2025

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‘My Wife and I Haven’t Had Sex in Almost Two Years’

“We still kiss, cuddle, and go on dates, but that’s as intimate as it gets.”

Summer Tao —

Feb 18, 2025

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Why Are So Many Trans Mascs Pups?

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I Unicorned for a Couple at a Quirky Rural Swingers Club

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You Need Help: Am I Being Unreasonable for Feeling Undesired by My Girlfriend?

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How to Have Sex With a Transmasculine Partner

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How to Find Local Kink Community and Also How to Hire a Sex Worker

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I Unicorned for a Couple at a Quirky Rural Swingers Club

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You Need Help: Am I Being Unreasonable for Feeling Undesired by My Girlfriend?

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How to Have Sex With a Transmasculine Partner

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