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breakups

Is it Okay To Write an Apology Letter To an Ex? 10 Queers Weigh In

The concept of the Breakup Apology Letter is a controversial one! Where do you land?

the team

Oct 13, 2025

a triptych featuring three queer people in sexy situations - frame one is a girl laying back with her arms behind her head and a book on her chest, frame two is a person on their knees, holding up a puzzle piece with their butt in the air, frame 3 is two hands with painted fingernails, one of the hands has on a finger extender

dating

Love After Lockdown: 7 Hot Dates to Make Things IRL with Your Pandemic Crush Post-Quarantine

You and your cyber cutie have probably gone from simple sexting to full-on virtual sex and maybe have seen each others toy or two – but what about exploring something…

Guest

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Sep 5, 2020

A collaged image of photos of four Autostraddle staffers - Drew, Shelli, Kayla and Kamala from L to R - posing in outfits with a stylized pink lens flare

love + sex

7 Hot Queers and Their Go-To First Date Outfits

The best advice for a first date is always to be yourself; obviously you’re also interested in being the hottest, most unforgettable version of yourself. A good first date outfit…

the team

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Sep 3, 2020

collage image of orange marigold flowers carpeting the space between two thighs, smaller flowers scattered up on the thighs. a dewy green mango leaf in the background.

love + sex

Anatomy Of A Mango: Seed

Because of the positive affirmation I received during sex, I began to believe it was all I was good for. When people wanted me, I assumed it was my job…

danijanae

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Sep 2, 2020

A collage of sex toys, including an array of glass dildos, nipple rings, a stainless steel wand toy and a stainless steel butt plug, all edited with a cool blue cast

love + sex

Get Hot, Stay Cool for the Summer with 8 Sex Toys Perfect for Temperature Play

Whether you’re getting sweaty solo or have a partner in quarantine you can’t keep your hands off no matter how hot it gets, it’s a good time to bring some…

Rachel

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Sep 1, 2020

Two women in bed, not speaking with or looking at each other.

relationships

You Need Help: My Partner and I Have Different Sex Drives

You can’t change your partner, or her sex drive. All you can change is the situation you’re in.

Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya

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Sep 1, 2020

Niecy Nash getting gay married to new wife Jessica Betts. Niecy is in a white mermaid gone and Jessica wears a white suit and matching sneakers.

celebrities (vapid fluff)

NIECY NASH DONE WENT AND GOT GAY MARRIED

Yes. Niecy Nash got gay married. Love wins!!

Ari

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Aug 31, 2020

Golden Curlz, kneeling on a bed

nsfw sunday

NSFW Lesbosexy Sunday Is Anxious and Polyamorous

When you’re poly and anxious, when you learn to show yourself the love you show others, the new cuffing season and more.

Ryan Yates

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Aug 30, 2020

Anonymous Sex Toy Review: The CRAVE Duet Pro Build-A-Vibe Experience

love + sex

Anonymous Sex Toy Review: The CRAVE Duet Pro Build-A-Vibe Experience

Today three different Autostraddle writers review and compare their takes on Crave’s Duet Pro assembled at home via their limited-time Build-A-Vibe Experience. Each were sent Build-A-Vibe kits from Crave and…

Guest

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Aug 28, 2020

Sex Toy Reviews

Do You Love Porn and the Toy Story Franchise? Well, I Have Some Great News!

You've got a friend IN me?

Drew Burnett Gregory

Sex Toy Story: An animated butt plug looks sad

movie reviews

The Vesper Is a Vibrator Doubling as a Necklace Doubling as the Wingman I Didn’t Know I Needed

The whole vibrator-as-necklace thing might seem gimmicky, but the Vesper genuinely looks like a decent piece of androgynous jewelry.

Guest

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Jun 8, 2023

7 Sex Toys for Fat, Queer Sex and Masturbation

As fat folks, we have to get creative in the bedroom. Fortunately, there are plenty of toys that can help you have your best fat, queer sex with yourself or with…

Kelly J.

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Jun 5, 2023

The Roslyn Bodysuit Harness and the B.Cush Made Me Feel Hot and Horny

I took the advice of wise strappers before me and wore the harness and b.cush around the house for a while.

Guest

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May 18, 2023

Meet the Proud Pervs Behind Bedroom Besties, a New Gender-Inclusive Sex Toy Company

Bedroom Besties saw a gap in sex toy marketing. “We realized we could fill that hole — pun fully intended.”

Ro White

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May 15, 2023

How We Have Lesbian Sex

two women lying in bed with heads on stomach

Lesbian Sex: Your 15 Favorite Ways To Have It

Riese

Mar 1, 2024

SEX

13 Reasons Women In Lesbian Relationships Aren’t Having (More) Sex

“Lesbian bed death” does happen, and many lesbians feel they’re not having enough sex. But…

Riese

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Jul 28, 2023
SEX

Is Period Sex The Ultimate Lesbian Sexual Indicator?

People who want to have period sex have more and varied sex more often and…

Ryan Yates

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Feb 8, 2016
RELATIONSHIPS

You Need Help: Is She “The One”?

HOW WILL YOU EVER KNOW?

Ryan Yates

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Aug 24, 2015
SEX

87% Of Queer Women Are Into Porn or Erotica, But Not All Of It Is Lesbionic

Our latest round of results from the 2015 Ultimate Lesbian Sex Survey is all about…

Riese

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Jun 18, 2015
SEX

Here’s The Salacious Sex Statistics On Queer Women In Non-monogamous vs. Monogamous Relationships

Everything you ever wanted to know about the sex lives of the monogamous, non-monogamous, and…

Riese

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Jun 9, 2015
SEX

When Did You Do It For The First Time and How Many People Have You Done It With, Huh?

Oh you know, just the answers to everybody’s favorite two questions ever.

Riese

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May 19, 2015
SEX

Women’s Best Bet For A Synced-Up Sex Schedule Is Lesbianism

A new survey finds that men and women like having sex at totally different times…

Riese

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May 12, 2015
HEALTH

Why You Should Care About Lesbian Safer Sex (And What To Do About It)

If sexual health isn’t relevant to your interests yet, it should be.

Christy Duan

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May 5, 2015
SEX

The 100 Most Ambitious Places You’ve Had Sex

“Lost in the Dole pineapple maze in Hawaii.” “On my back in a Corolla on…

Riese

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Apr 30, 2015
SEX

Lesbian Sex Gets Women Off At Astronomical Rates, Our Sex Survey Shows

High femmes, women over 35 and people in relationships orgasm a whole lot during sex…

Riese

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Apr 29, 2015
QUEER FASHION

Here Are Your Very Queer Underwear-Wearing Habits

The Ultimate Lesbian Sex Survey knows what you’ve got on underneath those jeans, and how…

Riese

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Apr 24, 2015
SEX

41 Feelings You Had About Scissoring

How many of you scissor on the regular? And how many of you remain convinced…

Riese

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Apr 19, 2015
SEX

50 Fascinating Things You Really Wanted Us To Know About How You Have Sex

“I say a lot of things about myself during sex that I would not say…

Riese

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Apr 14, 2015
SEX

Queer Women Masturbate More Than Straight Women, Our Sex Survey Says

On the masturbation practices of the 8,566 humans who took our Ultimate Lesbian Sex Survey…

Riese

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Apr 13, 2015
SEX

The 100 Gayest Places You’ve Had Sex

” The back of a Jeep next to a beaver pond. That’s right. Beaver. Pond.…

Riese

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Apr 8, 2015
SEX

How Often Do Queer Women Have Sex?

We’ve got all the numbers on how often you have sex from our Ultimate Lesbian…

Riese

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Mar 30, 2015
SEX

26 Bits Of Solid Sex Advice You Gave Us On Autostraddle’s Lesbosexy Sex Survey

20. WASH YOUR HANDS IF YOU ATE BUFFALO WINGS BEFORE GETTING LAID, OMG.

Ryan Yates

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Feb 24, 2015

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