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How to Find Local Kink Community and Also How to Hire a Sex Worker

“There’re contingencies of queer freaks everywhere, sometimes it just takes a little more effort.”

Vanessa

Sep 22, 2022

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NSFW Lesbosexy Sunday Is A Weighted Blanket Sex Dream

Having sex dreams under weighted blankets, what to do if you forget how to focus on a conversation, coconut oil is not the best lube, whether closure sex is real…

Ryan Yates —

Dec 20, 2020

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S L I C K: Raincheck Part 1

You are just picking up Naomi. Your very good friend, Naomi, whom you have only not-so-jokingly offered to take up on her not-so-joking offer to fuck for a decade. She…

Jasmine —

Dec 17, 2020

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Holigay Gift Guide: Sex Toys for All Sensations

Today, toys are less about a harder better faster stronger version of more of the same, and all about the different ways it’s possible to experience pleasure and sensation.

Ryan Yates —

Dec 16, 2020

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Merry Fistmas and a Happy New Transcript!

We have the transcript as well as links to any products that were shown during Merry Fistmas: A Virtual Vaginal Fisting Workshop, AND the link to the recording, all wrapped…

Nico —

Dec 15, 2020

A woman in a white T-shirt with long, black hair holds her hand to her forehead and looks out the window.

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You Need Help: My Partner’s Pandemic Practices Suck and I Want to Break Up

Transmitting a deadly virus doesn’t exactly say “I love you,” so it makes sense that this particular conflict is bringing up big questions about your relationship.

Ro White —

Dec 15, 2020

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NSFW Sunday Knows What’s Up With Pornhub

What’s happening with Pornhub? Plus, whether a huge variety of sex positions is worth it, lesbian age-gap relationship discourse, another devastating pandemic loss and more.

Ryan Yates —

Dec 13, 2020

A collage of a variety of brightly colored sex toys

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Holigay Gift Guide: Sexy Gifts Based on Quarantine Style

It’s time to normalize giving sex toys as gifts, and not just to partners. Everyone’s stuck at home anyway!

Ryan Yates —

Dec 12, 2020

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Allison Moon’s “Getting It” Is the Casual Sex Guide You Didn’t Know You Needed

Allison Moon’s Getting It: A Guide to Hot, Healthy Hookups and Shame-Free Sex is about more than scissoring strangers — it’s about cultivating self-awareness and sexual self-esteem. Hookup culture might…

Ro White —

Dec 9, 2020

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Is it Okay To Write an Apology Letter To an Ex? 10 Queers Weigh In

The concept of the Breakup Apology Letter is a controversial one! Where do you land?

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What’s a Normal Human Behavior That Gives You the Ick?

Listen, did we have a little TOO MUCH FUN ranting about our various icks? Maybe so. And now you can have some fun with us, too, delving into the various…

Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya —

Jun 28, 2025

Working Girls: Luxury Escort Charlie Levine on the Rise of Women Clients In Sex Work

“Women are so socialized — successfully or not — to be objects of desire, not subjects of desire, on a sexual marketplace.”

Riese —

May 15, 2025

The Mid-30s Divorcées Who Once Built a Sex Throne

From the friend zone to the throne room, a tale as old as time.

Sex/Life —

May 13, 2025

12 Queers on Where We Fall on the Polyamory/Monogamy Scale

Monogamy and polyamory exist on a spectrum and often aren’t fixed black-and-white categories.

Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya —

May 10, 2025

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How to Find Local Kink Community and Also How to Hire a Sex Worker

NSFW Lesbosexy Sunday Is A Weighted Blanket Sex Dream

S L I C K: Raincheck Part 1

Holigay Gift Guide: Sex Toys for All Sensations

Merry Fistmas and a Happy New Transcript!

You Need Help: My Partner’s Pandemic Practices Suck and I Want to Break Up

NSFW Sunday Knows What’s Up With Pornhub

Holigay Gift Guide: Sexy Gifts Based on Quarantine Style

Allison Moon’s “Getting It” Is the Casual Sex Guide You Didn’t Know You Needed

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Is it Okay To Write an Apology Letter To an Ex? 10 Queers Weigh In

What’s a Normal Human Behavior That Gives You the Ick?

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