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breakups

Is it Okay To Write an Apology Letter To an Ex? 10 Queers Weigh In

The concept of the Breakup Apology Letter is a controversial one! Where do you land?

the team

Oct 13, 2025

Two women standing inside a doorframe in a dark space, turning to look at each other

love + sex

You Need Help: I Thought We Were Both Switches, but My Girlfriend Won’t Touch Me

It sounds like your idea of your sexual dynamic with your girlfriend isn’t lining up with the reality of it.

Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya

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May 11, 2021

making out

nsfw sunday

NSFW Lesbosexy Sunday Is a Temporary Creature

Love is true and temporary, queer erotica about how hot it is to watch porn with a partner, post-pandemic summer safer sex and more.

Ryan Yates

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May 9, 2021

Two lesbians hold hands while laughing and sitting down. One lesbian is a brunette with a green mug and a grey shirt, one is a blonde with a flannel shirt.

friendship

You Need Help: How Do I Feel More Connected to the Lesbian Community?

This community would be so boring if we all had the same stories. And there’s no such thing as the “right” queer story.

Valerie Anne

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May 4, 2021

Two women stare at each other suggestively; one is seated and looking up, the other is kneeling above her looking down. The words Poly Probs are printed on top of the image.

love + sex

#PolyamoryProblems: How Can I Make My Primary Partner Have More Fun?

Stop trying to make your vanilla partner more kinky!

DaemonumX

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May 3, 2021

Daddy Ashley

nsfw sunday

NSFW Lesbosexy Sunday Is Sunbathing Naked

Nude beaches around the world, how to have good sex in small spaces, BDSM’s liberatory potential and more.

Ryan Yates

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May 2, 2021

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sex

You Need Help: My Partner Says I’m Awkward in Bed

“Sex requires a negotiation of boundaries that’s more explicit than it is in other contexts, so it can be easier to see it when those boundaries are broken. But if…

Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya

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Apr 27, 2021

A composite of three photos; L to R: Heather holding her vaccine card and sticker; Heather and Stacy taking a selfie together outdoors with masks on; Stacy holding her vaccine sticker up next to a cat

first person

When I Got COVID, My Wife and I Went Through It Together; How Will Things Change When She Returns to the Office?

“We probably won’t be together this much again until we’re both retired, and even though it has been, at times, harder than anything either of us could have imagined when…

Heather Hogan

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Apr 27, 2021

Ashley and Ava on the Bench from Mondo Fetiche

nsfw sunday

NSFW Lesbosexy Sunday Is Training for Butt Sex

A small victory for sex work, how to anal train, how to date if you’re not sexually experienced, and more.

Ryan Yates

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Apr 25, 2021

Sex Toy Reviews

Do You Love Porn and the Toy Story Franchise? Well, I Have Some Great News!

You've got a friend IN me?

Drew Burnett Gregory

Sex Toy Story: An animated butt plug looks sad

movie reviews

The Vesper Is a Vibrator Doubling as a Necklace Doubling as the Wingman I Didn’t Know I Needed

The whole vibrator-as-necklace thing might seem gimmicky, but the Vesper genuinely looks like a decent piece of androgynous jewelry.

Guest

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Jun 8, 2023

7 Sex Toys for Fat, Queer Sex and Masturbation

As fat folks, we have to get creative in the bedroom. Fortunately, there are plenty of toys that can help you have your best fat, queer sex with yourself or with…

Kelly J.

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Jun 5, 2023

The Roslyn Bodysuit Harness and the B.Cush Made Me Feel Hot and Horny

I took the advice of wise strappers before me and wore the harness and b.cush around the house for a while.

Guest

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May 18, 2023

Meet the Proud Pervs Behind Bedroom Besties, a New Gender-Inclusive Sex Toy Company

Bedroom Besties saw a gap in sex toy marketing. “We realized we could fill that hole — pun fully intended.”

Ro White

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May 15, 2023

How We Have Lesbian Sex

two women lying in bed with heads on stomach

Lesbian Sex: Your 15 Favorite Ways To Have It

Riese

Mar 1, 2024

SEX

13 Reasons Women In Lesbian Relationships Aren’t Having (More) Sex

“Lesbian bed death” does happen, and many lesbians feel they’re not having enough sex. But…

Riese

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Jul 28, 2023
SEX

Is Period Sex The Ultimate Lesbian Sexual Indicator?

People who want to have period sex have more and varied sex more often and…

Ryan Yates

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Feb 8, 2016
RELATIONSHIPS

You Need Help: Is She “The One”?

HOW WILL YOU EVER KNOW?

Ryan Yates

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Aug 24, 2015
SEX

87% Of Queer Women Are Into Porn or Erotica, But Not All Of It Is Lesbionic

Our latest round of results from the 2015 Ultimate Lesbian Sex Survey is all about…

Riese

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Jun 18, 2015
SEX

Here’s The Salacious Sex Statistics On Queer Women In Non-monogamous vs. Monogamous Relationships

Everything you ever wanted to know about the sex lives of the monogamous, non-monogamous, and…

Riese

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Jun 9, 2015
SEX

When Did You Do It For The First Time and How Many People Have You Done It With, Huh?

Oh you know, just the answers to everybody’s favorite two questions ever.

Riese

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May 19, 2015
SEX

Women’s Best Bet For A Synced-Up Sex Schedule Is Lesbianism

A new survey finds that men and women like having sex at totally different times…

Riese

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May 12, 2015
HEALTH

Why You Should Care About Lesbian Safer Sex (And What To Do About It)

If sexual health isn’t relevant to your interests yet, it should be.

Christy Duan

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May 5, 2015
SEX

The 100 Most Ambitious Places You’ve Had Sex

“Lost in the Dole pineapple maze in Hawaii.” “On my back in a Corolla on…

Riese

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Apr 30, 2015
SEX

Lesbian Sex Gets Women Off At Astronomical Rates, Our Sex Survey Shows

High femmes, women over 35 and people in relationships orgasm a whole lot during sex…

Riese

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Apr 29, 2015
QUEER FASHION

Here Are Your Very Queer Underwear-Wearing Habits

The Ultimate Lesbian Sex Survey knows what you’ve got on underneath those jeans, and how…

Riese

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Apr 24, 2015
SEX

41 Feelings You Had About Scissoring

How many of you scissor on the regular? And how many of you remain convinced…

Riese

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Apr 19, 2015
SEX

50 Fascinating Things You Really Wanted Us To Know About How You Have Sex

“I say a lot of things about myself during sex that I would not say…

Riese

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Apr 14, 2015
SEX

Queer Women Masturbate More Than Straight Women, Our Sex Survey Says

On the masturbation practices of the 8,566 humans who took our Ultimate Lesbian Sex Survey…

Riese

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Apr 13, 2015
SEX

The 100 Gayest Places You’ve Had Sex

” The back of a Jeep next to a beaver pond. That’s right. Beaver. Pond.…

Riese

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Apr 8, 2015
SEX

How Often Do Queer Women Have Sex?

We’ve got all the numbers on how often you have sex from our Ultimate Lesbian…

Riese

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Mar 30, 2015
SEX

26 Bits Of Solid Sex Advice You Gave Us On Autostraddle’s Lesbosexy Sex Survey

20. WASH YOUR HANDS IF YOU ATE BUFFALO WINGS BEFORE GETTING LAID, OMG.

Ryan Yates

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Feb 24, 2015

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