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Why Are So Many Trans Mascs Pups?

When a couple trans masc friends are into pup play, it’s a coincidence. When half of the trans men I…

Max Gross

Apr 24, 2024

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I Unicorned for a Couple at a Quirky Rural Swingers Club

I wasn’t going to turn down the chance to explore a massive swinger lodge that’s…

Nico

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Feb 11, 2024

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You Need Help: Am I Being Unreasonable for Feeling Undesired by My Girlfriend?

I think the topic of Asian desire doesn’t get nuanced attention often enough.

himani

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Jul 4, 2023

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How to Have Sex With a Transmasculine Partner

Transmasc people have our own unique desires and boundaries in bed, just like everyone else.

Quinn Rhodes

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Jun 12, 2023

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How to Find Local Kink Community and Also How to Hire a Sex Worker

“There’re contingencies of queer freaks everywhere, sometimes it just takes a little more effort.”

Vanessa

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Sep 22, 2022

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I Unicorned for a Couple at a Quirky Rural Swingers Club

I wasn’t going to turn down the chance to explore a massive swinger lodge that’s been in operation since the 1970’s.

Nico —

Feb 11, 2024

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You Need Help: Am I Being Unreasonable for Feeling Undesired by My Girlfriend?

I think the topic of Asian desire doesn’t get nuanced attention often enough.

himani —

Jul 4, 2023

love + sex

How to Have Sex With a Transmasculine Partner

Transmasc people have our own unique desires and boundaries in bed, just like everyone else.

Quinn Rhodes —

Jun 12, 2023

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You Need Help: Your Partner Won’t Give You Space

She’s isolating you from the things that make you a capable, confident, well-rounded person, and when you adhere to her rules, you’re enabling codependency.

Ro White —

Jan 5, 2021

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#PolyamoryProblems: How to Deal With a Closeted Partner

Feeling made invisible by your own partner’s choices to not come out as both queer and polyamorous is tough. This edition of #PolyamoryProblems dives into how to deal with a…

DaemonumX —

Jan 4, 2021

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NSFW Lesbosexy Sunday Will See You On Pandemic Tinder

Consider this: Serial monogamy should be more of a red flag than gaps in your dating history. Also, pandemic Tinder is good, there’s now an app for large online orgies,…

Ryan Yates —

Jan 3, 2021

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Beating Hart, C’est La Vie, and Cinnamon Maxxine

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NSFW Lesbosexy Sunday Can’t Stop Talking About The Sex Content Purge

More on the impact of the Pornhub content purge, plus some of what’s going on at Instagram and Tik Tok. Also: the dream a horny post-lockdown rampage, why clit pumps…

Ryan Yates —

Dec 27, 2020

13 Days of A+

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S L I C K: The Ass That Ate Back

Tanya wasn’t the kind of queer to make the first move, generally speaking, but that night was different. Marianne was different. She seemed more than interested in what Tanya had…

Penitence Wetly —

Dec 24, 2020

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Anonymous Sex Toy Review: Baci

These three Autostraddle writers tried out Baci, a “premium robotic clitoral massager” by Lora DiCarlo that’s meant to mimic oral sex. Here’s how our clits are doing now!

Guest —

Dec 22, 2020

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NSFW Lesbosexy Sunday Is A Weighted Blanket Sex Dream

Having sex dreams under weighted blankets, what to do if you forget how to focus on a conversation, coconut oil is not the best lube, whether closure sex is real…

Ryan Yates —

Dec 20, 2020

13 Days of A+

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S L I C K: Raincheck Part 1

You are just picking up Naomi. Your very good friend, Naomi, whom you have only not-so-jokingly offered to take up on her not-so-joking offer to fuck for a decade. She…

Jasmine —

Dec 17, 2020

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How I Learned To Enjoy Receiving (In Honor of ‘The Giver’)

If a stone top likes "The Giver" and it resonates with them, I think that’s beautiful. But to call Chappell a stone top and the song a stone top anthem? A reach!

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I Forgive Myself for My Past Situationships and I’ma Keep Having Them

I’ve known for a long time that my mom’s lack of emotional availability was a setup for my romantic relationships.

Fatima Kay —

Mar 4, 2025

Are You a Two Fingers or a Thumb Lesbian?

At the end of the day, being a “two fingers” or a “thumb” lesbian isn’t just about physical technique; it’s about preference, pleasure, and the way you connect with your…

Carlo —

Feb 26, 2025

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‘I’m a Sexually Inexperienced Stud Afraid of Doing It Wrong’

“Honestly I know I’m straight up lesbian ( stud ) and I’ve been in a few relationships with girls and I always ended it when things were about to get…

Summer Tao —

Feb 25, 2025

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‘My Wife and I Haven’t Had Sex in Almost Two Years’

“We still kiss, cuddle, and go on dates, but that’s as intimate as it gets.”

Summer Tao —

Feb 18, 2025

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Why Are So Many Trans Mascs Pups?

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I Unicorned for a Couple at a Quirky Rural Swingers Club

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You Need Help: Am I Being Unreasonable for Feeling Undesired by My Girlfriend?

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How to Have Sex With a Transmasculine Partner

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How to Find Local Kink Community and Also How to Hire a Sex Worker

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I Unicorned for a Couple at a Quirky Rural Swingers Club

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You Need Help: Am I Being Unreasonable for Feeling Undesired by My Girlfriend?

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How to Have Sex With a Transmasculine Partner

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