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breakups

Is it Okay To Write an Apology Letter To an Ex? 10 Queers Weigh In

The concept of the Breakup Apology Letter is a controversial one! Where do you land?

the team

Oct 13, 2025

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relationships

You Need Help: Your Straight Partner Is a Great Ally – But His Parents Aren’t

Setting up boundaries around family members can be a complicated and painful thing, but doing so without the support of your partner will likely be more difficult, and could potentially…

meg

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Jul 20, 2021

Mistress Datura, Vanniall

nsfw sunday

NSFW Lesbosexy Sunday Is A Nihilistic Slut

85% of queers met their partners by being friends first, how to slow date, how to hide nudes on your phone and more.

Ryan Yates

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Jul 18, 2021

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relationships

Dating a Librarian Is The Best Thing To Happen To My Bookshelves

What dating a librarian and fellow writer taught me about organization and intimacy.

Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya

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Jul 14, 2021

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dating

You Need Help: How Do I Find Nerdy Women to Date?

Queer people so often have to reimagine and carve out our own spaces, rejecting the dominant narratives hurled at us.

Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya

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Jul 13, 2021

Brooklyn Leather Rascals

nsfw sunday

NSFW Lesbosexy Sunday Is Super Into PDA Now

It’s time to make out. Plus, gender-neutral sex tech, just break up if you want to break up, how to talk dirty and more.

Ryan Yates

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Jul 11, 2021

A still from a Crash Pad episode in which we can see from behind one person wearing only a two-strap leather-style harness straddling a second person lying on a bed

af+

Here’s Your Full Video Workshop Breaking Down Everything You Need to Know for Strap-On Sex

The latest in Queer Sex 101, our series of real live queer people teaching you everything you need to know about real queer sex continues, with a one-hour workshop from…

Rachel

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Jul 9, 2021

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relationships

Is It My Partner’s Mental Illness Affecting Our Relationship – Or Abuse?

If you feel like a relationship is taking you away from yourself, if it’s making you sad and anxious, if it makes you doubt yourself… that information is more important…

Christina Tesoro

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Jul 8, 2021

An illustration of two 50's-styled women whispering to each other; a bubble above their heads shows they're talking about the Love Hamma, a vibrator shaped like a realistic hammer with a hammer head on one end and a slightly curved shaft on the other where a hammer's handle would be.

sex toys

Anonymous Sex Toy Review: The Love Hamma Thrusting Vibrator

Lifting the pink Love Hamma Thrusting Vibrator from its packaging unlocked something deep inside me. A need I hadn’t realized existed. A dyke dream previously unnamed. I wanted to get…

Guest

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Jul 8, 2021

Sex Toy Reviews

Do You Love Porn and the Toy Story Franchise? Well, I Have Some Great News!

You've got a friend IN me?

Drew Burnett Gregory

Sex Toy Story: An animated butt plug looks sad

movie reviews

The Vesper Is a Vibrator Doubling as a Necklace Doubling as the Wingman I Didn’t Know I Needed

The whole vibrator-as-necklace thing might seem gimmicky, but the Vesper genuinely looks like a decent piece of androgynous jewelry.

Guest

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Jun 8, 2023

7 Sex Toys for Fat, Queer Sex and Masturbation

As fat folks, we have to get creative in the bedroom. Fortunately, there are plenty of toys that can help you have your best fat, queer sex with yourself or with…

Kelly J.

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Jun 5, 2023

The Roslyn Bodysuit Harness and the B.Cush Made Me Feel Hot and Horny

I took the advice of wise strappers before me and wore the harness and b.cush around the house for a while.

Guest

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May 18, 2023

Meet the Proud Pervs Behind Bedroom Besties, a New Gender-Inclusive Sex Toy Company

Bedroom Besties saw a gap in sex toy marketing. “We realized we could fill that hole — pun fully intended.”

Ro White

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May 15, 2023

How We Have Lesbian Sex

two women lying in bed with heads on stomach

Lesbian Sex: Your 15 Favorite Ways To Have It

Riese

Mar 1, 2024

SEX

13 Reasons Women In Lesbian Relationships Aren’t Having (More) Sex

“Lesbian bed death” does happen, and many lesbians feel they’re not having enough sex. But…

Riese

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Jul 28, 2023
SEX

Is Period Sex The Ultimate Lesbian Sexual Indicator?

People who want to have period sex have more and varied sex more often and…

Ryan Yates

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Feb 8, 2016
RELATIONSHIPS

You Need Help: Is She “The One”?

HOW WILL YOU EVER KNOW?

Ryan Yates

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Aug 24, 2015
SEX

87% Of Queer Women Are Into Porn or Erotica, But Not All Of It Is Lesbionic

Our latest round of results from the 2015 Ultimate Lesbian Sex Survey is all about…

Riese

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Jun 18, 2015
SEX

Here’s The Salacious Sex Statistics On Queer Women In Non-monogamous vs. Monogamous Relationships

Everything you ever wanted to know about the sex lives of the monogamous, non-monogamous, and…

Riese

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Jun 9, 2015
SEX

When Did You Do It For The First Time and How Many People Have You Done It With, Huh?

Oh you know, just the answers to everybody’s favorite two questions ever.

Riese

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May 19, 2015
SEX

Women’s Best Bet For A Synced-Up Sex Schedule Is Lesbianism

A new survey finds that men and women like having sex at totally different times…

Riese

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May 12, 2015
HEALTH

Why You Should Care About Lesbian Safer Sex (And What To Do About It)

If sexual health isn’t relevant to your interests yet, it should be.

Christy Duan

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May 5, 2015
SEX

The 100 Most Ambitious Places You’ve Had Sex

“Lost in the Dole pineapple maze in Hawaii.” “On my back in a Corolla on…

Riese

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Apr 30, 2015
SEX

Lesbian Sex Gets Women Off At Astronomical Rates, Our Sex Survey Shows

High femmes, women over 35 and people in relationships orgasm a whole lot during sex…

Riese

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Apr 29, 2015
QUEER FASHION

Here Are Your Very Queer Underwear-Wearing Habits

The Ultimate Lesbian Sex Survey knows what you’ve got on underneath those jeans, and how…

Riese

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Apr 24, 2015
SEX

41 Feelings You Had About Scissoring

How many of you scissor on the regular? And how many of you remain convinced…

Riese

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Apr 19, 2015
SEX

50 Fascinating Things You Really Wanted Us To Know About How You Have Sex

“I say a lot of things about myself during sex that I would not say…

Riese

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Apr 14, 2015
SEX

Queer Women Masturbate More Than Straight Women, Our Sex Survey Says

On the masturbation practices of the 8,566 humans who took our Ultimate Lesbian Sex Survey…

Riese

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Apr 13, 2015
SEX

The 100 Gayest Places You’ve Had Sex

” The back of a Jeep next to a beaver pond. That’s right. Beaver. Pond.…

Riese

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Apr 8, 2015
SEX

How Often Do Queer Women Have Sex?

We’ve got all the numbers on how often you have sex from our Ultimate Lesbian…

Riese

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Mar 30, 2015
SEX

26 Bits Of Solid Sex Advice You Gave Us On Autostraddle’s Lesbosexy Sex Survey

20. WASH YOUR HANDS IF YOU ATE BUFFALO WINGS BEFORE GETTING LAID, OMG.

Ryan Yates

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Feb 24, 2015

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