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What’s a Normal Human Behavior That Gives You the Ick?

Listen, did we have a little TOO MUCH FUN ranting about our various icks? Maybe so. And now you can…

Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya

Jun 28, 2025

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Is It My Partner’s Mental Illness Affecting Our Relationship – Or Abuse?

If you feel like a relationship is taking you away from yourself, if it’s making you sad and anxious, if it makes you doubt yourself… that information is more important…

Christina Tesoro —

Jul 8, 2021

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Anonymous Sex Toy Review: The Love Hamma Thrusting Vibrator

Lifting the pink Love Hamma Thrusting Vibrator from its packaging unlocked something deep inside me. A need I hadn’t realized existed. A dyke dream previously unnamed. I wanted to get…

Guest —

Jul 8, 2021

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How and Why I Wrote Bang!: A Masturbation Sex-Ed Book for Everyone

I made Bang! Masturbation for People of All Genders and Abilities because it profoundly made sense to me, because there was a gaping hole in that plastic wall where there…

vforvicliu —

Jul 7, 2021

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You Need Help: Why Am I So Apprehensive and Anxious About Sex?

Grant yourself the permission to center yourself instead of thinking of all this in terms of how your partner might feel or react. This is about you.

Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya —

Jul 6, 2021

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NSFW Lesbosexy Sunday Is in Limbic Revision

3D printed toys, STI testing, and Cara Delevingne’s sex toys.

Ryan Yates —

Jul 4, 2021

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Sadomasochism & Mental Health: Fetish

I don’t really have a lot left from childhood, and after a while, I became very into certain tangible objects. The idea that you could fetishize a material object instantly…

Sloane Holzer —

Jul 2, 2021

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Sadomasochism & Mental Health: Boundaries

Kink is something that I can contextualize my life around, around eroticism generally, and that felt so at home in my brain. That I can have a container for a…

Sloane Holzer —

Jul 1, 2021

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Sadomasochism & Mental Health: Self-Expression

“When I was diagnosed, and realizing how it affected me outside of the way that I eat, it’s these processes throughout my day or the way that my personality functions.…

Sloane Holzer —

Jun 30, 2021

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What’s a Normal Human Behavior That Gives You the Ick?

Listen, did we have a little TOO MUCH FUN ranting about our various icks? Maybe so. And now you can have some fun with us, too, delving into the various things that give us pause, squick us out, and just straight up annoy or piss us off.

Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya