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breakups

Is it Okay To Write an Apology Letter To an Ex? 10 Queers Weigh In

The concept of the Breakup Apology Letter is a controversial one! Where do you land?

the team

Oct 13, 2025

A phone screen shows icons for Bumble, Tinder, Plenty of Fish, Hinge and OKCupid

dating

Dating as a Single Dyke in My 60s

Singlehood in my late 50s to early 60s feels like trying to climb a sheer mountain cliff armed with only a bottle of lube

Elaine Bennett

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Nov 8, 2021

A Black woman sits on a large leaf surrounded by plants and flowers while looking down at her unzipped pants.

sex

To Strap Or Not To Strap — That Is The Question

It’s the age-old queer question — Are you strapping or nah?

Addie Tsai and akalac

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Nov 8, 2021

Ashley Paige, Ava D'Amore

nsfw sunday

NSFW Lesbosexy Sunday Is A Smorgasbord

How to make a relationship what everyone in it wants it to be, repair after a fight, tell your friends you’re back with your ex, love your body hair and…

Ryan Yates

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Nov 7, 2021

a queer couple sits at a coffee shop holding hands and having a serious conversation

relationships

You Need Help: I Don’t Want Kids But My Partner Might, Does This Mean We Can’t Get Married?

Our present selves can’t make promises for our future selves. Your partner is telling you what she knows about herself today. Is that enough?

Vanessa

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Nov 2, 2021

Selene Sun and Dr. Elody Rose

nsfw sunday

NSFW Lesbosexy Sunday Is A Sexy Cat

Sexy costumes are legitimate costumes. Plus, what to do about contempt in a relationship, a museum gets an OnlyFans, fanfiction as a way to talk about consent and more.

Ryan Yates

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Oct 31, 2021

Illustration of a brown femme in a purple wig and frilly purple dress walking along a residential street at night. In the corner is a small circle depicting the brown femme kissing another person.

first person

Scenes from a Gender 05: The Prehatching Years

I was mortified, to be sure, but also honored and validated, to be on the girls’ team. And oh yes, honey – I’ve never left.

Bishakh Som

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Oct 28, 2021

A woman with curly brown hair is looking at her phone with a frustrated face

lesbian dating apps

You Need Help: I’ve Matched With the Same Person Three Times on Tinder

We started chatting, and it was going well until she abruptly stopped replying.

Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya

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Oct 26, 2021

Against a pink background, there is a drawn image of two women with 1950s hairstyles appear in the bottom right corner. One is whispering to the other, and a thought bubble appears above her head. Inside the thought bubble, there is an image of a hand holding a small, magenta vibrator, which is shaped a bit like a computer mouse.

sex toys

Anonymous Sex Toy Review: The Pom

I am a sucker for a small, strong vibrator, and I was curious to try out the Pom vibrator, which boasts flexibility as a main feature.

Guest

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Oct 26, 2021

Sex Toy Reviews

Do You Love Porn and the Toy Story Franchise? Well, I Have Some Great News!

You've got a friend IN me?

Drew Burnett Gregory

Sex Toy Story: An animated butt plug looks sad

movie reviews

The Vesper Is a Vibrator Doubling as a Necklace Doubling as the Wingman I Didn’t Know I Needed

The whole vibrator-as-necklace thing might seem gimmicky, but the Vesper genuinely looks like a decent piece of androgynous jewelry.

Guest

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Jun 8, 2023

7 Sex Toys for Fat, Queer Sex and Masturbation

As fat folks, we have to get creative in the bedroom. Fortunately, there are plenty of toys that can help you have your best fat, queer sex with yourself or with…

Kelly J.

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Jun 5, 2023

The Roslyn Bodysuit Harness and the B.Cush Made Me Feel Hot and Horny

I took the advice of wise strappers before me and wore the harness and b.cush around the house for a while.

Guest

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May 18, 2023

Meet the Proud Pervs Behind Bedroom Besties, a New Gender-Inclusive Sex Toy Company

Bedroom Besties saw a gap in sex toy marketing. “We realized we could fill that hole — pun fully intended.”

Ro White

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May 15, 2023

How We Have Lesbian Sex

two women lying in bed with heads on stomach

Lesbian Sex: Your 15 Favorite Ways To Have It

Riese

Mar 1, 2024

SEX

13 Reasons Women In Lesbian Relationships Aren’t Having (More) Sex

“Lesbian bed death” does happen, and many lesbians feel they’re not having enough sex. But…

Riese

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Jul 28, 2023
SEX

Is Period Sex The Ultimate Lesbian Sexual Indicator?

People who want to have period sex have more and varied sex more often and…

Ryan Yates

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Feb 8, 2016
RELATIONSHIPS

You Need Help: Is She “The One”?

HOW WILL YOU EVER KNOW?

Ryan Yates

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Aug 24, 2015
SEX

87% Of Queer Women Are Into Porn or Erotica, But Not All Of It Is Lesbionic

Our latest round of results from the 2015 Ultimate Lesbian Sex Survey is all about…

Riese

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Jun 18, 2015
SEX

Here’s The Salacious Sex Statistics On Queer Women In Non-monogamous vs. Monogamous Relationships

Everything you ever wanted to know about the sex lives of the monogamous, non-monogamous, and…

Riese

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Jun 9, 2015
SEX

When Did You Do It For The First Time and How Many People Have You Done It With, Huh?

Oh you know, just the answers to everybody’s favorite two questions ever.

Riese

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May 19, 2015
SEX

Women’s Best Bet For A Synced-Up Sex Schedule Is Lesbianism

A new survey finds that men and women like having sex at totally different times…

Riese

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May 12, 2015
HEALTH

Why You Should Care About Lesbian Safer Sex (And What To Do About It)

If sexual health isn’t relevant to your interests yet, it should be.

Christy Duan

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May 5, 2015
SEX

The 100 Most Ambitious Places You’ve Had Sex

“Lost in the Dole pineapple maze in Hawaii.” “On my back in a Corolla on…

Riese

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Apr 30, 2015
SEX

Lesbian Sex Gets Women Off At Astronomical Rates, Our Sex Survey Shows

High femmes, women over 35 and people in relationships orgasm a whole lot during sex…

Riese

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Apr 29, 2015
QUEER FASHION

Here Are Your Very Queer Underwear-Wearing Habits

The Ultimate Lesbian Sex Survey knows what you’ve got on underneath those jeans, and how…

Riese

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Apr 24, 2015
SEX

41 Feelings You Had About Scissoring

How many of you scissor on the regular? And how many of you remain convinced…

Riese

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Apr 19, 2015
SEX

50 Fascinating Things You Really Wanted Us To Know About How You Have Sex

“I say a lot of things about myself during sex that I would not say…

Riese

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Apr 14, 2015
SEX

Queer Women Masturbate More Than Straight Women, Our Sex Survey Says

On the masturbation practices of the 8,566 humans who took our Ultimate Lesbian Sex Survey…

Riese

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Apr 13, 2015
SEX

The 100 Gayest Places You’ve Had Sex

” The back of a Jeep next to a beaver pond. That’s right. Beaver. Pond.…

Riese

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Apr 8, 2015
SEX

How Often Do Queer Women Have Sex?

We’ve got all the numbers on how often you have sex from our Ultimate Lesbian…

Riese

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Mar 30, 2015
SEX

26 Bits Of Solid Sex Advice You Gave Us On Autostraddle’s Lesbosexy Sex Survey

20. WASH YOUR HANDS IF YOU ATE BUFFALO WINGS BEFORE GETTING LAID, OMG.

Ryan Yates

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Feb 24, 2015

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