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breakups

Is it Okay To Write an Apology Letter To an Ex? 10 Queers Weigh In

The concept of the Breakup Apology Letter is a controversial one! Where do you land?

the team

Oct 13, 2025

Against a lavender background, there is a drawn image of two women with 1950s hairstyles. One woman whispers in the other's ear. A speech bubble appears to her left. Inside the speech bubble, there is a teal, silicone, claw-shaped sex toy with ridges. It has a plastic handle with white and red buttons.

sex toys

Anonymous Sex Toy Review: The Manta

The Fun Factory Manta is a sex toy advertised “for men,” but what they really mean is “for people with penises.”

Guest

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Dec 3, 2021

Sexy Stocking Stuffers collage of sex toys under $20 — images include a blue butt plug, an orange and pink box of CBD suppositories, two porn performers, an enamel pin of a peach that says, "Bruise me" and a small, pink bottle of lube.

holigays

Holigay Gift Guide: Stocking Stuffers Under $20 for the Sweetheart Whose ‘Stocking’ You ‘Stuff’

Shops this list of toys and accessories that are under $20 and have yourself a hole-y night.

Ro White

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Dec 2, 2021

young Black woman sits on her bed looking thoughtfully into the distance

breakups

You Need Help: Trusting Yourself After Leaving an Abusive Relationship

The first thing I want to say is that I’m so sorry you had this experience with someone you loved, who you trusted. You deserve to be treated with respect…

danijanae

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Nov 30, 2021

A person with dark brown skin and black curly hair wears a light blue shirt with a white tank underneath. They lean on a couch and look at their phone.

dating

I Used to ‘Compensate’ for My Blackness in the Dating World — Now I Embrace It

As a teen, my insecurities made me feel like my Blackness was something that dragged down my worth.

Lola Renn

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Nov 29, 2021

Holiday date night collage of sexy, cozy items

holigays

How To Plan a Cozy, Sexy Holiday Date Night

Gifts don’t have to be physical objects. Setting up a sweet, sexy date-night-in for your partner or polycule can be an incredibly meaningful experience, as well as a beautiful way…

meg

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Nov 29, 2021

Ashley Paige and Ava D'Amore

nsfw sunday

NSFW Lesbosexy Sunday Is Feeling Feelings

Having great sex when you don’t feel great and sexy, what it means to feel your feelings, the state of sex parties today and more.

Ryan Yates

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Nov 28, 2021

Two women sitting at a coffee shop, not looking at each other

breakups

You Need Help: I Feel Like a Bad Queer Because I’m Not Good at Being Friends After Breakups

When we’re friends after the breakup, it has felt confusing because everything feels the same to me intimacy and connection-wise, minus the fact that we’re no longer having sex.

Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya

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Nov 23, 2021

Cleo Clementine, Frankie T

nsfw sunday

NSFW Lesbosexy Sunday Is Paying for Porn with Crypto

A sex toy company won the right to advertise on the MTA, how to pay for your porn with crypto, how to travel with your partner and more.

Ryan Yates

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Nov 21, 2021

Sex Toy Reviews

Do You Love Porn and the Toy Story Franchise? Well, I Have Some Great News!

You've got a friend IN me?

Drew Burnett Gregory

Sex Toy Story: An animated butt plug looks sad

movie reviews

The Vesper Is a Vibrator Doubling as a Necklace Doubling as the Wingman I Didn’t Know I Needed

The whole vibrator-as-necklace thing might seem gimmicky, but the Vesper genuinely looks like a decent piece of androgynous jewelry.

Guest

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Jun 8, 2023

7 Sex Toys for Fat, Queer Sex and Masturbation

As fat folks, we have to get creative in the bedroom. Fortunately, there are plenty of toys that can help you have your best fat, queer sex with yourself or with…

Kelly J.

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Jun 5, 2023

The Roslyn Bodysuit Harness and the B.Cush Made Me Feel Hot and Horny

I took the advice of wise strappers before me and wore the harness and b.cush around the house for a while.

Guest

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May 18, 2023

Meet the Proud Pervs Behind Bedroom Besties, a New Gender-Inclusive Sex Toy Company

Bedroom Besties saw a gap in sex toy marketing. “We realized we could fill that hole — pun fully intended.”

Ro White

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May 15, 2023

How We Have Lesbian Sex

two women lying in bed with heads on stomach

Lesbian Sex: Your 15 Favorite Ways To Have It

Riese

Mar 1, 2024

SEX

13 Reasons Women In Lesbian Relationships Aren’t Having (More) Sex

“Lesbian bed death” does happen, and many lesbians feel they’re not having enough sex. But…

Riese

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Jul 28, 2023
SEX

Is Period Sex The Ultimate Lesbian Sexual Indicator?

People who want to have period sex have more and varied sex more often and…

Ryan Yates

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Feb 8, 2016
RELATIONSHIPS

You Need Help: Is She “The One”?

HOW WILL YOU EVER KNOW?

Ryan Yates

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Aug 24, 2015
SEX

87% Of Queer Women Are Into Porn or Erotica, But Not All Of It Is Lesbionic

Our latest round of results from the 2015 Ultimate Lesbian Sex Survey is all about…

Riese

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Jun 18, 2015
SEX

Here’s The Salacious Sex Statistics On Queer Women In Non-monogamous vs. Monogamous Relationships

Everything you ever wanted to know about the sex lives of the monogamous, non-monogamous, and…

Riese

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Jun 9, 2015
SEX

When Did You Do It For The First Time and How Many People Have You Done It With, Huh?

Oh you know, just the answers to everybody’s favorite two questions ever.

Riese

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May 19, 2015
SEX

Women’s Best Bet For A Synced-Up Sex Schedule Is Lesbianism

A new survey finds that men and women like having sex at totally different times…

Riese

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May 12, 2015
HEALTH

Why You Should Care About Lesbian Safer Sex (And What To Do About It)

If sexual health isn’t relevant to your interests yet, it should be.

Christy Duan

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May 5, 2015
SEX

The 100 Most Ambitious Places You’ve Had Sex

“Lost in the Dole pineapple maze in Hawaii.” “On my back in a Corolla on…

Riese

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Apr 30, 2015
SEX

Lesbian Sex Gets Women Off At Astronomical Rates, Our Sex Survey Shows

High femmes, women over 35 and people in relationships orgasm a whole lot during sex…

Riese

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Apr 29, 2015
QUEER FASHION

Here Are Your Very Queer Underwear-Wearing Habits

The Ultimate Lesbian Sex Survey knows what you’ve got on underneath those jeans, and how…

Riese

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Apr 24, 2015
SEX

41 Feelings You Had About Scissoring

How many of you scissor on the regular? And how many of you remain convinced…

Riese

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Apr 19, 2015
SEX

50 Fascinating Things You Really Wanted Us To Know About How You Have Sex

“I say a lot of things about myself during sex that I would not say…

Riese

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Apr 14, 2015
SEX

Queer Women Masturbate More Than Straight Women, Our Sex Survey Says

On the masturbation practices of the 8,566 humans who took our Ultimate Lesbian Sex Survey…

Riese

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Apr 13, 2015
SEX

The 100 Gayest Places You’ve Had Sex

” The back of a Jeep next to a beaver pond. That’s right. Beaver. Pond.…

Riese

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Apr 8, 2015
SEX

How Often Do Queer Women Have Sex?

We’ve got all the numbers on how often you have sex from our Ultimate Lesbian…

Riese

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Mar 30, 2015
SEX

26 Bits Of Solid Sex Advice You Gave Us On Autostraddle’s Lesbosexy Sex Survey

20. WASH YOUR HANDS IF YOU ATE BUFFALO WINGS BEFORE GETTING LAID, OMG.

Ryan Yates

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Feb 24, 2015

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