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breakups

Is it Okay To Write an Apology Letter To an Ex? 10 Queers Weigh In

The concept of the Breakup Apology Letter is a controversial one! Where do you land?

the team

Oct 13, 2025

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dating

You’re a Bad Tipper? That’s a Red Flag!

If someone has to serve you while you flirt relentlessly or converse stiffly, then they should be paid extra for that labor.

Alyse Burnside

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Jan 13, 2022

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dating

You Need Help: Can I Flirt With My Crushes Without Being Seen as Predatory?

I think this trope has held so many lesbians back from making moves and finding love with someone they’re interested in. You’re not gonna come off as predatory just by…

danijanae

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Jan 11, 2022

Against a lavender background, there is a drawn image of two people whispering to each other in the bottom right corner. A speech bubble is in the upper left corner. Inside the speech bubble, there is an image of the Snail Vibe, a purple vibrator with a short swirling end and a long swirling end.

sex toys

Anonymous Sex Toy Review: The Snail Vibe

The best part of using this toy was when I eventually tossed it on the floor and let myself orgasm all over my hot date’s fist instead.

Guest

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Jan 10, 2022

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dating

Be the Queer Rom-Com Lead You Want To See in the World

Indulge in coziness, quirk it up, and create a soundtrack for your life. Here are some fool-proof tips for feeling like the star of your own personal rom-com.

Analyssa

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Jan 5, 2022

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sex

Sex Tips for When You’re Stranded in the Canadian Wilderness Post-Plane Crash With No Rescue Team in Sight

Do you really want to be that person who survived a plane crash and then died from putting a literal stick up their ass? No, you don’t.

Ro White

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Jan 4, 2022

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friendship

You Need Help: How Do I Get My Friend Out of Her Toxic Relationship?

It can be really hard to watch a friend in a relationship that doesn’t seem good for them. At the same time, this situation isn’t entirely yours to fix or…

Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya

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Jan 4, 2022

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dating

You Need Help: Will I Ever Grow Out Of The Messy Questioning Phase?

Accept the messy questioning phase. It’s the whole point of being alive.

Vanessa

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Dec 28, 2021

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sex

Positions for Fat Sex in All of Its Holiness

In short, if you know, you know: fat sex is church. Here are some of the positions that have taken me there when I knew I needed to be lifted…

Cat L.

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Dec 27, 2021

Sex Toy Reviews

Do You Love Porn and the Toy Story Franchise? Well, I Have Some Great News!

You've got a friend IN me?

Drew Burnett Gregory

Sex Toy Story: An animated butt plug looks sad

movie reviews

The Vesper Is a Vibrator Doubling as a Necklace Doubling as the Wingman I Didn’t Know I Needed

The whole vibrator-as-necklace thing might seem gimmicky, but the Vesper genuinely looks like a decent piece of androgynous jewelry.

Guest

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Jun 8, 2023

7 Sex Toys for Fat, Queer Sex and Masturbation

As fat folks, we have to get creative in the bedroom. Fortunately, there are plenty of toys that can help you have your best fat, queer sex with yourself or with…

Kelly J.

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Jun 5, 2023

The Roslyn Bodysuit Harness and the B.Cush Made Me Feel Hot and Horny

I took the advice of wise strappers before me and wore the harness and b.cush around the house for a while.

Guest

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May 18, 2023

Meet the Proud Pervs Behind Bedroom Besties, a New Gender-Inclusive Sex Toy Company

Bedroom Besties saw a gap in sex toy marketing. “We realized we could fill that hole — pun fully intended.”

Ro White

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May 15, 2023

How We Have Lesbian Sex

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Lesbian Sex: Your 15 Favorite Ways To Have It

Riese

Mar 1, 2024

SEX

13 Reasons Women In Lesbian Relationships Aren’t Having (More) Sex

“Lesbian bed death” does happen, and many lesbians feel they’re not having enough sex. But…

Riese

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Jul 28, 2023
SEX

Is Period Sex The Ultimate Lesbian Sexual Indicator?

People who want to have period sex have more and varied sex more often and…

Ryan Yates

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Feb 8, 2016
RELATIONSHIPS

You Need Help: Is She “The One”?

HOW WILL YOU EVER KNOW?

Ryan Yates

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Aug 24, 2015
SEX

87% Of Queer Women Are Into Porn or Erotica, But Not All Of It Is Lesbionic

Our latest round of results from the 2015 Ultimate Lesbian Sex Survey is all about…

Riese

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Jun 18, 2015
SEX

Here’s The Salacious Sex Statistics On Queer Women In Non-monogamous vs. Monogamous Relationships

Everything you ever wanted to know about the sex lives of the monogamous, non-monogamous, and…

Riese

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Jun 9, 2015
SEX

When Did You Do It For The First Time and How Many People Have You Done It With, Huh?

Oh you know, just the answers to everybody’s favorite two questions ever.

Riese

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May 19, 2015
SEX

Women’s Best Bet For A Synced-Up Sex Schedule Is Lesbianism

A new survey finds that men and women like having sex at totally different times…

Riese

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May 12, 2015
HEALTH

Why You Should Care About Lesbian Safer Sex (And What To Do About It)

If sexual health isn’t relevant to your interests yet, it should be.

Christy Duan

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May 5, 2015
SEX

The 100 Most Ambitious Places You’ve Had Sex

“Lost in the Dole pineapple maze in Hawaii.” “On my back in a Corolla on…

Riese

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Apr 30, 2015
SEX

Lesbian Sex Gets Women Off At Astronomical Rates, Our Sex Survey Shows

High femmes, women over 35 and people in relationships orgasm a whole lot during sex…

Riese

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Apr 29, 2015
QUEER FASHION

Here Are Your Very Queer Underwear-Wearing Habits

The Ultimate Lesbian Sex Survey knows what you’ve got on underneath those jeans, and how…

Riese

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Apr 24, 2015
SEX

41 Feelings You Had About Scissoring

How many of you scissor on the regular? And how many of you remain convinced…

Riese

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Apr 19, 2015
SEX

50 Fascinating Things You Really Wanted Us To Know About How You Have Sex

“I say a lot of things about myself during sex that I would not say…

Riese

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Apr 14, 2015
SEX

Queer Women Masturbate More Than Straight Women, Our Sex Survey Says

On the masturbation practices of the 8,566 humans who took our Ultimate Lesbian Sex Survey…

Riese

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Apr 13, 2015
SEX

The 100 Gayest Places You’ve Had Sex

” The back of a Jeep next to a beaver pond. That’s right. Beaver. Pond.…

Riese

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Apr 8, 2015
SEX

How Often Do Queer Women Have Sex?

We’ve got all the numbers on how often you have sex from our Ultimate Lesbian…

Riese

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Mar 30, 2015
SEX

26 Bits Of Solid Sex Advice You Gave Us On Autostraddle’s Lesbosexy Sex Survey

20. WASH YOUR HANDS IF YOU ATE BUFFALO WINGS BEFORE GETTING LAID, OMG.

Ryan Yates

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Feb 24, 2015

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