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breakups

Is it Okay To Write an Apology Letter To an Ex? 10 Queers Weigh In

The concept of the Breakup Apology Letter is a controversial one! Where do you land?

the team

Oct 13, 2025

two cute cats lie lazily on top of some drawers

relationships

I’m Not a Cat Lesbian but I Fell in Love With One

I never wanted to live with a cat. Of course, the universe had other plans.

Sa'iyda Shabazz

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Sep 20, 2022

a queer person with pink hair and a pink beanie holds a laptop and looks nervous

dating

You Need Help: Should I Tell My New Date I Used To Follow Her on Tumblr?

I think that this probably happens to people a lot more than you’d think.

Analyssa

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Sep 20, 2022

In the bottom right corner of the image, there is a black line drawing of two women with 1950s hairstyles whispering to each other against a lavender background. In the upper left corner, there is a speech bubble. Inside the speech bubble, there is an image of a circular, teal sex toy with a gold plastic center.

sex toys

When There Simply Isn’t a Face for You to Sit On, the Ora 3 Will Definitely Do

The default speed of the Ora 3 is similar to receiving extremely confident oral sex from someone who knows they’ll get you there eventually and isn’t in any hurry to…

Guest

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Sep 15, 2022

Photo 1: A periwinkle long-sleeved satin blouse with a pussy bow collar. Photo 2: A keyhole long-sleeved leather-look bodysuit. Photo 3: A sleeveless floral jumpsuit in pink and green. Photo 4: High-waisted zip-front track pants in black.

queer fashion

So You Want To Go to a Wedding

I present to you some items that might inspire you, should you be invited to a wedding or similar dress-up event and you are sick of reaching for the same…

Christina Tucker

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Sep 9, 2022

“Wait, Is This a Date?” Season Two FINALE: Long Distance Crushes with Elise Bauman

dating

“Wait, Is This a Date?” Season Two FINALE: Long Distance Crushes with Elise Bauman

Dearly beloved, we are gathered here today to get through this thing called… a season finale! And to celebrate that ending, who better to come on and discuss the joys…

Christina Tucker

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Sep 7, 2022

Two lovebirds hugging on a tree branch, and one looking at them in a distance. The birds are cute and small and green with yellow faces.

friendship

You Need Help: How Do I Ask My Couple Friends To Hang Out With Me One-on-One?

Wanting to hang out with your friends separately as individuals rather than as couples is a perfectly reasonable request.

Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya

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Sep 6, 2022

A cartoon image shows Veronica from Archie Comics, who has long, black hair with bands and wears a yellow top with a plunging neckline. She leans back in bed against a pink pillow with red trim with her hands behind her head. Her lower half is covered by a pink blanket. Red hearts swirl through the air around her. A white and brown lamp is on her pink bedside table to the right. Against the black background, yellow text reads: "Power bottom."

sex

The Gay B C’s of Sex: P Is for Power Bottom

Perhaps the power bottom is in the eye of the be(hole)der.

Ro White

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Sep 1, 2022

WITAD? in yellow is against a purple background. A photo of Chingy Nea's face in a close up is below. Next to the photo in a yellow bubble it says "Bottoming" with guest Chingy Nea" and then surrounding are various emoji stickers.

dating

“Wait, Is This a Date?” Podcast Episode 209: Bottoming with Chingy

Let’s make some noise for the bottoms in the house! (It’s me, the bottom in the house.)

Christina Tucker

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Aug 31, 2022

Sex Toy Reviews

Do You Love Porn and the Toy Story Franchise? Well, I Have Some Great News!

You've got a friend IN me?

Drew Burnett Gregory

Sex Toy Story: An animated butt plug looks sad

movie reviews

The Vesper Is a Vibrator Doubling as a Necklace Doubling as the Wingman I Didn’t Know I Needed

The whole vibrator-as-necklace thing might seem gimmicky, but the Vesper genuinely looks like a decent piece of androgynous jewelry.

Guest

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Jun 8, 2023

7 Sex Toys for Fat, Queer Sex and Masturbation

As fat folks, we have to get creative in the bedroom. Fortunately, there are plenty of toys that can help you have your best fat, queer sex with yourself or with…

Kelly J.

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Jun 5, 2023

The Roslyn Bodysuit Harness and the B.Cush Made Me Feel Hot and Horny

I took the advice of wise strappers before me and wore the harness and b.cush around the house for a while.

Guest

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May 18, 2023

Meet the Proud Pervs Behind Bedroom Besties, a New Gender-Inclusive Sex Toy Company

Bedroom Besties saw a gap in sex toy marketing. “We realized we could fill that hole — pun fully intended.”

Ro White

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May 15, 2023

How We Have Lesbian Sex

two women lying in bed with heads on stomach

Lesbian Sex: Your 15 Favorite Ways To Have It

Riese

Mar 1, 2024

SEX

13 Reasons Women In Lesbian Relationships Aren’t Having (More) Sex

“Lesbian bed death” does happen, and many lesbians feel they’re not having enough sex. But…

Riese

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Jul 28, 2023
SEX

Is Period Sex The Ultimate Lesbian Sexual Indicator?

People who want to have period sex have more and varied sex more often and…

Ryan Yates

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Feb 8, 2016
RELATIONSHIPS

You Need Help: Is She “The One”?

HOW WILL YOU EVER KNOW?

Ryan Yates

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Aug 24, 2015
SEX

87% Of Queer Women Are Into Porn or Erotica, But Not All Of It Is Lesbionic

Our latest round of results from the 2015 Ultimate Lesbian Sex Survey is all about…

Riese

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Jun 18, 2015
SEX

Here’s The Salacious Sex Statistics On Queer Women In Non-monogamous vs. Monogamous Relationships

Everything you ever wanted to know about the sex lives of the monogamous, non-monogamous, and…

Riese

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Jun 9, 2015
SEX

When Did You Do It For The First Time and How Many People Have You Done It With, Huh?

Oh you know, just the answers to everybody’s favorite two questions ever.

Riese

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May 19, 2015
SEX

Women’s Best Bet For A Synced-Up Sex Schedule Is Lesbianism

A new survey finds that men and women like having sex at totally different times…

Riese

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May 12, 2015
HEALTH

Why You Should Care About Lesbian Safer Sex (And What To Do About It)

If sexual health isn’t relevant to your interests yet, it should be.

Christy Duan

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May 5, 2015
SEX

The 100 Most Ambitious Places You’ve Had Sex

“Lost in the Dole pineapple maze in Hawaii.” “On my back in a Corolla on…

Riese

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Apr 30, 2015
SEX

Lesbian Sex Gets Women Off At Astronomical Rates, Our Sex Survey Shows

High femmes, women over 35 and people in relationships orgasm a whole lot during sex…

Riese

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Apr 29, 2015
QUEER FASHION

Here Are Your Very Queer Underwear-Wearing Habits

The Ultimate Lesbian Sex Survey knows what you’ve got on underneath those jeans, and how…

Riese

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Apr 24, 2015
SEX

41 Feelings You Had About Scissoring

How many of you scissor on the regular? And how many of you remain convinced…

Riese

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Apr 19, 2015
SEX

50 Fascinating Things You Really Wanted Us To Know About How You Have Sex

“I say a lot of things about myself during sex that I would not say…

Riese

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Apr 14, 2015
SEX

Queer Women Masturbate More Than Straight Women, Our Sex Survey Says

On the masturbation practices of the 8,566 humans who took our Ultimate Lesbian Sex Survey…

Riese

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Apr 13, 2015
SEX

The 100 Gayest Places You’ve Had Sex

” The back of a Jeep next to a beaver pond. That’s right. Beaver. Pond.…

Riese

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Apr 8, 2015
SEX

How Often Do Queer Women Have Sex?

We’ve got all the numbers on how often you have sex from our Ultimate Lesbian…

Riese

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Mar 30, 2015
SEX

26 Bits Of Solid Sex Advice You Gave Us On Autostraddle’s Lesbosexy Sex Survey

20. WASH YOUR HANDS IF YOU ATE BUFFALO WINGS BEFORE GETTING LAID, OMG.

Ryan Yates

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Feb 24, 2015

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