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breakups

Is it Okay To Write an Apology Letter To an Ex? 10 Queers Weigh In

The concept of the Breakup Apology Letter is a controversial one! Where do you land?

the team

Oct 13, 2025

A collage of seven heart shaped images featuring seven different relationships on a pale pink background. The hearts feature photos of the seven relationships interviewed for this column: Kristen and Kayla, Beth and Sa’iyda, Yasmeen and Clio and their polycule, Adrienne, and Jenny, Evette and Teré, Amanda-Faye and Jo, and Sadie and Nico.

lesbian weddings

Blush and Bashful: What It’s Like To Be Queer and Engaged

If you’re wondering what some queer people who aren’t me are thinking about when it comes to getting engaged and wedding planning (or not wedding planning), this installment of Blush…

Vanessa

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Mar 2, 2023

A background of a bowling alley and then three images: one of Kristen Arnett in khakis drinking a beer and holding a bowling ball, one of a sign for Aloma Bowl against a night sky, and one of Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya from behind, bowling in a magenta jumpsuit

relationships

Dykes on Dates: Bowling Is the Epitome of Romance

You get to talk a bunch, like a dinner date but with an added activity — one almost insists you stare at your partner’s ass.

Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya

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Feb 23, 2023

two Black queer people flirting with each other outside; one faces away from us and all we can see if her high ponytail and her neon yellow manicure touching the other person's chest; they have cornrows, a black shirt, a brown blazer, a silver chain, and a huge smile on their face

dating

You Need Help: How Do I Flirt When I’m Worried About Coming On Too Strong

I’m black and masculine so I’m worried that if I tried to make a move it would come off too strong, which I know I really shouldn’t but we live…

Em Win and A. Tony Jerome

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Feb 21, 2023

A blank, unlined journal is open on a black sheet. A red flogger is on the left of the journal and a red ball gag is on the right of the journal.

sex

She/Her/Sir: Finding My Home in Kink as a Black, Queer, Masc of Center Dom

Kink can be a profound space of healing, which is something that Black people — and especially Black women — deeply deserve.

Black Queer Dom

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Feb 21, 2023

on a desk sits a beaded jewelry box, a black clutch purse, a gray ring tray with assorted rings on it, a polaroid of Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya and Kristen Arnett on new year's 2023, and a very cool rock, bisected in the middle and sparkly on the inside

first person

I’m a Cool Rock Lesbian

By which I mean I am a lesbian who likes to look at and hold cool rocks — not that I am a lesbian into cool rock ‘n roll, but…

Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya

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Feb 19, 2023

A fat bride with brown hair curled at the edges around her shoulders is in a white gown and looking at herself in the mirror of a dressing room. She is smiling and happy.

lesbian weddings

Blush and Bashful: How One Fat Femme Bought Her Dream Wedding Dress

The reason I wanted to write about this experience is explicitly to say to other fat brides that buying a dress does not have to be a negative experience.

Vanessa

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Feb 16, 2023

Two white wooden chairs sit on a deck that's attached to a white house on the left. The chairs face pink and orange sunset and a large body of water.

relationships

Heart Whisperer: How I Found My Way to a Love That’s Lasted 45 Years

In the autumn of 1977, I met the partner of my dreams, and we’ve been sailing through life together ever since.

Ellen Ziegler

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Feb 14, 2023

two women looking at one another not too happily. one is leaning against a brick wall.

relationships

You Need Help: My Partner Keeps Saying We’re Going to Break Up!

The fact that you feel affected by what your partner tells you, even when they’re not their best self, is not inappropriate or bad. It’s human.

Darcy

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Feb 14, 2023

Sex Toy Reviews

Do You Love Porn and the Toy Story Franchise? Well, I Have Some Great News!

You've got a friend IN me?

Drew Burnett Gregory

Sex Toy Story: An animated butt plug looks sad

movie reviews

The Vesper Is a Vibrator Doubling as a Necklace Doubling as the Wingman I Didn’t Know I Needed

The whole vibrator-as-necklace thing might seem gimmicky, but the Vesper genuinely looks like a decent piece of androgynous jewelry.

Guest

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Jun 8, 2023

7 Sex Toys for Fat, Queer Sex and Masturbation

As fat folks, we have to get creative in the bedroom. Fortunately, there are plenty of toys that can help you have your best fat, queer sex with yourself or with…

Kelly J.

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Jun 5, 2023

The Roslyn Bodysuit Harness and the B.Cush Made Me Feel Hot and Horny

I took the advice of wise strappers before me and wore the harness and b.cush around the house for a while.

Guest

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May 18, 2023

Meet the Proud Pervs Behind Bedroom Besties, a New Gender-Inclusive Sex Toy Company

Bedroom Besties saw a gap in sex toy marketing. “We realized we could fill that hole — pun fully intended.”

Ro White

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May 15, 2023

How We Have Lesbian Sex

two women lying in bed with heads on stomach

Lesbian Sex: Your 15 Favorite Ways To Have It

Riese

Aug 15, 2023

SEX

13 Reasons Women In Lesbian Relationships Aren’t Having (More) Sex

“Lesbian bed death” does happen, and many lesbians feel they’re not having enough sex. But…

Riese

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Jul 28, 2023
SEX

Is Period Sex The Ultimate Lesbian Sexual Indicator?

People who want to have period sex have more and varied sex more often and…

Ryan Yates

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Feb 8, 2016
RELATIONSHIPS

You Need Help: Is She “The One”?

HOW WILL YOU EVER KNOW?

Ryan Yates

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Aug 24, 2015
SEX

87% Of Queer Women Are Into Porn or Erotica, But Not All Of It Is Lesbionic

Our latest round of results from the 2015 Ultimate Lesbian Sex Survey is all about…

Riese

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Jun 18, 2015
SEX

Here’s The Salacious Sex Statistics On Queer Women In Non-monogamous vs. Monogamous Relationships

Everything you ever wanted to know about the sex lives of the monogamous, non-monogamous, and…

Riese

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Jun 9, 2015
SEX

When Did You Do It For The First Time and How Many People Have You Done It With, Huh?

Oh you know, just the answers to everybody’s favorite two questions ever.

Riese

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May 19, 2015
SEX

Women’s Best Bet For A Synced-Up Sex Schedule Is Lesbianism

A new survey finds that men and women like having sex at totally different times…

Riese

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May 12, 2015
HEALTH

Why You Should Care About Lesbian Safer Sex (And What To Do About It)

If sexual health isn’t relevant to your interests yet, it should be.

Christy Duan

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May 5, 2015
SEX

The 100 Most Ambitious Places You’ve Had Sex

“Lost in the Dole pineapple maze in Hawaii.” “On my back in a Corolla on…

Riese

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Apr 30, 2015
SEX

Lesbian Sex Gets Women Off At Astronomical Rates, Our Sex Survey Shows

High femmes, women over 35 and people in relationships orgasm a whole lot during sex…

Riese

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Apr 29, 2015
QUEER FASHION

Here Are Your Very Queer Underwear-Wearing Habits

The Ultimate Lesbian Sex Survey knows what you’ve got on underneath those jeans, and how…

Riese

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Apr 24, 2015
SEX

41 Feelings You Had About Scissoring

How many of you scissor on the regular? And how many of you remain convinced…

Riese

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Apr 19, 2015
SEX

50 Fascinating Things You Really Wanted Us To Know About How You Have Sex

“I say a lot of things about myself during sex that I would not say…

Riese

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Apr 14, 2015
SEX

Queer Women Masturbate More Than Straight Women, Our Sex Survey Says

On the masturbation practices of the 8,566 humans who took our Ultimate Lesbian Sex Survey…

Riese

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Apr 13, 2015
SEX

The 100 Gayest Places You’ve Had Sex

” The back of a Jeep next to a beaver pond. That’s right. Beaver. Pond.…

Riese

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Apr 8, 2015
SEX

How Often Do Queer Women Have Sex?

We’ve got all the numbers on how often you have sex from our Ultimate Lesbian…

Riese

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Mar 30, 2015
SEX

26 Bits Of Solid Sex Advice You Gave Us On Autostraddle’s Lesbosexy Sex Survey

20. WASH YOUR HANDS IF YOU ATE BUFFALO WINGS BEFORE GETTING LAID, OMG.

Ryan Yates

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Feb 24, 2015

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