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breakups

Is it Okay To Write an Apology Letter To an Ex? 10 Queers Weigh In

The concept of the Breakup Apology Letter is a controversial one! Where do you land?

the team

Oct 13, 2025

A Black woman with short, curly hair wears a navy blue tank top with white stripes and stands against a yellow background. She holds one hand in the other and grimaces, suggesting that she has chronic pain in her fingers.

sex

How to Finger Your Partner When You Have Chronic Pain in Your Hands

A few minor adjustments can make fingering easier, even when chronic pain is cramping your style.

Ro White

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Mar 23, 2023

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relationships

Dykes on Dates: Sometimes Date Night Is Just Chips, Dips, and a Drink Tasting

This was truly the least amount of food prep I’ve ever done for an at-home date night.

Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya

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Mar 23, 2023

two women are in bed together; one lies back with her head against the pillows and the other turns away from her, looking upset and agitated, not making eye contact

sex

You Need Help: How Can I Deal With My Own Sexual Shame?

I want you to know that your shame is not uncommon and you’re not alone in feeling it. While it does take a long time to undo, you’re on the…

Aliyah Moore

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Mar 21, 2023

A post-card like image with a stamp with pink flowers on it and a large image of a ring dish with rings in it and the words THANK YOU, EX!

breakups

Thank You, Ex: For the Ring Dish That Reminds Me I’m Hot

I was never much of a ring-wearer until I came out.

Em Win

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Mar 20, 2023

two corsaged sets of hands hold each other in close up during a lesbian wedding.

lesbian weddings

Blush and Bashful: Let’s Talk About Wedding Registries

Your loved ones want to get you the things you want, and they can only do that if you tell them what that is!

Vanessa

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Mar 16, 2023

a couple sits outside in a field, looking worried and somber, holding each other

relationships

You Need Help: My Partner and I Disagree About Our COVID Risk Reduction Practices

Sometimes, after dealing with an active crisis as a team, it’s the period afterward that can start to pull us apart. There’s more time and space for your individual needs…

Darcy

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Mar 14, 2023

an overhead shot of a homemade pizza with tiny fried eggs on it, Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya holding a chicken tikka masala pizza, and a homemade pizza on a cutting board on a table set up for date night

relationships

Dykes on Dates: Tips for Topping (Homemade Pizza)

You don’t have to be a seasoned home chef to make pizza date night a reality! I’ve got tips for all skill levels and price points.

Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya

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Mar 9, 2023

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friendship

You Need Help: Should I Try Again To Turn a Friendship Into Romance?

You have to evaluate if you can experience the friendship not as a consolation prize or a waystation for your ultimate destiny of romantic partnership with them but as a…

Adrian

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Mar 7, 2023

Sex Toy Reviews

Do You Love Porn and the Toy Story Franchise? Well, I Have Some Great News!

You've got a friend IN me?

Drew Burnett Gregory

Sex Toy Story: An animated butt plug looks sad

movie reviews

The Vesper Is a Vibrator Doubling as a Necklace Doubling as the Wingman I Didn’t Know I Needed

The whole vibrator-as-necklace thing might seem gimmicky, but the Vesper genuinely looks like a decent piece of androgynous jewelry.

Guest

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Jun 8, 2023

7 Sex Toys for Fat, Queer Sex and Masturbation

As fat folks, we have to get creative in the bedroom. Fortunately, there are plenty of toys that can help you have your best fat, queer sex with yourself or with…

Kelly J.

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Jun 5, 2023

The Roslyn Bodysuit Harness and the B.Cush Made Me Feel Hot and Horny

I took the advice of wise strappers before me and wore the harness and b.cush around the house for a while.

Guest

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May 18, 2023

Meet the Proud Pervs Behind Bedroom Besties, a New Gender-Inclusive Sex Toy Company

Bedroom Besties saw a gap in sex toy marketing. “We realized we could fill that hole — pun fully intended.”

Ro White

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May 15, 2023

How We Have Lesbian Sex

two women lying in bed with heads on stomach

Lesbian Sex: Your 15 Favorite Ways To Have It

Riese

Mar 1, 2024

SEX

13 Reasons Women In Lesbian Relationships Aren’t Having (More) Sex

“Lesbian bed death” does happen, and many lesbians feel they’re not having enough sex. But…

Riese

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Jul 28, 2023
SEX

Is Period Sex The Ultimate Lesbian Sexual Indicator?

People who want to have period sex have more and varied sex more often and…

Ryan Yates

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Feb 8, 2016
RELATIONSHIPS

You Need Help: Is She “The One”?

HOW WILL YOU EVER KNOW?

Ryan Yates

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Aug 24, 2015
SEX

87% Of Queer Women Are Into Porn or Erotica, But Not All Of It Is Lesbionic

Our latest round of results from the 2015 Ultimate Lesbian Sex Survey is all about…

Riese

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Jun 18, 2015
SEX

Here’s The Salacious Sex Statistics On Queer Women In Non-monogamous vs. Monogamous Relationships

Everything you ever wanted to know about the sex lives of the monogamous, non-monogamous, and…

Riese

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Jun 9, 2015
SEX

When Did You Do It For The First Time and How Many People Have You Done It With, Huh?

Oh you know, just the answers to everybody’s favorite two questions ever.

Riese

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May 19, 2015
SEX

Women’s Best Bet For A Synced-Up Sex Schedule Is Lesbianism

A new survey finds that men and women like having sex at totally different times…

Riese

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May 12, 2015
HEALTH

Why You Should Care About Lesbian Safer Sex (And What To Do About It)

If sexual health isn’t relevant to your interests yet, it should be.

Christy Duan

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May 5, 2015
SEX

The 100 Most Ambitious Places You’ve Had Sex

“Lost in the Dole pineapple maze in Hawaii.” “On my back in a Corolla on…

Riese

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Apr 30, 2015
SEX

Lesbian Sex Gets Women Off At Astronomical Rates, Our Sex Survey Shows

High femmes, women over 35 and people in relationships orgasm a whole lot during sex…

Riese

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Apr 29, 2015
QUEER FASHION

Here Are Your Very Queer Underwear-Wearing Habits

The Ultimate Lesbian Sex Survey knows what you’ve got on underneath those jeans, and how…

Riese

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Apr 24, 2015
SEX

41 Feelings You Had About Scissoring

How many of you scissor on the regular? And how many of you remain convinced…

Riese

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Apr 19, 2015
SEX

50 Fascinating Things You Really Wanted Us To Know About How You Have Sex

“I say a lot of things about myself during sex that I would not say…

Riese

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Apr 14, 2015
SEX

Queer Women Masturbate More Than Straight Women, Our Sex Survey Says

On the masturbation practices of the 8,566 humans who took our Ultimate Lesbian Sex Survey…

Riese

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Apr 13, 2015
SEX

The 100 Gayest Places You’ve Had Sex

” The back of a Jeep next to a beaver pond. That’s right. Beaver. Pond.…

Riese

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Apr 8, 2015
SEX

How Often Do Queer Women Have Sex?

We’ve got all the numbers on how often you have sex from our Ultimate Lesbian…

Riese

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Mar 30, 2015
SEX

26 Bits Of Solid Sex Advice You Gave Us On Autostraddle’s Lesbosexy Sex Survey

20. WASH YOUR HANDS IF YOU ATE BUFFALO WINGS BEFORE GETTING LAID, OMG.

Ryan Yates

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Feb 24, 2015

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