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breakups

Is it Okay To Write an Apology Letter To an Ex? 10 Queers Weigh In

The concept of the Breakup Apology Letter is a controversial one! Where do you land?

the team

Oct 13, 2025

two women hold a swaddled baby

dating

You Need Help: I’m Uncertain About Wanting Kids, So Should I Only Date People Who Are Uncertain Too?

I’ve changed my mind about wanting kids throughout life, and that’s okay.

Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya

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Jun 6, 2023

Sex toys and pink hearts are scattered across a green, blue, and pink ombre background. There is a black butt plug, a blue wand vibrator, a rose gold suction toy with a white silicone opening, a black boxer brief harness, and a purple, C-shaped vibrator.

sex toys

7 Sex Toys for Fat, Queer Sex and Masturbation

As fat folks, we have to get creative in the bedroom. Fortunately, there are plenty of toys that can help you have your best fat, queer sex with yourself or with…

Kelly J.

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Jun 5, 2023

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breakups

You Need Help: How Can I Plan for a Bad Breakup?

A breakup is a huge loss, and sometimes that doesn’t even just mean losing a person but other parts of your life, too.

Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya

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May 30, 2023

a woman is sitting on the couch reading a book, and she pops her head above the pages to make a truly shocked face: eyes wide, eyebrows raised, mouth open! she's surprised!

friendship

You Need Help: Should I Ask My Friend on a Date Even if I Think She’ll Say No?

I’m reading Michelle Elman’s book “The Selfish Romantic” and she talks about how we can never really know unless we ask. And I feel like this is low enough risk…

Casey

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May 23, 2023

Against a teal background, half of a grapefruit is in the bottom right corner of the image. A hot pink wand vibrator extends from the upper right corner and rests against the grapefruit.

sex

How to Masturbate When You’re Sexually Repressed

Here’s how to masturbate when shame is getting in your way.

Tara T

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May 22, 2023

In the bottom right corner of the image, there is a black line drawing of two women with 1950s hairstyles whispering to each other against a pink background. In the upper left corner, there is a speech bubble. Inside the speech bubble, there is the torso of a white person wearing the Roslyn bodysuit harness, which is made out of white lace and has an O-ring on the pelvis. Beside the person, there is the b.cush, a vulva-shaped piece of purple silicone with two bumps running down the center.

sex toys

The Roslyn Bodysuit Harness and the B.Cush Made Me Feel Hot and Horny

I took the advice of wise strappers before me and wore the harness and b.cush around the house for a while.

Guest

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May 18, 2023

Jess and Anya take a selfie in central park, a spread on a picnic blanket of notebooks, headphones, a camera, and a hat. Jess posing in a Zabar's hat.

relationships

Dykes on Dates: A Chill, Food-Filled Day on the Upper West Side

If you’ve never been to the American Museum of Natural History before, let me tell you about the whale.

Anya Richkind

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May 18, 2023

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lesbian weddings

You Need Help: Should I Invite My Friends’ Whole Polycule to My Wedding?

You can invite or not invite whoever you want to your wedding.

Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya

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May 16, 2023

Sex Toy Reviews

Do You Love Porn and the Toy Story Franchise? Well, I Have Some Great News!

You've got a friend IN me?

Drew Burnett Gregory

Sex Toy Story: An animated butt plug looks sad

movie reviews

The Vesper Is a Vibrator Doubling as a Necklace Doubling as the Wingman I Didn’t Know I Needed

The whole vibrator-as-necklace thing might seem gimmicky, but the Vesper genuinely looks like a decent piece of androgynous jewelry.

Guest

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Jun 8, 2023

7 Sex Toys for Fat, Queer Sex and Masturbation

As fat folks, we have to get creative in the bedroom. Fortunately, there are plenty of toys that can help you have your best fat, queer sex with yourself or with…

Kelly J.

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Jun 5, 2023

The Roslyn Bodysuit Harness and the B.Cush Made Me Feel Hot and Horny

I took the advice of wise strappers before me and wore the harness and b.cush around the house for a while.

Guest

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May 18, 2023

Meet the Proud Pervs Behind Bedroom Besties, a New Gender-Inclusive Sex Toy Company

Bedroom Besties saw a gap in sex toy marketing. “We realized we could fill that hole — pun fully intended.”

Ro White

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May 15, 2023

How We Have Lesbian Sex

two women lying in bed with heads on stomach

Lesbian Sex: Your 15 Favorite Ways To Have It

Riese

Mar 1, 2024

SEX

13 Reasons Women In Lesbian Relationships Aren’t Having (More) Sex

“Lesbian bed death” does happen, and many lesbians feel they’re not having enough sex. But…

Riese

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Jul 28, 2023
SEX

Is Period Sex The Ultimate Lesbian Sexual Indicator?

People who want to have period sex have more and varied sex more often and…

Ryan Yates

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Feb 8, 2016
RELATIONSHIPS

You Need Help: Is She “The One”?

HOW WILL YOU EVER KNOW?

Ryan Yates

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Aug 24, 2015
SEX

87% Of Queer Women Are Into Porn or Erotica, But Not All Of It Is Lesbionic

Our latest round of results from the 2015 Ultimate Lesbian Sex Survey is all about…

Riese

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Jun 18, 2015
SEX

Here’s The Salacious Sex Statistics On Queer Women In Non-monogamous vs. Monogamous Relationships

Everything you ever wanted to know about the sex lives of the monogamous, non-monogamous, and…

Riese

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Jun 9, 2015
SEX

When Did You Do It For The First Time and How Many People Have You Done It With, Huh?

Oh you know, just the answers to everybody’s favorite two questions ever.

Riese

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May 19, 2015
SEX

Women’s Best Bet For A Synced-Up Sex Schedule Is Lesbianism

A new survey finds that men and women like having sex at totally different times…

Riese

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May 12, 2015
HEALTH

Why You Should Care About Lesbian Safer Sex (And What To Do About It)

If sexual health isn’t relevant to your interests yet, it should be.

Christy Duan

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May 5, 2015
SEX

The 100 Most Ambitious Places You’ve Had Sex

“Lost in the Dole pineapple maze in Hawaii.” “On my back in a Corolla on…

Riese

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Apr 30, 2015
SEX

Lesbian Sex Gets Women Off At Astronomical Rates, Our Sex Survey Shows

High femmes, women over 35 and people in relationships orgasm a whole lot during sex…

Riese

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Apr 29, 2015
QUEER FASHION

Here Are Your Very Queer Underwear-Wearing Habits

The Ultimate Lesbian Sex Survey knows what you’ve got on underneath those jeans, and how…

Riese

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Apr 24, 2015
SEX

41 Feelings You Had About Scissoring

How many of you scissor on the regular? And how many of you remain convinced…

Riese

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Apr 19, 2015
SEX

50 Fascinating Things You Really Wanted Us To Know About How You Have Sex

“I say a lot of things about myself during sex that I would not say…

Riese

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Apr 14, 2015
SEX

Queer Women Masturbate More Than Straight Women, Our Sex Survey Says

On the masturbation practices of the 8,566 humans who took our Ultimate Lesbian Sex Survey…

Riese

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Apr 13, 2015
SEX

The 100 Gayest Places You’ve Had Sex

” The back of a Jeep next to a beaver pond. That’s right. Beaver. Pond.…

Riese

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Apr 8, 2015
SEX

How Often Do Queer Women Have Sex?

We’ve got all the numbers on how often you have sex from our Ultimate Lesbian…

Riese

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Mar 30, 2015
SEX

26 Bits Of Solid Sex Advice You Gave Us On Autostraddle’s Lesbosexy Sex Survey

20. WASH YOUR HANDS IF YOU ATE BUFFALO WINGS BEFORE GETTING LAID, OMG.

Ryan Yates

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Feb 24, 2015

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