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breakups

Is it Okay To Write an Apology Letter To an Ex? 10 Queers Weigh In

The concept of the Breakup Apology Letter is a controversial one! Where do you land?

the team

Oct 13, 2025

"I've never been great at flirting. But even just this chemistry I have with this coworker feels 1,000x easier than when I'm intentionally trying to hit on someone in more of a dating context."

dating

‘I Can’t Tell if My Coworker Is Flirting With Me but I Kind of Hope She Is’

“At work, we already have a bunch of inside jokes, and we find excuses to hang out during the day between meetings and spend so much of our time messaging…

Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya

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Sep 3, 2024

"Should I settle for dating someone even if it doesn't feel the same way it did before with my ex?"

dating

‘I Haven’t Felt a Spark With Anyone Since My Ex’

“is it leading someone on to keep repeatedly seeing them and going on dates if I’m unsure about them?”

Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya

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Aug 27, 2024

"I really, really would like to be dating someone right now, but I feel like all I'm doing is wasting people's time by hanging out with them and hoping that a physical attraction will magically form itself."

dating

‘How Do I Date When I’m Attracted to Hardly Anyone?’

“I’ve been out and queer for a long time now, and I get quite a bit of attention from people. I have a lot of self-confidence and if I’m into…

Summer Tao

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Aug 20, 2024

Trans lesbians: a black and white collage of five queer trans women

dating

The Many Ways Trans Women Find Sapphic Love

“As a trans woman, lesbian is about how I understand my gender as completely separate from men. I don’t ascribe my gender to perform for men. It gives me space…

Eva Reign

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Aug 15, 2024

"She was my very first love, the first person I slept with, and she's always somehow been on my mind."

relationships

‘I’m Married, My Ex Just Said She’s in Love With Me, and I Don’t Know What To Do’

“I’ve done a lot of processing, but I am super confused. I don’t know what feelings are memories from the past and what is today.”

Summer Tao

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Aug 13, 2024

I know it's selfish but I liked having my girlfriend all to myself.

relationships

‘Quarantine Was Great for My Relationship’

“How do we get back to where we were without literally going back to where we were during lockdown?”

Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya

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Aug 6, 2024

gay cake toppers

first person

I Don’t Love Gay Marriage but I’m Officiating My Friends’ Gay Wedding

Oh, I love attending weddings. Yes, yes. Flirting with a bridesmaid is like a Top 10 activity for me. But marriage does not fit snugly into my personal definition of…

Rebecca

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Aug 5, 2024

masturbation scene from Poor Things

sex

How To Reframe Masturbation As ‘Solo Sex’

Like all sex acts, masturbation isn’t just about sex.

Summer Tao

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Jul 31, 2024

Sex Toy Reviews

Do You Love Porn and the Toy Story Franchise? Well, I Have Some Great News!

You've got a friend IN me?

Drew Burnett Gregory

Sex Toy Story: An animated butt plug looks sad

movie reviews

The Vesper Is a Vibrator Doubling as a Necklace Doubling as the Wingman I Didn’t Know I Needed

The whole vibrator-as-necklace thing might seem gimmicky, but the Vesper genuinely looks like a decent piece of androgynous jewelry.

Guest

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Jun 8, 2023

7 Sex Toys for Fat, Queer Sex and Masturbation

As fat folks, we have to get creative in the bedroom. Fortunately, there are plenty of toys that can help you have your best fat, queer sex with yourself or with…

Kelly J.

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Jun 5, 2023

The Roslyn Bodysuit Harness and the B.Cush Made Me Feel Hot and Horny

I took the advice of wise strappers before me and wore the harness and b.cush around the house for a while.

Guest

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May 18, 2023

Meet the Proud Pervs Behind Bedroom Besties, a New Gender-Inclusive Sex Toy Company

Bedroom Besties saw a gap in sex toy marketing. “We realized we could fill that hole — pun fully intended.”

Ro White

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May 15, 2023

How We Have Lesbian Sex

two women lying in bed with heads on stomach

Lesbian Sex: Your 15 Favorite Ways To Have It

Riese

Mar 1, 2024

SEX

13 Reasons Women In Lesbian Relationships Aren’t Having (More) Sex

“Lesbian bed death” does happen, and many lesbians feel they’re not having enough sex. But…

Riese

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Jul 28, 2023
SEX

Is Period Sex The Ultimate Lesbian Sexual Indicator?

People who want to have period sex have more and varied sex more often and…

Ryan Yates

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Feb 8, 2016
RELATIONSHIPS

You Need Help: Is She “The One”?

HOW WILL YOU EVER KNOW?

Ryan Yates

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Aug 24, 2015
SEX

87% Of Queer Women Are Into Porn or Erotica, But Not All Of It Is Lesbionic

Our latest round of results from the 2015 Ultimate Lesbian Sex Survey is all about…

Riese

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Jun 18, 2015
SEX

Here’s The Salacious Sex Statistics On Queer Women In Non-monogamous vs. Monogamous Relationships

Everything you ever wanted to know about the sex lives of the monogamous, non-monogamous, and…

Riese

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Jun 9, 2015
SEX

When Did You Do It For The First Time and How Many People Have You Done It With, Huh?

Oh you know, just the answers to everybody’s favorite two questions ever.

Riese

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May 19, 2015
SEX

Women’s Best Bet For A Synced-Up Sex Schedule Is Lesbianism

A new survey finds that men and women like having sex at totally different times…

Riese

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May 12, 2015
HEALTH

Why You Should Care About Lesbian Safer Sex (And What To Do About It)

If sexual health isn’t relevant to your interests yet, it should be.

Christy Duan

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May 5, 2015
SEX

The 100 Most Ambitious Places You’ve Had Sex

“Lost in the Dole pineapple maze in Hawaii.” “On my back in a Corolla on…

Riese

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Apr 30, 2015
SEX

Lesbian Sex Gets Women Off At Astronomical Rates, Our Sex Survey Shows

High femmes, women over 35 and people in relationships orgasm a whole lot during sex…

Riese

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Apr 29, 2015
QUEER FASHION

Here Are Your Very Queer Underwear-Wearing Habits

The Ultimate Lesbian Sex Survey knows what you’ve got on underneath those jeans, and how…

Riese

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Apr 24, 2015
SEX

41 Feelings You Had About Scissoring

How many of you scissor on the regular? And how many of you remain convinced…

Riese

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Apr 19, 2015
SEX

50 Fascinating Things You Really Wanted Us To Know About How You Have Sex

“I say a lot of things about myself during sex that I would not say…

Riese

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Apr 14, 2015
SEX

Queer Women Masturbate More Than Straight Women, Our Sex Survey Says

On the masturbation practices of the 8,566 humans who took our Ultimate Lesbian Sex Survey…

Riese

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Apr 13, 2015
SEX

The 100 Gayest Places You’ve Had Sex

” The back of a Jeep next to a beaver pond. That’s right. Beaver. Pond.…

Riese

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Apr 8, 2015
SEX

How Often Do Queer Women Have Sex?

We’ve got all the numbers on how often you have sex from our Ultimate Lesbian…

Riese

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Mar 30, 2015
SEX

26 Bits Of Solid Sex Advice You Gave Us On Autostraddle’s Lesbosexy Sex Survey

20. WASH YOUR HANDS IF YOU ATE BUFFALO WINGS BEFORE GETTING LAID, OMG.

Ryan Yates

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Feb 24, 2015

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