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breakups

Is it Okay To Write an Apology Letter To an Ex? 10 Queers Weigh In

The concept of the Breakup Apology Letter is a controversial one! Where do you land?

the team

Oct 13, 2025

relationships

Forget U-Hauling — These Queer Couples Don’t Want To Move In Together At All

You’ve heard the one about lesbians wanting to move in together on the second date, but what about the couples who aren’t looking to move in together at all?

Jillian Angelini

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Nov 13, 2024

“I just want to know if it’s possible to find a compromise or if my internal clock is gonna be messed up for the entirety of our relationship.”

relationships

‘My Partner and I Have Completely Different Concepts of Bedtime’

I really do want to be able to go to bed together.

Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya

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Nov 12, 2024

friendship

My Girlfriend and I Did a Boudoir Shoot With Our Gay Bestie and It Was Great for Self-Esteem

There was also something to be said for the beauty of women bonding platonically over sexuality.

Summer Tao

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Nov 4, 2024

relationships

The Ultimate Guide To Being Happy in a Lesbian Long Distance Relationship

For as long as there are lesbians, there will be lesbians in long distance relationships it seems.

Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya

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Oct 29, 2024

"I can’t help but feel an ick about her constantly mixing up facts about her ex with facts about me."

dating

‘My Girlfriend Thinks About Her Ex More Than She Thinks About Me’

My girlfriend will say things like “I know you hate Halloween” but here’s the thing: I feel fine about Halloween. It’s her ex who hates Halloween.

Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya

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Oct 29, 2024

"We’re technically having sex but it has gotten very monotonous, almost mechanical, like we're doing a chore."

sex

‘It’s Not Lesbian Bed Death but Something Like It’

“I don’t want to be like “let’s spice things up!” because for some reason that framing feels so idk…straight? to me.”

Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya

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Oct 22, 2024

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dating

11 Queer People Share How They Flirt

“Did Shakespeare teach me how to flirt? MAYBE SO.”

the team

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Oct 21, 2024

friendship

The Ultimate Guide to Having a Lesbian Crush on Your Friend

Find answers to questions like “should I tell her?” and “what do I do if she’s unavailable?”

Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya

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Oct 15, 2024

Sex Toy Reviews

Do You Love Porn and the Toy Story Franchise? Well, I Have Some Great News!

You've got a friend IN me?

Drew Burnett Gregory

Sex Toy Story: An animated butt plug looks sad

movie reviews

The Vesper Is a Vibrator Doubling as a Necklace Doubling as the Wingman I Didn’t Know I Needed

The whole vibrator-as-necklace thing might seem gimmicky, but the Vesper genuinely looks like a decent piece of androgynous jewelry.

Guest

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Jun 8, 2023

7 Sex Toys for Fat, Queer Sex and Masturbation

As fat folks, we have to get creative in the bedroom. Fortunately, there are plenty of toys that can help you have your best fat, queer sex with yourself or with…

Kelly J.

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Jun 5, 2023

The Roslyn Bodysuit Harness and the B.Cush Made Me Feel Hot and Horny

I took the advice of wise strappers before me and wore the harness and b.cush around the house for a while.

Guest

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May 18, 2023

Meet the Proud Pervs Behind Bedroom Besties, a New Gender-Inclusive Sex Toy Company

Bedroom Besties saw a gap in sex toy marketing. “We realized we could fill that hole — pun fully intended.”

Ro White

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May 15, 2023

How We Have Lesbian Sex

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sex

Lesbian Sex: Your 15 Favorite Ways To Have It

Riese

Mar 1, 2024

SEX

13 Reasons Women In Lesbian Relationships Aren’t Having (More) Sex

“Lesbian bed death” does happen, and many lesbians feel they’re not having enough sex. But…

Riese

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Jul 28, 2023
SEX

Is Period Sex The Ultimate Lesbian Sexual Indicator?

People who want to have period sex have more and varied sex more often and…

Ryan Yates

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Feb 8, 2016
RELATIONSHIPS

You Need Help: Is She “The One”?

HOW WILL YOU EVER KNOW?

Ryan Yates

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Aug 24, 2015
SEX

87% Of Queer Women Are Into Porn or Erotica, But Not All Of It Is Lesbionic

Our latest round of results from the 2015 Ultimate Lesbian Sex Survey is all about…

Riese

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Jun 18, 2015
SEX

Here’s The Salacious Sex Statistics On Queer Women In Non-monogamous vs. Monogamous Relationships

Everything you ever wanted to know about the sex lives of the monogamous, non-monogamous, and…

Riese

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Jun 9, 2015
SEX

When Did You Do It For The First Time and How Many People Have You Done It With, Huh?

Oh you know, just the answers to everybody’s favorite two questions ever.

Riese

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May 19, 2015
SEX

Women’s Best Bet For A Synced-Up Sex Schedule Is Lesbianism

A new survey finds that men and women like having sex at totally different times…

Riese

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May 12, 2015
HEALTH

Why You Should Care About Lesbian Safer Sex (And What To Do About It)

If sexual health isn’t relevant to your interests yet, it should be.

Christy Duan

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May 5, 2015
SEX

The 100 Most Ambitious Places You’ve Had Sex

“Lost in the Dole pineapple maze in Hawaii.” “On my back in a Corolla on…

Riese

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Apr 30, 2015
SEX

Lesbian Sex Gets Women Off At Astronomical Rates, Our Sex Survey Shows

High femmes, women over 35 and people in relationships orgasm a whole lot during sex…

Riese

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Apr 29, 2015
QUEER FASHION

Here Are Your Very Queer Underwear-Wearing Habits

The Ultimate Lesbian Sex Survey knows what you’ve got on underneath those jeans, and how…

Riese

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Apr 24, 2015
SEX

41 Feelings You Had About Scissoring

How many of you scissor on the regular? And how many of you remain convinced…

Riese

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Apr 19, 2015
SEX

50 Fascinating Things You Really Wanted Us To Know About How You Have Sex

“I say a lot of things about myself during sex that I would not say…

Riese

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Apr 14, 2015
SEX

Queer Women Masturbate More Than Straight Women, Our Sex Survey Says

On the masturbation practices of the 8,566 humans who took our Ultimate Lesbian Sex Survey…

Riese

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Apr 13, 2015
SEX

The 100 Gayest Places You’ve Had Sex

” The back of a Jeep next to a beaver pond. That’s right. Beaver. Pond.…

Riese

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Apr 8, 2015
SEX

How Often Do Queer Women Have Sex?

We’ve got all the numbers on how often you have sex from our Ultimate Lesbian…

Riese

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Mar 30, 2015
SEX

26 Bits Of Solid Sex Advice You Gave Us On Autostraddle’s Lesbosexy Sex Survey

20. WASH YOUR HANDS IF YOU ATE BUFFALO WINGS BEFORE GETTING LAID, OMG.

Ryan Yates

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Feb 24, 2015

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