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You Need Help: Can I Date While Living With My Homophobic Parents?

Dating can be amazing and wonderful. But if you currently rely on homophobic parents for material support, it may be time to focus on planning the next stage of your…

Darcy —

Apr 25, 2023

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dating

You Need Help: My Partner Won’t Say “I Love You”

Is it silly to be hung up on this?

Drew Burnett Gregory —

Apr 18, 2023

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dating

You Need Help: On Dating During a Health Scare

I am sending you and your person all my love and wishes for competent and compassionate medical care, swift healing, and fruitful conversations in the future about your growing relationship.

Heather Hogan —

Apr 11, 2023

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dating

You Need Help: Can I Open My Relationship and Have Casual Sex Without Relying On The Apps?

Sure, maybe some nights you’ll encounter a confident queer who makes a beeline for you and starts chatting, but you know how you can guarantee a confident queer is in…

Vanessa —

Apr 4, 2023

april fools day or whatever

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comedy

You Need Help: Your Girlfriend Is Literally a Vampire

The reason your girlfriend is behaving like this is because she’s literally a vampire. I would know, because I’m also a vampire.

Fright Dyke —

Apr 1, 2023

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lesbian sex

You Need Help: How Can I Deal With My Own Sexual Shame?

I want you to know that your shame is not uncommon and you’re not alone in feeling it. While it does take a long time to undo, you’re on the…

Aliyah Moore —

Mar 21, 2023

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relationships

You Need Help: My Partner and I Disagree About Our COVID Risk Reduction Practices

Sometimes, after dealing with an active crisis as a team, it’s the period afterward that can start to pull us apart. There’s more time and space for your individual needs…

Darcy —

Mar 14, 2023

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friendship

You Need Help: Should I Try Again To Turn a Friendship Into Romance?

You have to evaluate if you can experience the friendship not as a consolation prize or a waystation for your ultimate destiny of romantic partnership with them but as a…

Adrian —

Mar 7, 2023

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coming out

You Need Help: How Can I Be My Authentic Self While Navigating Bi-Erasure and Biphobia?

You can’t control other people’s reactions to your coming out. But you can create for yourself a network of people who unequivocally support your bisexuality/queerness and who understand the specific…

Casey —

Feb 28, 2023

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dating

You Need Help: How Do I Flirt When I’m Worried About Coming On Too Strong

I’m black and masculine so I’m worried that if I tried to make a move it would come off too strong, which I know I really shouldn’t but we live…

Em Win —

Feb 21, 2023

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You Need Help: My Partner Keeps Saying We’re Going to Break Up!

The fact that you feel affected by what your partner tells you, even when they’re not their best self, is not inappropriate or bad. It’s human.

Darcy —

Feb 14, 2023

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You Need Help: I Think My Partner Is Emotionally Cheating On Me

The idea that we must save our intimate, intense feelings only for our partners is a deeply heteronormative one, and I don’t want us to adhere to it.

KaeLyn —

Feb 7, 2023

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You Need Help: Can I Date While Living With My Homophobic Parents?

You Need Help: My Partner Won’t Say “I Love You”

You Need Help: On Dating During a Health Scare

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You Need Help: Your Girlfriend Is Literally a Vampire

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You Need Help: My Partner and I Disagree About Our COVID Risk Reduction Practices

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You Need Help: How Can I Be My Authentic Self While Navigating Bi-Erasure and Biphobia?

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You Need Help: My Partner Keeps Saying We’re Going to Break Up!

You Need Help: I Think My Partner Is Emotionally Cheating On Me