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You Need Help: Am I Her Best Friend or Am I Being Emotionally Manipulated?

It’s possible your needs and views when it comes to intimacy are incompatible.

Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya —

Aug 22, 2023

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gender

You Need Help: I Feel Disconnected From Gender As a Concept

“Identifying as a woman doesn’t feel right, but affirmatively identifying as ‘not a woman’ also doesn’t feel right.”

Riese —

Aug 15, 2023

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trans men

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dating

You Need Help: I’m Afraid of Feeling Like Less of a Trans Man for Not Dating Men

Cool people who will appreciate you as a whole person exist, and I believe you can find them.

Nico —

Aug 8, 2023

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dating

You Need Help: When Is the Right Time To Talk About Being Exclusive in a Relationship?

And do I have to have the conversation in person when we’re long distance?

Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya —

Aug 1, 2023

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friendship

You Need Help: I Miss the Social Intimacy of Church

How can I build meaningful and lasting friendships?

Em Win —

Jul 25, 2023

non-binary

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gender

You Need Help: How Do I Navigate Misgendering as a Nonbinary Femme?

Your work is not to make yourself more palatable to those who might misunderstand you. Your work is to be your glorious full self, too complex to be pigeonholed by…

Darcy —

Jul 18, 2023

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breakups

You Need Help: Should I Go No Contact With My Ex?

Exes don’t HAVE to be friends but also don’t HAVE to be enemies.

Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya —

Jul 11, 2023

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love + sex

You Need Help: Am I Being Unreasonable for Feeling Undesired by My Girlfriend?

I think the topic of Asian desire doesn’t get nuanced attention often enough.

himani —

Jul 4, 2023

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parenting & family

You Need Help: My Sister Loves Me, the Sinner, but Hates the Sin

I’ve been willing to put this aside and accept the love she’s willing to give me. But it’s all come to a head now that my health insurance finally approved…

himani —

Jun 27, 2023

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relationships

You Need Help: How Can I Make Long Distance More Bearable?

Long distance will always be challenging; here are the ways you can strengthen the way you navigate those challenges.

Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya —

Jun 20, 2023

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dating

You Need Help: How Do I Convince My Girlfriend That I Care?

It sounds like she’s looking for something you just can’t give her, and that’s okay. Your life is very full at the moment. It’s not too full for the right…

Darcy —

Jun 13, 2023

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dating

You Need Help: I’m Uncertain About Wanting Kids, So Should I Only Date People Who Are Uncertain Too?

I’ve changed my mind about wanting kids throughout life, and that’s okay.

Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya —

Jun 6, 2023