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gender

You Need Help: As a Transmasc, Am I Welcome in Lesbian Spaces?

You see, for me and you, dating women wasn’t the only thing that made us lesbians or gay. It’s an entire culture with a rich history of tradition, identity, protest,…

Motti —

Jan 9, 2024

breakups

You Need Help: I’m Not Sure I Want To Be Friends With My Ex

Sometimes the hardest thing to do is to lean into your gut feeling.

Em Win —

Jan 2, 2024

holigays

You Need Help: How Do I Become Less Afraid of New Year’s and the Expectations it Brings?

This time of year inherently brings stress, so please treat yourself with kindness.

Em Win —

Dec 26, 2023

dating

You Need Help: Wanting To Move In Together but Unsure About Sharing Bed With Dog

“My girlfriend has a super sweet lab mix who I love dearly, but I’m very new to the concept of sleeping with a dog in the bed. I thought they…

Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya —

Dec 19, 2023

health

You Need Help: Can My Spouse and I Boil Our Menstrual Cups Together?

“Is there any sanitary reason NOT to?”

Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya —

Dec 12, 2023

relationships

You Need Help: How Do I Make Myself Like My Girlfriend’s Cat?

You already did things right by talking about this before moving in together. Now it’s time to talk some more.

Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya —

Dec 5, 2023

money + work

You Need Help: My Work Mentee Came Out to Me but I Didn’t Come Out to Her

There’s definitely a middle ground here: You can come out but also be clear about your boundary of not wanting to discuss your own identity in depth.

Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya —

Nov 28, 2023

dating

You Need Help: Am I Invisible to Other LGBTQIA People?

There isn’t a secret formula for attracting others, but confidence does go a long way.

Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya —

Nov 21, 2023

dating

You Need Help: Dating Makes Me Sad

The best thing you can do for your dating life right now is to actually take a break from dating.

Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya —

Nov 14, 2023

relationships

You Need Help: I Moved Closer to My Girlfriend but She’s Too Busy for Me

The person who moved shouldn’t be the only person experiencing change.

Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya —

Nov 7, 2023

identity

You Need Help: Am I Erasing Bisexuality?

There are many people who will try to be strict about the definition of “bisexual” and “lesbian.” At times, I have been that person. I have also been a person…

Analyssa —

Oct 31, 2023

dating

You Need Help: How Can I Date When I’m So Scared To?

Dating requires so much vulnerability, and a fear of rejection can be such a roadblock. So, what can we do to confront that roadblock?

Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya —

Oct 24, 2023