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You Need Help: Dating Makes Me Sad

The best thing you can do for your dating life right now is to actually take a break from dating.

Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya —

Nov 14, 2023

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You Need Help: I Moved Closer to My Girlfriend but She’s Too Busy for Me

The person who moved shouldn’t be the only person experiencing change.

Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya —

Nov 7, 2023

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identity

You Need Help: Am I Erasing Bisexuality?

There are many people who will try to be strict about the definition of “bisexual” and “lesbian.” At times, I have been that person. I have also been a person…

Analyssa —

Oct 31, 2023

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You Need Help: How Can I Date When I’m So Scared To?

Dating requires so much vulnerability, and a fear of rejection can be such a roadblock. So, what can we do to confront that roadblock?

Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya —

Oct 24, 2023

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breakups

You Need Help: How Do I Get Over the First Woman I Slept With?

Focusing your energy on moving on and healing rather than trying to reconnect is the best path forward — and not just for you, but for her, too.

Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya —

Oct 17, 2023

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You Need Help: Your Wife Doesn’t Want Sex, but There’s Something Deeper Here

You are telling me one thing, which is that your wife and you communicate well and she cares for you, and then I am seeing something different, which is that…

Nico —

Oct 10, 2023

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