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You Need Help: How Do I Get More Comfortable With Dirty Talk?

We learn so much about how people act during sex from TV and movies, and those people always seem to know exactly when to moan or how to say the…

Sa’iyda Shabazz —

Mar 26, 2024

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You Need Help: Everyone Thinks I’m Lying To Myself About My Gender

“If you were to ask me my gender, I’d say ‘lesbian.’ The problem is people in my life will not stop asking me if I’m nonbinary or trans. Everyone keeps…

Riese —

Mar 19, 2024

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You Need Help: All I Want Is a Relationship But I Can’t Make it Past the First Date

“How do I somehow give off that I’m girlfriend material? I just want to be wanted back for a change.”

Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya —

Mar 12, 2024

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You Need Help: I Don’t Get Excited To See My Girlfriend

“I feel guilty about being so confused and not being able to decide if I like her or not. I’m worried that I’m leading her on.”

Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya —

Mar 5, 2024

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You Need Help: How Do I Date With Devastatingly Low Self-Esteem?

Approach cultivating a friendship with yourself as you would with other people.

Em Win —

Feb 27, 2024

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You Need Help: I Want To Ask My Couple Friends Out but Don’t Know if They’re Poly

“I have a crush on a lesbian couple I know, and I want to test the waters to see if they might be interested in dating, but I don’t want…

Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya —

Feb 20, 2024

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You Need Help: You Should Divorce Your Transphobic Wife

Your wife fell in love with you and built a life with you and you’re a woman. You didn’t become a woman. You didn’t trick her into being queer —…

Drew Burnett Gregory —

Feb 13, 2024

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You Need Help: How Do I Ask My Girlfriend To Freshen Up Before Sex Without Killing Our Sex Life?

Your girlfriend is putting a lot of trust in you, and that trust should be honored and celebrated.

ashni —

Feb 6, 2024

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You Need Help: I’m Too ‘Old’ for This New Generation of Queers

I’m so sorry the people you’re around have made you feel unwelcome because you don’t follow their narrow definition of what being a queer woman looks like.

Sa’iyda Shabazz —

Jan 30, 2024

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You Need Help: What If You Never Want To Move In Together?

“I asked her if there’s a world in which we always live separately but still spend most nights together, and she didn’t say no but she also said she was…

Riese —

Jan 23, 2024

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You Need Help: I Was in a Relationship With Someone Who Didn’t Like Me

Does anybody have experience feeling angry with a person after the break up and the anger kind of growing?

Em Win —

Jan 16, 2024

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You Need Help: As a Transmasc, Am I Welcome in Lesbian Spaces?

You see, for me and you, dating women wasn’t the only thing that made us lesbians or gay. It’s an entire culture with a rich history of tradition, identity, protest,…

motti —

Jan 9, 2024