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parenting & family

You Need Help: Should I Cut Off My Racist Dad?

My family is part of the problem, but if I choose to just ignore this fact, do I become part of the problem too?

Ro White —

Jul 2, 2020

covid-19

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relationships

You Need Help: Quarantine Smothered My Sex Drive

If you use this opportunity to sharpen your communication, your dynamic will be stronger (and hotter) on the other side of a crisis.

Ro White —

May 26, 2020

advice

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Into the A+ Advice Box #12: Bisexual Marriage Blues, Sexting as a Bottom, and More!

Why does gay male sex turn you on if you’re a lesbian and is it okay? Plus, conflicting ideas about isolating & dating during quarantine, cheering up your partner over…

the team —

May 22, 2020

covid-19

gender identity

gender

You Need Help: Gender Feels in Quarantine

Your rawness and tenderness is a primal signal that you are alive. It’s exhausting and there’s no way to turn it off. Let yourself breathe through this, and trust that…

Adrian —

May 14, 2020

bisexuality

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community

You Need Help: How Do I Know if I’m Bisexual or a Lesbian and Find Community?

There’s who you’re physically/romantically attracted to, and then there’s who you want to date, and then there’s who you want to sleep with — and all of these can be…

Abbie Jones —

Apr 28, 2020

love is a lie

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breakups

You Need Help: Will I Ever Get Over My First Ex or Is Closure a Myth

Closure is a choice — often one you have to make on your own. And it’s absolutely okay to not be friends with an ex.

Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya —

Apr 21, 2020

covid-19

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af+

Into the A+ Advice Box: Quarantine Special Edition

Help! Your girlfriend is quarantined three hours away, your roommate’s partner moved into the apartment during the shut down without your consent, dying your hair before that next work Zoom…

The Editors —

Apr 20, 2020

love is a lie

you need help

breakups

You Need Help: How Do I Stop Thinking About the Ex Who Cheated on Me?

Betrayal burrows into brains. When cheating comes to light, there’s a tendency to obsess over the minute details. You’ll replay things in your head, wonder how they were able to…

Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya —

Apr 14, 2020

covid-19

you need help

breakups

You Need Help: Should I Get Back Together With My Ex During the Coronavirus Pandemic?

During a time like this, the impulse to want your ex is like the impulse some may have to want their mom. It’s carnal.

Drew Burnett Gregory —

Apr 8, 2020

you need help

breakups

You Need Help: Should We Break Up In Quarantine?

Self-isolation is forcing all of us to reflect. Maybe that’s not so bad.

Ro White —

Apr 7, 2020

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mental health

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Into the A+ Advice Box #11: Meeting the Parents, Department Drama, Friend Breakups and More!

Recovering after being ghosted, dealing with queer tokenism, knowing if you’re a top or a bottom, straight people are STILL not ok, and did that organizer ask you for an…

the team —

Mar 26, 2020

covid-19

you need help

breakups

Tempted to Check on Your Ex? Check on Someone Else’s Ex Instead!

More than a few people have been tempted to reach out to their ex as social distancing measures have ramped up. More than a few have acted on that temptation.…

himani —

Mar 18, 2020