you need help

you need help

breakups

You Need Help: Why Do I Miss My Terrible Ex?


When relationships end, we might feel angry or wistful or hurt. Giving ourselves space for all of those feelings is how we bust through the pain and turn it into…

Ro White —

Feb 4, 2020

transgender

you need help

money + work

You Need Help: How Do I Come Out as Trans at Work?

Here are some tips to come out at work as safely as possible, and it requires a little bit of preparation in and out of the office.

Archie —

Feb 3, 2020

into the af+ advice box

you need help

af+

Into the A+ Advice Box #10: Is She Straight or Into You? Can You Dress Gay? and More!

Be the cool queer cousin you wished for as a kid, the polite way to turn someone down, sex is still great without an orgasm, creating your own queer community…

the team —

Jan 31, 2020

bisexuality

non-monogamy

relationships

You Need Help: Why Am I So Tempted to Cheat?

Cheating is a form of escape from our current situation; it allows us to momentarily be with someone else, maybe even be someone else, for a night. Honesty has consequences.…

Archie —

Jan 21, 2020

mental health

you need help

health

You Have a Crush on Your Therapist: An Exposé About Transference

Having an hour a week devoted to being listened to can lend itself to a misdirection of feelings. It’s easy to dismiss this as a harmless crush, but it can…

danijanae —

Jan 15, 2020

mental health

you need help

health

You Need Help: Stop Gaslighting Yourself

What would it feel like to move forward with curiosity, rather than relying on the comforting familiarity of self-doubt?

Christina Tesoro —

Jan 14, 2020

advice

sex work

friendship

You Need Help: So Your Best Friend Is a SWERF

If you are out to your friend, or are thinking of coming out to her, and she still holds fast to her SWERF-y beliefs even after you explain how it…

Janis Luna —

Jan 10, 2020

sex advice

you need help

lesbian sex

You Need Help: My Partner Can’t Have an Orgasm

“Release yourself from responsibility. You are not the keeper of your partner’s orgasms. You’re a supporting character. Your partner should play the protagonist in their Great Orgasm Quest.”

Ro White —

Jan 6, 2020

mental health

you need help

health

You Need Help: Is It Time To Break Up With My Therapist?

What kinda of things are okay to expect from therapy? Should I switch therapists?

Ro White —

Dec 26, 2019

you need help

friendship

You Need Help: You’re In Love With Your Best Friend

“I want to be supportive and happy for her about this new relationship, but instead I have found myself feeling jealous and bitter. It has become increasingly painful for me…

Christina Tucker —

Dec 23, 2019

trans women

transgender

gender

You Need Help: How To Be A Trans Lesbian

Make sure to be kind and generous to yourself, give yourself plenty of time to process all of these important feelings, and don’t rush it!

Abbie Jones —

Dec 16, 2019

hanukkah

you need help

christmas

There’s No Right (or Wrong) Way to Go Home for the Holidays

No matter what happens, this is a firm truth: You deserve to be seen, affirmed, and loved for exactly who you are.

Heather Hogan —

Nov 27, 2019