you need help

love is a lie

you need help

breakups

You Need Help: Will I Ever Get Over My First Ex or Is Closure a Myth

Closure is a choice — often one you have to make on your own. And it’s absolutely okay to not be friends with an ex.

Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya —

Apr 21, 2020

covid-19

into the af+ advice box

af+

Into the A+ Advice Box: Quarantine Special Edition

Help! Your girlfriend is quarantined three hours away, your roommate’s partner moved into the apartment during the shut down without your consent, dying your hair before that next work Zoom…

The Editors —

Apr 20, 2020

love is a lie

you need help

breakups

You Need Help: How Do I Stop Thinking About the Ex Who Cheated on Me?

Betrayal burrows into brains. When cheating comes to light, there’s a tendency to obsess over the minute details. You’ll replay things in your head, wonder how they were able to…

Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya —

Apr 14, 2020

covid-19

you need help

breakups

You Need Help: Should I Get Back Together With My Ex During the Coronavirus Pandemic?

During a time like this, the impulse to want your ex is like the impulse some may have to want their mom. It’s carnal.

Drew Burnett Gregory —

Apr 8, 2020

you need help

breakups

You Need Help: Should We Break Up In Quarantine?

Self-isolation is forcing all of us to reflect. Maybe that’s not so bad.

Ro White —

Apr 7, 2020

into the af+ advice box

mental health

af+

Into the A+ Advice Box #11: Meeting the Parents, Department Drama, Friend Breakups and More!

Recovering after being ghosted, dealing with queer tokenism, knowing if you’re a top or a bottom, straight people are STILL not ok, and did that organizer ask you for an…

the team —

Mar 26, 2020

covid-19

you need help

breakups

Tempted to Check on Your Ex? Check on Someone Else’s Ex Instead!

More than a few people have been tempted to reach out to their ex as social distancing measures have ramped up. More than a few have acted on that temptation.…

himani —

Mar 18, 2020

you need help

breakups

You Need Help: Should I Move in With Someone I Used to Date?

Moving in with a former sweetie might sound cute, queer and emotionally mature, but you better have a very good reason to take on the challenge.

Ro White —

Mar 17, 2020

you need help

friendship

You Need Help: Is My Friend Flirting With Me? Do I Want Them to Be?

“Should I initiate a conversation with them about our relationship to see if they want more than a friendship? I’m afraid of embarrassing myself/making it awkward/losing the friendship.”

danijanae —

Mar 10, 2020

pizza party friday

you need help

house & garden

Ask The Plant Doctor: You Have Questions About Your Houseplants, Cee Has Answers

Want help diagnosing your sick plant? Curious about houseplant pests? Just wanna talk about your favorite plants? What about sharing a PLANT SELFIE?

cee —

Feb 21, 2020

coming out a little later

look into this

coming out

You Need Help: How Do I Let Go of Feeling Guilty After Coming Out Late in Life?

I’m happy and grateful to be out, but I can’t get past feeling like I have created pain and difficulty for so many people.

himani —

Feb 18, 2020

bisexuality

polyamory

relationships

You Need Help: How Do I Navigate Being Monogam-ish With My Bi Girlfriend?

“Right off the top, it’s crucial for me to say this: being monogamous and being bisexual are not mutually exclusive. This is a really problematic stereotype that has to go,…

Abbie Jones —

Feb 14, 2020