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You Need Help: Why Do I Keep Crushing on Straight White Guys?

The dynamic between white men and Asian partners is uncomfortable. There’s always a worry that they’re interested in what you represent, not who you are.

KaeLyn —

Sep 29, 2020

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coming out

You Need Help: My Mom Is Offended I Didn’t Come Out To Her Sooner

Your mom is making this about herself, and it’s not fair to you.

Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya —

Sep 22, 2020

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sex

You Need Help: What If I’m Bad At Sex?

No one is bad at sex.

Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya —

Sep 15, 2020

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sex

You Need Help: Are There Exercises For Better Finger Sex?

Stretching can certainly prevent your muscles from getting sore, but focusing on your posture and form will give you the best finger sex results.

Ro White —

Sep 8, 2020

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health

You Need Help: How Do I Become the Protagonist of My Own Life?

Who were your fictional heroes? What were the stories that were told to you in the songs that you played on loop? Who were the artists who sang them, and…

Christina Tesoro —

Sep 3, 2020

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relationships

You Need Help: My Partner and I Have Different Sex Drives

You can’t change your partner, or her sex drive. All you can change is the situation you’re in.

Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya —

Sep 1, 2020

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friendship

You Need Help: My Friend Has a Crush on Me

“She promised not to make things awkward between us, since she knows I’m not available, and hoped it wouldn’t make things awkward on my end – but here’s the problem.…

danijanae —

Aug 11, 2020

covid-19

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You Need Help: Can I Tell My Poly Roommate Not to See Her Partners Because of Coronavirus?

It becomes increasingly difficult to ask individuals to make huge personal sacrifices, at great cost, when it is clear the government is doing almost nothing to move us toward a…

Vanessa —

Aug 4, 2020

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breakups

You Need Help: Is It Normal To Be Happy In a Relationship and Still Think About an Ex?

Time won’t necessarily “fix” it, but the more distance you have from the relationship and the more time you invest in healthy coping mechanisms, the less destabilizing these thoughts will…

Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya —

Jul 28, 2020

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mental health

friendship

You Need Help: How Do I Get My Best Friend to Go to Therapy?

“Here is the good news—your best friend does have a therapist! Here is the bad news—that therapist is you!”

Christina Tucker —

Jul 21, 2020

covid-19

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You Need Help: How Do I Stop Getting Emotionally Attached to My Pandemic Crush?

Part of decentering romantic relationships from our lives, part of being independent, part of seeking a kind of individuality that cisheteropatriarchy denies, has to include removing a value judgement from…

Drew Burnett Gregory —

Jul 14, 2020

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love + sex

You Need Help: Why Can’t I Break Up With Them?

You owe it to yourself and your partner to be honest.

Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya —

Jul 7, 2020