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lesbian sex

You Need Help: My Partner and I Have Different Sex Drives

You can’t change your partner, or her sex drive. All you can change is the situation you’re in.

Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya —

Sep 1, 2020

look into this

you need help

friendship

You Need Help: My Friend Has a Crush on Me

“She promised not to make things awkward between us, since she knows I’m not available, and hoped it wouldn’t make things awkward on my end – but here’s the problem.…

danijanae —

Aug 11, 2020

covid-19

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dating

You Need Help: Can I Tell My Poly Roommate Not to See Her Partners Because of Coronavirus?

It becomes increasingly difficult to ask individuals to make huge personal sacrifices, at great cost, when it is clear the government is doing almost nothing to move us toward a…

Vanessa —

Aug 4, 2020

you need help

breakups

You Need Help: Is It Normal To Be Happy In a Relationship and Still Think About an Ex?

Time won’t necessarily “fix” it, but the more distance you have from the relationship and the more time you invest in healthy coping mechanisms, the less destabilizing these thoughts will…

Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya —

Jul 28, 2020

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mental health

friendship

You Need Help: How Do I Get My Best Friend to Go to Therapy?

“Here is the good news—your best friend does have a therapist! Here is the bad news—that therapist is you!”

Christina Tucker —

Jul 21, 2020

covid-19

you need help

dating

You Need Help: How Do I Stop Getting Emotionally Attached to My Pandemic Crush?

Part of decentering romantic relationships from our lives, part of being independent, part of seeking a kind of individuality that cisheteropatriarchy denies, has to include removing a value judgement from…

Drew Burnett Gregory —

Jul 14, 2020

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love + sex

You Need Help: Why Can’t I Break Up With Them?

You owe it to yourself and your partner to be honest.

Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya —

Jul 7, 2020

family

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parenting & family

You Need Help: Should I Cut Off My Racist Dad?

My family is part of the problem, but if I choose to just ignore this fact, do I become part of the problem too?

Ro White —

Jul 2, 2020

covid-19

you need help

lesbian sex

You Need Help: Quarantine Smothered My Sex Drive

If you use this opportunity to sharpen your communication, your dynamic will be stronger (and hotter) on the other side of a crisis.

Ro White —

May 26, 2020

advice

into the af+ advice box

af+

Into the A+ Advice Box #12: Bisexual Marriage Blues, Sexting as a Bottom, and More!

Why does gay male sex turn you on if you’re a lesbian and is it okay? Plus, conflicting ideas about isolating & dating during quarantine, cheering up your partner over…

the team —

May 22, 2020

covid-19

gender identity

gender

You Need Help: Gender Feels in Quarantine

Your rawness and tenderness is a primal signal that you are alive. It’s exhausting and there’s no way to turn it off. Let yourself breathe through this, and trust that…

Adrian —

May 14, 2020

bisexuality

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community

You Need Help: How Do I Know if I’m Bisexual or a Lesbian and Find Community?

There’s who you’re physically/romantically attracted to, and then there’s who you want to date, and then there’s who you want to sleep with — and all of these can be…

Abbie Jones —

Apr 28, 2020