you need help

you need help

breakups

You Need Help: Was I Ghosted Or Am I Their Backup?

The pandemic has made ghosting easier for those who might otherwise act like mortals.

Ro White —

Nov 10, 2020

#PolyamoryProblems

advice

relationships

#PolyamoryProblems: The Way My Partner Engages With Her Other Partner Makes Me Uncomfortable, What Should I Do?

Boundaries are our manifestations of how we deserve to be treated and what we will accept from others.

DaemonumX —

Nov 2, 2020

education

look into this

coming out

You Need Help: I Never Imagined I’d Live Past 20. Now What?

Babe, I promise you’re right on time. In 2020 I can’t be sure of hardly anything, but I am sure that you are good. You belong right where you are,…

Adrian —

Oct 27, 2020

you need help

breakups

You Need Help: Am I Really “Over Them” Enough to Date New People?

There is no quantifiable metric for being over someone. If you’re ready to date, you’re ready to date.

Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya —

Oct 19, 2020

you need help

breakups

You Need Help: How Can I Be a ‘Good Ex’?

Relationships change. Relationships end. It’s not inconsiderate to move forward; sometimes being a good ex means maintaining boundaries.

Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya —

Oct 13, 2020

you need help

dating

You Need Help: Is It Okay to Date My Ex’s Friend?

No matter how cautious we try to be, we are going to hurt people. The question then becomes: when is it worth it?

Drew Burnett Gregory —

Oct 6, 2020

#PolyamoryProblems

advice

relationships

#PolyamoryProblems: Opening Your Relationship 101

Welcome to the first installment of #PolyamoryProblems, a new advice column on Autostraddle. There are countless things I wish I had known before I started out, and lucky for you…

DaemonumX —

Oct 5, 2020

bisexuality

you need help

dating

You Need Help: Why Do I Keep Crushing on Straight White Guys?

The dynamic between white men and Asian partners is uncomfortable. There’s always a worry that they’re interested in what you represent, not who you are.

KaeLyn —

Sep 29, 2020

you need help

coming out

You Need Help: My Mom Is Offended I Didn’t Come Out To Her Sooner

Your mom is making this about herself, and it’s not fair to you.

Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya —

Sep 22, 2020

you need help

lesbian sex

You Need Help: What If I’m Bad At Sex?

No one is bad at sex.

Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya —

Sep 15, 2020

you need help

lesbian sex

You Need Help: Are There Exercises For Better Finger Sex?

Stretching can certainly prevent your muscles from getting sore, but focusing on your posture and form will give you the best finger sex results.

Ro White —

Sep 8, 2020

advice

look into this

health

You Need Help: How Do I Become the Protagonist of My Own Life?

Who were your fictional heroes? What were the stories that were told to you in the songs that you played on loop? Who were the artists who sang them, and…

Christina Tesoro —

Sep 3, 2020