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asexuality

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sex

You Need Help: How Do I Explore Casual Sex If I’m Demisexual?

If you’re feeling sexual desire for friends or if you like the idea of a “friends with benefits” situation, then it seems that most widely-accepted definition of “demisexual” still encompasses…

Ro White —

Apr 13, 2021

bisexuality

quarantine

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love + sex

You Need Help: Is It a Crush Or Am I Just Lonely in Quarantine?

“How do I know this isn’t some quarantine induced haze and I’m just projecting my feelings of loneliness onto her?”

Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya —

Apr 6, 2021

#PolyamoryProblems

advice

sex

#PolyamoryProblems: How to Approach Safer Sex with Multiple Partners

Polyamory is all fun and games until you get an STI from one partner and then your other partner shames you for it. STIs aren’t fun, but they do happen.…

DaemonumX —

Apr 5, 2021

trans women

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relationships

You Need Help: How Do I Be a Good Partner to My Trans Girlfriend?

Being too eager or too worried about saying the right thing can be just as alienating as disapproval.

Drew Burnett Gregory —

Mar 30, 2021

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breakups

You Need Help: How Do I Stop Focusing on My Ex in Shared Queer Spaces?

Remind yourself that your life is your life and that you don’t need validation from her.

Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya —

Mar 23, 2021

femmes

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gender

You Need Help: How Do I Navigate Femme Invisibility Without Changing Who I Am?

“You mention that you don’t want to shout that you are a lesbian from the rooftops, and of course, there are places that would be unsafe to do that —…

Christina Tucker —

Mar 16, 2021

covid-19

quarantine

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breakups

You Need Help: How Do I Break Up During a Pandemic?

My advice for folks who KNOW that they want to break up with their partner is almost always the same: Break up with your partner!

Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya —

Mar 2, 2021

kink

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sex

You Need Help: I’m Queer, Kinky, and Monogamous — Will I Be Alone Forever?

You need to find ways to happiness whether you remain single or whether you find your ultimate kinky monogamous life partner.

Vanessa —

Feb 9, 2021

you need help

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breakups

You Need Help: How Do I Survive My First Breakup to Stay Friends on the Other Side?

Moving on doesn’t mean forgetting the past, but it does require some space to let your brain and heart breathe.

Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya —

Jan 26, 2021

covid-19

mental health

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relationships

You Need Help: How Can I Help My Partner With COVID Anxiety?

When your anxiety stems from a valid concern about a real and terrifying threat, it’s hard to draw the line between reasonable fear and full-blown panic – here are some…

Ro White —

Jan 19, 2021

advice

body positivity

dating

Assume Everyone Thinks You’re Hot, I’m Serious

The confident vibe you get from me? The “naturally sexy” way you (might) think I am? It’s not natural at all. It’s a choice; it can be learned. Here’s how!

Vanessa —

Jan 11, 2021

you need help

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relationships

You Need Help: Your Partner Won’t Give You Space

She’s isolating you from the things that make you a capable, confident, well-rounded person, and when you adhere to her rules, you’re enabling codependency.

Ro White —

Jan 5, 2021