you need help

femmes

you need help

gender

You Need Help: How Do I Navigate Femme Invisibility Without Changing Who I Am?

“You mention that you don’t want to shout that you are a lesbian from the rooftops, and of course, there are places that would be unsafe to do that —…

Christina Tucker —

Mar 16, 2021

covid-19

quarantine

breakups

You Need Help: How Do I Break Up During a Pandemic?

My advice for folks who KNOW that they want to break up with their partner is almost always the same: Break up with your partner!

Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya —

Mar 2, 2021

kink

you need help

lesbian sex

You Need Help: I’m Queer, Kinky, and Monogamous — Will I Be Alone Forever?

You need to find ways to happiness whether you remain single or whether you find your ultimate kinky monogamous life partner.

Vanessa —

Feb 9, 2021

you need help

breakups

You Need Help: How Do I Survive My First Breakup to Stay Friends on the Other Side?

Moving on doesn’t mean forgetting the past, but it does require some space to let your brain and heart breathe.

Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya —

Jan 26, 2021

covid-19

mental health

relationships

You Need Help: How Can I Help My Partner With COVID Anxiety?

When your anxiety stems from a valid concern about a real and terrifying threat, it’s hard to draw the line between reasonable fear and full-blown panic – here are some…

Ro White —

Jan 19, 2021

advice

body positivity

dating

Assume Everyone Thinks You’re Hot, I’m Serious

The confident vibe you get from me? The “naturally sexy” way you (might) think I am? It’s not natural at all. It’s a choice; it can be learned. Here’s how!

Vanessa —

Jan 11, 2021

you need help

relationships

You Need Help: Your Partner Won’t Give You Space

She’s isolating you from the things that make you a capable, confident, well-rounded person, and when you adhere to her rules, you’re enabling codependency.

Ro White —

Jan 5, 2021

covid-19

quarantine

breakups

You Need Help: My Partner’s Pandemic Practices Suck and I Want to Break Up

Transmitting a deadly virus doesn’t exactly say “I love you,” so it makes sense that this particular conflict is bringing up big questions about your relationship.

Ro White —

Dec 15, 2020

#PolyamoryProblems

advice

breakups

#PolyamoryProblems: How Do I Know When It’s Time To Break Up?

The idea of breaking up, and/or transitioning your relationship to platonic as somehow a failure or throwing something away is one of those pesky ideas we need to unlearn.

DaemonumX —

Dec 7, 2020

you need help

breakups

You Need Help: How Do I Get Over Breaking My Ex’s Heart?

Breaking up with someone does not make you an asshole.

Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya —

Dec 1, 2020

you need help

friendship

You Need Help: My Friend Is Late to Everything

“He has been, without fail, late to everything we’ve ever planned. His tardiness ranges from one to three hours. Sometimes, I wait an hour and politely ask “what’s your ETA?”…

Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya —

Nov 24, 2020

look into this

you need help

coming out

You Need Help: I Just Came Out, and I Feel Weird

Coming out isn’t a magic trick that makes us suddenly understand ourselves completely.

Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya —

Nov 17, 2020