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You Need Help: How Do I Pursue a Beautiful Woman Without Getting My Feelings Hurt?

The very short answer is you can’t — but it’s probably still worth it to give this situationship a chance!

Vanessa —

Dec 7, 2021

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You Need Help: Trusting Yourself After Leaving an Abusive Relationship

The first thing I want to say is that I’m so sorry you had this experience with someone you loved, who you trusted. You deserve to be treated with respect…

danijanae —

Nov 30, 2021

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You Need Help: I Feel Like a Bad Queer Because I’m Not Good at Being Friends After Breakups

When we’re friends after the breakup, it has felt confusing because everything feels the same to me intimacy and connection-wise, minus the fact that we’re no longer having sex.

Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya —

Nov 23, 2021

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You Need Help: What If My Mom Hates My Girlfriend?

Of course you’re being thoughtful about if, when and how you’ll introduce your girlfriend to your family — given your mom’s previous actions, there’s a chance she won’t grant you…

Ro White —

Nov 16, 2021

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You Need Help: I’ve Never Had a Date and I’m So Lonely

The bad news is the answer to loneliness is not necessarily found on dating apps. The good news is you can meet people other ways.

Vanessa —

Nov 9, 2021

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You Need Help: I Don’t Want Kids But My Partner Might, Does This Mean We Can’t Get Married?

Our present selves can’t make promises for our future selves. Your partner is telling you what she knows about herself today. Is that enough?

Vanessa —

Nov 2, 2021

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You Need Help: I’ve Matched With the Same Person Three Times on Tinder

We started chatting, and it was going well until she abruptly stopped replying.

Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya —

Oct 26, 2021

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You Need Help: Is It Really Over?

I had no choice but to accept her decision, but it really hurts, as I feel blind-sided and it’s hard to come to terms with what happened.

himani —

Oct 19, 2021

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You Need Help: I’m Closeted, How Do I Get Everyone to Stop Asking If “I’ve Found a Man”?

I am not of the belief that “everyone should come out in order to live their best lives,” but I do want to acknowledge how incredibly difficult it is to…

himani —

Oct 12, 2021

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