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You Need Help: Your Girlfriend Has No Friends

Ultimately, you should remember that it’s up to your girlfriend to do the work of making friends, not you. I would encourage you to find a way to cheer her…

Em Win —

Feb 1, 2022

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You Need Help: Your Future In-Laws Won’t Come to Your Wedding

It’s obvious you love your fiancé very much, and want to protect them from any agony the world wants to hurl at them. Unfortunately, you mostly can’t. But here’s what…

Heather Hogan —

Jan 25, 2022

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You Need Help: Can I Flirt With My Crushes Without Being Seen as Predatory?

I think this trope has held so many lesbians back from making moves and finding love with someone they’re interested in. You’re not gonna come off as predatory just by…

danijanae —

Jan 11, 2022

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You Need Help: How Do I Get My Friend Out of Her Toxic Relationship?

It can be really hard to watch a friend in a relationship that doesn’t seem good for them. At the same time, this situation isn’t entirely yours to fix or…

Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya —

Jan 4, 2022

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You Need Help: Will I Ever Grow Out Of The Messy Questioning Phase?

Accept the messy questioning phase. It’s the whole point of being alive.

Vanessa —

Dec 28, 2021

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You Need Help: How Can I Make Penetration Less Painful?

You shouldn’t have pain during sex. If you want to explore penetration, that has to be a choice you’re making for your own pleasure.

Ro White —

Dec 21, 2021

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You Need Help: I Don’t Know How To Be a Casual Friend

It sounds like you want to be neutral with your former friend. That will take some work and some boundary-setting on your part, but it’s doable.

Vanessa —

Dec 14, 2021

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You Need Help: How Do I Pursue a Beautiful Woman Without Getting My Feelings Hurt?

The very short answer is you can’t — but it’s probably still worth it to give this situationship a chance!

Vanessa —

Dec 7, 2021

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You Need Help: Trusting Yourself After Leaving an Abusive Relationship

The first thing I want to say is that I’m so sorry you had this experience with someone you loved, who you trusted. You deserve to be treated with respect…

danijanae —

Nov 30, 2021

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You Need Help: I Feel Like a Bad Queer Because I’m Not Good at Being Friends After Breakups

When we’re friends after the breakup, it has felt confusing because everything feels the same to me intimacy and connection-wise, minus the fact that we’re no longer having sex.

Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya —

Nov 23, 2021

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You Need Help: What If My Mom Hates My Girlfriend?

Of course you’re being thoughtful about if, when and how you’ll introduce your girlfriend to your family — given your mom’s previous actions, there’s a chance she won’t grant you…

Ro White —

Nov 16, 2021

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You Need Help: I’ve Never Had a Date and I’m So Lonely

The bad news is the answer to loneliness is not necessarily found on dating apps. The good news is you can meet people other ways.

Vanessa —

Nov 9, 2021