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dating

You Need Help: After a Bad Date I’m Worried I’m Unlovable

We live in a world that doesn’t value people of color or women over thirty, so I understand why you feel like this. But you are lovable.

danijanae —

Dec 13, 2022

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friendship

You Need Help: I’m In Love With My Straight Best Friend

There will come a time when you see someone at the grocery store or in class and think “oh wow, they’re cute!” And then you’ll know: the hard work has…

Darcy —

Dec 6, 2022

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relationships

You Need Help: I Want to Work on Myself, How Do I Do That?

I have behaviors I notice that spill into my relationship that stem from personal issues. I want to be a better person to myself, and my partner. I want to…

Abbie Jones —

Nov 29, 2022

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relationships

You Need Help: What To Do With This Meaningless, Single Life?

I want to try to hold space here for both: for your (and my, really) pain and for the possibility that you may not feel this way forever.

himani —

Nov 22, 2022

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dating

You Need Help: I’m a 16 Year-old Lesbian Asking ‘What Is Love?’

“How do I get myself to understand what love can really be, after the initial sparks fade?”

Darcy —

Nov 8, 2022

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dating

You Need Help: How To Date While Dealing With Mental Illness

Dating has often felt like a game I don’t know how to play. “An elaborate puzzle,” as you say. One where the pieces are sharp as knives that cut to…

himani —

Nov 1, 2022

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beauty

You Need Help: I’m Butch and I Want To Try Makeup for the First Time

Remember that ultimately, using makeup and other facial cosmetics is really about making you feel like your best, most confident self.

meg —

Oct 25, 2022

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coming out

You Need Help: What If I’m Lying to Myself About Being Queer?

I absolutely remember this feeling. “Am I crazy? Am I just making this up to complicate my life?” The answer is, no, you’re not. You’re not making it up. It’s…

Casey —

Oct 18, 2022

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coming out

You Need Help: I’m 49 and Questioning — Is It Too Late for Me?

It is not too late for you! Every day, we wake up and make our lives anew. What do you want your life to be today?

Darcy —

Oct 11, 2022

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dating

You Need Help: I’ve Never Dated — How Do I Move Beyond Flirting?

As scary as this sounds, in order to date, you’re probably going to have to actually ask people out.

Darcy —

Sep 27, 2022

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dating

You Need Help: Should I Tell My New Date I Used To Follow Her on Tumblr?

I think that this probably happens to people a lot more than you’d think.

Analyssa —

Sep 20, 2022

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health

You Need Help: How to Feel Good About Getting Older

You already escaped the lies of the patriarchy. Now — now! — you get to live.

Heather Hogan —

Sep 13, 2022