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You Need Help: How To Date While Dealing With Mental Illness

Dating has often felt like a game I don’t know how to play. “An elaborate puzzle,” as you say. One where the pieces are sharp as knives that cut to…

himani —

Nov 1, 2022

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beauty

You Need Help: I’m Butch and I Want To Try Makeup for the First Time

Remember that ultimately, using makeup and other facial cosmetics is really about making you feel like your best, most confident self.

meg —

Oct 25, 2022

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coming out

You Need Help: What If I’m Lying to Myself About Being Queer?

I absolutely remember this feeling. “Am I crazy? Am I just making this up to complicate my life?” The answer is, no, you’re not. You’re not making it up. It’s…

Casey —

Oct 18, 2022

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coming out

You Need Help: I’m 49 and Questioning — Is It Too Late for Me?

It is not too late for you! Every day, we wake up and make our lives anew. What do you want your life to be today?

Darcy —

Oct 11, 2022

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dating

You Need Help: I’ve Never Dated — How Do I Move Beyond Flirting?

As scary as this sounds, in order to date, you’re probably going to have to actually ask people out.

Darcy —

Sep 27, 2022

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dating

You Need Help: Should I Tell My New Date I Used To Follow Her on Tumblr?

I think that this probably happens to people a lot more than you’d think.

Analyssa —

Sep 20, 2022

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health

You Need Help: How to Feel Good About Getting Older

You already escaped the lies of the patriarchy. Now — now! — you get to live.

Heather Hogan —

Sep 13, 2022

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friendship

You Need Help: How Do I Ask My Couple Friends To Hang Out With Me One-on-One?

Wanting to hang out with your friends separately as individuals rather than as couples is a perfectly reasonable request.

Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya —

Sep 6, 2022

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breakups

You Need Help: I Can’t Get My Exes Out of My Head

We don’t need to be friends with our exes. One more time for emphasis. We don’t need to be friends with our exes.

KaeLyn —

Aug 30, 2022

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friendship

You Need Help: Do I Owe a Girl From My Past an Apology in the Present?

Treat people better than you did in your early twenties, and eventually you’ll realize that you have nothing to feel guilty about anymore.

Abbie Jones —

Aug 23, 2022

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dating

You Need Help: Is Substance Use a Dealbreaker?

As someone who’s dealt with substance issues, my friends and my therapist told me to cut and run, so I did. And now I regret it.

danijanae —

Aug 16, 2022

butch

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gender

You Need Help: I’m 13 — How Do I Explore My Butch Identity?

Sometimes when you’re exploring a new aspect of your identity, you might feel like you have to emulate something specific. But there’s no one way to be butch. Go out…

Ro White —

Aug 9, 2022