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You Need Help: Should I Tell My Crush How I Feel?

You’re wondering if you should admit your feelings to her, but you’re not sure if she’s queer or not. Let’s look practically at all the options.

Casey —

Jan 31, 2023

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relationships

You Need Help: How Do I Know if I’m Really Attracted to My Partner?

Humans can sometimes be unreliable narrators of our own lives.

Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya —

Jan 24, 2023

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relationships

You Need Help: You Fat-Shamed Your Beautiful Girlfriend

If your girlfriend wrote into this column with this story, I would tell her she should break up with you.

Heather Hogan —

Jan 17, 2023

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You Need Help: How Do I Get Back Into Dating at Age 54?

As a culture, we spend a lot of time talking about all of the ways that dating can suck; it becomes easy to forget how fun it can actually be!

Darcy —

Jan 10, 2023

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You Need Help: I Feel Like I’m My Girlfriend’s Second Choice

I want you to start 2023 feeling like your own number-one pick. That way, when the right person comes along, you’ll be ready and confident to be her number-one pick,…

Vanessa —

Jan 3, 2023

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You Need Help: I Just Turned 65 and I’m Questioning My Sexuality

I think everyone in the queer community knows this but I think we need to say it more explicitly and more often: Queerness is a journey.

Vanessa —

Dec 27, 2022

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friendship

You Need Help: My Best Friend Broke Up With Me

How can I grieve this and move on? I assumed it would just happen with time but a lot of time has passed and I’m still stuck.

Yashwina —

Dec 20, 2022

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You Need Help: After a Bad Date I’m Worried I’m Unlovable

We live in a world that doesn’t value people of color or women over thirty, so I understand why you feel like this. But you are lovable.

danijanae —

Dec 13, 2022

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friendship

You Need Help: I’m In Love With My Straight Best Friend

There will come a time when you see someone at the grocery store or in class and think “oh wow, they’re cute!” And then you’ll know: the hard work has…

Darcy —

Dec 6, 2022

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relationships

You Need Help: I Want to Work on Myself, How Do I Do That?

I have behaviors I notice that spill into my relationship that stem from personal issues. I want to be a better person to myself, and my partner. I want to…

Abbie Jones —

Nov 29, 2022

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You Need Help: What To Do With This Meaningless, Single Life?

I want to try to hold space here for both: for your (and my, really) pain and for the possibility that you may not feel this way forever.

himani —

Nov 22, 2022

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You Need Help: I’m a 16 Year-old Lesbian Asking ‘What Is Love?’

“How do I get myself to understand what love can really be, after the initial sparks fade?”

Darcy —

Nov 8, 2022