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The Ultimatum: Queer Love’s Bridget Matloff on What the Cameras Didn’t Show You

Bridget Matloff speaks on friendship with Gabby Windey, pressures of reality TV, thoughts on marriage, gender roles, and yes, haircare.

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Sep 8, 2025

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I Was Already Afraid of My Inbox. Then a Death Threat Came

The deadline for my compliance with the “blackmail” had already passed. It was supposed to…

Nico

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Aug 13, 2025

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On Being a Masc Top From Rural Oklahoma

You’ve fucked every lesbian sorority girl in Oklahoma, someone tells me on an app. Well,…

Autumn Fourkiller

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Jul 23, 2025

A Breastfeeding Journey Of a Thousand Miles Begins With a Single Baby Step

“I woke up feeling like someone had run me over with a truck and I…

Riese

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Jul 10, 2025

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I Was Already Afraid of My Inbox. Then a Death Threat Came

The deadline for my compliance with the “blackmail” had already passed. It was supposed to be noon.

Nico —

Aug 13, 2025

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On Being a Masc Top From Rural Oklahoma

You’ve fucked every lesbian sorority girl in Oklahoma, someone tells me on an app. Well, I said. Probably not all of them, right?

Autumn Fourkiller —

Jul 23, 2025

parenting & family

A Breastfeeding Journey Of a Thousand Miles Begins With a Single Baby Step

“I woke up feeling like someone had run me over with a truck and I thought, “I guess this is motherhood.” And probably would’ve died thinking that.”

Riese —

Jul 10, 2025

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The Trans Brooklyn Dykes With a Significant Height Difference Who Enjoy Twilight Cosplay

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A Fertility Ritual for Queer People on a Pregnancy Journey

Astrology, Tarot & Witchcraft

Sep 29, 2025

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Not Grateful Enough

“Thank you for pushing me down a ramp so quickly that I slammed into a wall.”

Katie —

Dec 15, 2023

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The A+ Pop-Up Discord Server Starts NOW!

Time to hang out and watch Carol!

Nico —

Dec 14, 2023

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What If It’s a Woman?

“We spoke up. Hell, this was post-#MeToo era. We were heroes. I was… a hero. So, why did I feel so much shame when, a year later, a woman sexually…

Motti —

Dec 14, 2023

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Anonymous Sex Diary: She Wants More

“My partner and I have an open relationship. While we used to be really honest about things, when I met someone I actually liked, E, they decided they didnt want…

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Dec 13, 2023

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Welcome to the 13 Days of A+ of 2023!

For the FOURTH year in a row, we are bringing you 13 consecutive days of A+ content!

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Dec 13, 2023

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A+ Crossword Loves Fuzzy Fruits

What do you call an everyday potato?

Rebecca Goldstein —

Dec 9, 2023

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Into the A+ Advice Box #94: I Don’t Think My Queer Relative Should Get Married

Advice on supporting a partner rejected by their family, non-competitive boardgames, period depression…and more!

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Dec 8, 2023

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A+ Crossword Aims to Please

Did you hear the one about the kid who started a shoelace-tying business?

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Dec 2, 2023

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Hell Yeah, Brother! Trans Dudes Are Kissing in the Wrestling Ring

The horniness of T-Boy Wrestling transcends simple attraction. It’s not just sexy…it’s liberating.

Motti

Aug 14, 2025

Politics + Activism

Fighting for Our Lives

Nico

Jul 24, 2025

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Working Girls: Luxury Escort Charlie Levine on the Rise of Women Clients In Sex Work

Riese

May 15, 2025

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Was I A Fool To Think They’d Kiss Me Back?

You made the first move and have felt weird about it ever since. Also — needing tips on dating in your mid-30s, ’cause it’s not going well so far.

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OK, What If I Don’t Want To Attend My Friend’s Improv Show

Someone must really hate improv — or their friend!!! Someone else is low-key dying that their friend isn’t returning borrowed books on time. And someone else is sweating their ass off on T and needs help.

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Is There a “Right Way” To Have Public Sex?

Your girlfriend loved gym bathroom sex but you’re not so sure you wanna do it again. Also: how to feel sexier while living with long Covid.

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Is It So Wrong To Pick Up My Ex-Girlfriend From Jail?

Your girlfriend wants you to go no-contact with your ex after you picked her up from jail. Also; is it ok to tell your now-sober partner about the mean things they said when they were drunk?

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Hit up our members-only inbox if you need advice or have tips or questions for our team!

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Is There a “Right Way” To Have Public Sex?

the team

Oct 3, 2025

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The Ultimatum: Queer Love’s Bridget Matloff on What the Cameras Didn’t Show You

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I Was Already Afraid of My Inbox. Then a Death Threat Came

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On Being a Masc Top From Rural Oklahoma

A Breastfeeding Journey Of a Thousand Miles Begins With a Single Baby Step

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I Was Already Afraid of My Inbox. Then a Death Threat Came

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On Being a Masc Top From Rural Oklahoma

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A Breastfeeding Journey Of a Thousand Miles Begins With a Single Baby Step

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Working Girls: Luxury Escort Charlie Levine on the Rise of Women Clients In Sex Work

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Baby Steps

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Baby Steps #6: The Best Laid Birth Plans

Baby Steps #5: Fixing the Window

Baby Steps #4: And I Feel God At This Baby Shower Tonight

Baby Steps #3: Allegedly Essential Baby Products, Looking for Gays On The Baby App and Surveillance Anxiety

Baby Steps #2: Telling Chosen Family, Bonding With Heterosexuals and a Lot of Dog Feelings

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I Regret To Inform You That Our Baby Will Be Throwing Up On Your Shirt

Our Birth Story Has Severe Features

Baby Steps #6: The Best Laid Birth Plans

Baby Steps #5: Fixing the Window

Baby Steps #4: And I Feel God At This Baby Shower Tonight

Baby Steps #3: Allegedly Essential Baby Products, Looking for Gays On The Baby App and Surveillance Anxiety

Baby Steps #2: Telling Chosen Family, Bonding With Heterosexuals and a Lot of Dog Feelings

Baby Steps #1: How We Got Gay Pregnant

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The Ultimatum: Queer Love’s Bridget Matloff on What the Cameras Didn’t Show You

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I Treat My Wife Like a Barbie Doll and She Likes It

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Mal Wright Didn’t Want To Be Your Favorite ‘Ultimatum: Queer Love’ Cast Member

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Working Girls: Luxury Escort Charlie Levine on the Rise of Women Clients In Sex Work

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I Am Not Lorelai Gilmore But I Also Kind of Am

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The Eras of My Bisexuality

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Shame as a Black, Autistic Queer Elder

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Apparently, Shame Tastes Like My Cunt

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“Too Queer, Too Smart” for Abuse

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Unexpected Item in the Bagging Area

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Not Grateful Enough

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What If It’s a Woman?

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Love In A Sinking City: A Queer Timeline

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