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The Ultimatum: Queer Love’s Bridget Matloff on What the Cameras Didn’t Show You

Bridget Matloff speaks on friendship with Gabby Windey, pressures of reality TV, thoughts on marriage, gender roles, and yes, haircare.

Gabrielle Grace Hogan

Sep 8, 2025

FIRST PERSON

I Was Already Afraid of My Inbox. Then a Death Threat Came

The deadline for my compliance with the “blackmail” had already passed. It was supposed to…

Nico

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Aug 13, 2025

FIRST PERSON

On Being a Masc Top From Rural Oklahoma

You’ve fucked every lesbian sorority girl in Oklahoma, someone tells me on an app. Well,…

Autumn Fourkiller

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Jul 23, 2025

PARENTING & FAMILY

A Breastfeeding Journey Of a Thousand Miles Begins With a Single Baby Step

“I woke up feeling like someone had run me over with a truck and I…

Riese

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Jul 10, 2025

first person

I Was Already Afraid of My Inbox. Then a Death Threat Came

The deadline for my compliance with the “blackmail” had already passed. It was supposed to be noon.

Nico

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Aug 13, 2025

first person

On Being a Masc Top From Rural Oklahoma

You’ve fucked every lesbian sorority girl in Oklahoma, someone tells me on an app. Well, I said. Probably not all of them, right?

Autumn Fourkiller

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Jul 23, 2025

parenting & family

A Breastfeeding Journey Of a Thousand Miles Begins With a Single Baby Step

“I woke up feeling like someone had run me over with a truck and I thought, “I guess this is motherhood.” And probably would’ve died thinking that.”

Riese

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Jul 10, 2025

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Sep 29, 2025

15 across / 9 letters / Pride Event whose first occurence in D.C. was organized by the Lesbian Avengers

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AF+ Crossword Is Gay in the Sheets and Gay in the Streets

And really, what else were you expecting?

Rebecca Goldstein

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May 25, 2024

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My Girlfriend Loves Period Sex and I Hate It

Advice for a person who really wants to get over being grossed out by periods, plus advice about friendship from three different askers.

the team

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May 24, 2024

two queer people of color wearing tank tops embrace on a bed, one clearly topping the other, both smiling, the bottom broadly and the top softly. the image is red.

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Days of Organizing, Nights of Bratting: A Femme Queer Spanks, Straps, Gets Toppy and Waxed

A writer reflects on accessing desire in trying times and the romance of collective liberation — playdates that range from toppy to bratty, a bottom with endearing nonverbal cues, a…

Guest

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May 23, 2024

a specimen jar of sperm floats over a blue background where two women sit uncomfortably

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I’m Scared About My Wife Using Her Ex-Boyfriend as Our Sperm Donor

Sperm is expensive and you don’t know many “good” men — but you do know one…your wife’s ex. Plus advice on discussing money and mis-matched incomes with friends.

the team

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May 21, 2024

38 across / 3 letters / Gamma ___ Lambda (sorority for LGBTQ college students)

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AF+ Crossword Is Feeling Thirsty

Solver poll: are crossword puzzles a hobby or a lifestyle?

Darby Ratliff

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May 18, 2024

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If I Didn’t Initiate Sex in My Marriage, We’d Never Have Sex — Is This Normal?

Advice for a reader who’s frustrated with initiating sex, plus upper lip hair removal, and tips for sharing an apartment with a partner queerly and successfully.

the team

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May 17, 2024

rope floats in front of a red and blue background image of a femme person in bed between two men

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A Queer Nonbinary Student Leans Into Their “Bi Era” with Kink, Play Parties, Domming, Top4Topping and Pegging

“In the outside world, I dress masc, and skirts feel foreign. But at play parties, I’ve started wearing a tiny top/skirt combo, trusting that for those few hours, my gender…

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May 15, 2024