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The Ultimatum: Queer Love’s Bridget Matloff on What the Cameras Didn’t Show You

Bridget Matloff speaks on friendship with Gabby Windey, pressures of reality TV, thoughts on marriage, gender roles, and yes, haircare.

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Sep 8, 2025

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I Was Already Afraid of My Inbox. Then a Death Threat Came

The deadline for my compliance with the “blackmail” had already passed. It was supposed to…

Nico

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Aug 13, 2025

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On Being a Masc Top From Rural Oklahoma

You’ve fucked every lesbian sorority girl in Oklahoma, someone tells me on an app. Well,…

Autumn Fourkiller

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Jul 23, 2025

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A Breastfeeding Journey Of a Thousand Miles Begins With a Single Baby Step

“I woke up feeling like someone had run me over with a truck and I…

Riese

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Jul 10, 2025

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I Was Already Afraid of My Inbox. Then a Death Threat Came

The deadline for my compliance with the “blackmail” had already passed. It was supposed to be noon.

Nico

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Aug 13, 2025

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On Being a Masc Top From Rural Oklahoma

You’ve fucked every lesbian sorority girl in Oklahoma, someone tells me on an app. Well, I said. Probably not all of them, right?

Autumn Fourkiller

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Jul 23, 2025

parenting & family

A Breastfeeding Journey Of a Thousand Miles Begins With a Single Baby Step

“I woke up feeling like someone had run me over with a truck and I thought, “I guess this is motherhood.” And probably would’ve died thinking that.”

Riese

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Jul 10, 2025

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Was I A Fool To Think They’d Kiss Me Back?

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Oct 17, 2025

OK, What If I Don’t Want To Attend My Friend’s Improv Show

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Oct 10, 2025

Is There a “Right Way” To Have Public Sex?

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Oct 3, 2025

The Trans Brooklyn Dykes With a Significant Height Difference Who Enjoy Twilight Cosplay

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Oct 2, 2025

A Fertility Ritual for Queer People on a Pregnancy Journey

Astrology, Tarot & Witchcraft

Sep 29, 2025

4 across / 4 letters / "Our ___ Means Death" (very gay pirate adventure show)

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AF+ Mini Crossword Is a Gay Pirate

Arrrrrrr(en’t we all though, really?)

Kate Hawkins

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Aug 21, 2024

12 across / 10 letters / Band named for a petulant girl in "Charlie and the Chocolate Factory"

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AF+ Crossword is Well-Seasoned

This puzzle is off the Scoville scale!

Emet Ozar

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Aug 17, 2024

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I Want My Girlfriend To Quit Acting and Get a Job

Are you the asshole for asking your girlfriend to give up her acting dreams and get a real job? Also, we help a reader decide if it’s time to break…

the team

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Aug 16, 2024

4 down / 5 letters / "___ Kelly" (2002 Hillary Duff banger featuring a fabulous extended dance duet in military dress with ribbons and a lot of girl-on-girl tension)

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AF+ Mini Crossword Has Flames on the Side of Its Face

It was the mini crossword in the study with the candlestick!

Kate Hawkins

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Aug 16, 2024

1 across / 5 letters / ___PadSeries.com (LGBTQ+ porn site)

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AF+ Mini Crossword Is a Poet

And boy does Mini Crossword know it.

Emet Ozar

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Aug 14, 2024

15 down / 3 letters / "___ vs. Carole" (film staring Kate McKinnon as Carole Baskin)

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AF+ Crossword Is Into Show Tunes

This puzzle is for you, musical theater lovers.

Kate Hawkins

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Aug 10, 2024

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I Thought The Breakup Would Make Me Feel Better — But I’ve Never Felt Worse

Just wondering if anyone else has an ex who is a good and wonderful person who they feel crazy for breaking up with? And also what kinds of plants should…

the team

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Aug 9, 2024

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AF+ Mini Crossword Just Loves TV So Much

Specifically, Mini Crossword is currently on a Buffy kick. This is not a spoiler, it’s just a confession.

Emet Ozar

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Aug 9, 2024

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Hell Yeah, Brother! Trans Dudes Are Kissing in the Wrestling Ring

The horniness of T-Boy Wrestling transcends simple attraction. It’s not just sexy…it’s liberating.

Motti

Aug 14, 2025

Politics + Activism

Fighting for Our Lives

Nico

Jul 24, 2025

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Working Girls: Luxury Escort Charlie Levine on the Rise of Women Clients In Sex Work

Riese

May 15, 2025

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Was I A Fool To Think They’d Kiss Me Back?

You made the first move and have felt weird about it ever since. Also — needing tips on dating in your mid-30s, ’cause it’s not going well so far.

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OK, What If I Don’t Want To Attend My Friend’s Improv Show

Someone must really hate improv — or their friend!!! Someone else is low-key dying that their friend isn’t returning borrowed books on time. And someone else is sweating their ass off on T and needs help.

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Is There a “Right Way” To Have Public Sex?

Your girlfriend loved gym bathroom sex but you’re not so sure you wanna do it again. Also: how to feel sexier while living with long Covid.

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Is It So Wrong To Pick Up My Ex-Girlfriend From Jail?

Your girlfriend wants you to go no-contact with your ex after you picked her up from jail. Also; is it ok to tell your now-sober partner about the mean things they said when they were drunk?

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