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The Ultimatum: Queer Love’s Bridget Matloff on What the Cameras Didn’t Show You

Bridget Matloff speaks on friendship with Gabby Windey, pressures of reality TV, thoughts on marriage, gender roles, and yes, haircare.

Gabrielle Grace Hogan

Sep 8, 2025

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I Was Already Afraid of My Inbox. Then a Death Threat Came

The deadline for my compliance with the “blackmail” had already passed. It was supposed to…

Nico

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Aug 13, 2025

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On Being a Masc Top From Rural Oklahoma

You’ve fucked every lesbian sorority girl in Oklahoma, someone tells me on an app. Well,…

Autumn Fourkiller

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Jul 23, 2025

A Breastfeeding Journey Of a Thousand Miles Begins With a Single Baby Step

“I woke up feeling like someone had run me over with a truck and I…

Riese

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Jul 10, 2025

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I Was Already Afraid of My Inbox. Then a Death Threat Came

The deadline for my compliance with the “blackmail” had already passed. It was supposed to be noon.

Nico

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Aug 13, 2025

first person

On Being a Masc Top From Rural Oklahoma

You’ve fucked every lesbian sorority girl in Oklahoma, someone tells me on an app. Well, I said. Probably not all of them, right?

Autumn Fourkiller

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Jul 23, 2025

parenting & family

A Breastfeeding Journey Of a Thousand Miles Begins With a Single Baby Step

“I woke up feeling like someone had run me over with a truck and I thought, “I guess this is motherhood.” And probably would’ve died thinking that.”

Riese

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Jul 10, 2025

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A Fertility Ritual for Queer People on a Pregnancy Journey

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Is It So Wrong To Pick Up My Ex-Girlfriend From Jail?

Your girlfriend wants you to go no-contact with your ex after you picked her up from jail. Also; is it ok to tell your now-sober partner about the mean things…

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Sep 26, 2025

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Help I Have a Crush On My Ex-Boyfriend’s Sister

Should you make a move on an ex-boyfriend’s sister who may or may not be your root? Also — tips on sexting A WRITER.

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Sep 19, 2025

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Having Anxiety Dreams? It’s Time To Keep a Dream Journal

This is your sign to start a little gay dream journal. Here are five prompts to get started.

Autumn Fourkiller

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Sep 15, 2025

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I’m a Cis Butch Woman, and Boy Do I Want Top Surgery!

Can you feel dysphoric about your boobs even if you’re not trans? Also, tips on how to learn to love your body as you come into your queerness.

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Sep 12, 2025

Bridget Matloff in Ultimatum: Queer Love

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The Ultimatum: Queer Love’s Bridget Matloff on What the Cameras Didn’t Show You

Bridget Matloff speaks on friendship with Gabby Windey, pressures of reality TV, thoughts on marriage, gender roles, and yes, haircare.

Gabrielle Grace Hogan

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Sep 8, 2025

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I Feel Like Leaving When My Sexual Partners Require Me To Come

How can you convince your hookups to stop trying to make you have an orgasm? Also, tips on maintaining a writing practice for people with ADHD.

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Sep 5, 2025

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The Lovers Tarot Card IS Gay

Cowboy Clairvoyant redownloaded the apps. Find out how that went and read their advice for readers looking to make major life changes.

Autumn Fourkiller

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Sep 1, 2025

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Should We Be Paying Our Friends To Babysit?

They’re doing well financially and love your kid — should you still offer money? Also; tips on giving complements to mascs and butches.

the team

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Aug 29, 2025

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Hell Yeah, Brother! Trans Dudes Are Kissing in the Wrestling Ring

The horniness of T-Boy Wrestling transcends simple attraction. It’s not just sexy…it’s liberating.

Motti

Aug 14, 2025

Politics + Activism

Fighting for Our Lives

Nico

Jul 24, 2025

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Working Girls: Luxury Escort Charlie Levine on the Rise of Women Clients In Sex Work

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May 15, 2025

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Was I A Fool To Think They’d Kiss Me Back?

You made the first move and have felt weird about it ever since. Also — needing tips on dating in your mid-30s, ’cause it’s not going well so far.

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OK, What If I Don’t Want To Attend My Friend’s Improv Show

Someone must really hate improv — or their friend!!! Someone else is low-key dying that their friend isn’t returning borrowed books on time. And someone else is sweating their ass off on T and needs help.

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Is There a “Right Way” To Have Public Sex?

Your girlfriend loved gym bathroom sex but you’re not so sure you wanna do it again. Also: how to feel sexier while living with long Covid.

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Is It So Wrong To Pick Up My Ex-Girlfriend From Jail?

Your girlfriend wants you to go no-contact with your ex after you picked her up from jail. Also; is it ok to tell your now-sober partner about the mean things they said when they were drunk?

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Need Advice? Got a Tip? Talk Queer to Us

Hit up our members-only inbox if you need advice or have tips or questions for our team!

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Is There a “Right Way” To Have Public Sex?

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Oct 3, 2025

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The Ultimatum: Queer Love’s Bridget Matloff on What the Cameras Didn’t Show You

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I Was Already Afraid of My Inbox. Then a Death Threat Came

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On Being a Masc Top From Rural Oklahoma

A Breastfeeding Journey Of a Thousand Miles Begins With a Single Baby Step

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I Was Already Afraid of My Inbox. Then a Death Threat Came

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On Being a Masc Top From Rural Oklahoma

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A Breastfeeding Journey Of a Thousand Miles Begins With a Single Baby Step

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Working Girls: Luxury Escort Charlie Levine on the Rise of Women Clients In Sex Work

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Baby Steps

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A Breastfeeding Journey Of a Thousand Miles Begins With a Single Baby Step

I Regret To Inform You That Our Baby Will Be Throwing Up On Your Shirt

Our Birth Story Has Severe Features

Baby Steps #6: The Best Laid Birth Plans

Baby Steps #5: Fixing the Window

Baby Steps #4: And I Feel God At This Baby Shower Tonight

Baby Steps #3: Allegedly Essential Baby Products, Looking for Gays On The Baby App and Surveillance Anxiety

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The Ultimatum: Queer Love’s Bridget Matloff on What the Cameras Didn’t Show You

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I Treat My Wife Like a Barbie Doll and She Likes It

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Mal Wright Didn’t Want To Be Your Favorite ‘Ultimatum: Queer Love’ Cast Member

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Working Girls: Luxury Escort Charlie Levine on the Rise of Women Clients In Sex Work

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The Eras of My Bisexuality

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Shame as a Black, Autistic Queer Elder

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Apparently, Shame Tastes Like My Cunt

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“Too Queer, Too Smart” for Abuse

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Unexpected Item in the Bagging Area

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Not Grateful Enough

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What If It’s a Woman?

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Love In A Sinking City: A Queer Timeline

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