It’s our 12th Birthday and we are CELEBRATING the heck out of the last of our tween years with quizzes, advice to our tween selves and this very A+ AMA!

You can ask us about so many topics: including but not limited to Tarot, gender, budgeting, dating, movies, pop culture, sports, D&D, sobriety and MORE!

We’re here all day from 9am PST to 8pm PST! Curious about something specific? Check out the schedule — and our team’s areas of expertise — below. Pop your questions in the comments, and feel free to hop in and chat with other A+ members, too. Thank you for being an A+ member!

We know not everyone can give on top of their membership, but we are in the home stretch for our fundraising goal. If you can, will you consider contributing $12 in honor of  Autostraddle’s birthday? Thank you for all you do to keep Autostraddle here and working. We hope you enjoy the AMA!

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Who’s Going to Be at the AMA and When:

Senior team: Carmen, Heather, Laneia, Nicole, Rachel, Riese, Sarah — in and out all day!

Carmen sits at a desk in a pink sweater, the copy reads: Ask Me Anything During Autostraddle's Advice-a-Thon! Tuesday March 9th, 9am — 8pm PST

Heather sits on a chair while holding her cats socks, the copy reads: Ask Me Anything During Autostraddle's Advice-a-Thon! Tuesday March 9th, 9am — 8pm PST

Laneia is in a grey sweater with short blonde hair and glasses, the copy reads: Ask Me Anything During Autostraddle's Advice-a-Thon! Tuesday March 9th, 9am — 8pm PST

Nicole has short blonde hair with shaved sides and glasses, the copy reads: Ask Me Anything During Autostraddle's Advice-a-Thon! Tuesday March 9th, 9am — 8pm PST

Rachel is in a gray undershirt and a white collard shirt, the copy reads: Ask Me Anything During Autostraddle's Advice-a-Thon! Tuesday March 9th, 9am — 8pm PST

Riese is in a white tank top with her arm above her head, the copy reads: Ask Me Anything During Autostraddle's Advice-a-Thon! Tuesday March 9th, 9am — 8pm PST

Sarah is in a yellow tank top with her hair tossed to the side, the copy reads: Ask Me Anything During Autostraddle's Advice-a-Thon! Tuesday March 9th, 9am — 8pm PST


9-11am PST: Meg Jones Wall, Carolyn Yates, Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya

Meg is in a black tank top with her hair swept to side, the copy reads: Ask Me Anything During Autostraddle's Advice-a-Thon! Tuesday March 9th, 9am — 8pm PST

Meg Jones Wall is available for questions on tarot, witchcraft, numerology, the moon, cooking, photography, writing, being married, getting divorced, home decor, dogs, bisexuality, evangelical faith (and leaving that faith), candles, tea, skincare, and probably some other things too!

Carolyn is standing in front of a mirror taking a selfie, the copy reads: Ask Me Anything During Autostraddle's Advice-a-Thon! Tuesday March 9th, 9am — 8pm PST

Carolyn Yates is ready to answer your questions on sex, BDSM, relationships, polyamory, dating, sex toys, and let’s be honest home decor.

Kayla is wearing round glasses with long curly brown hair, a dark silver necklace and a red shirt, the copy reads: Ask Me Anything During Autostraddle's Advice-a-Thon! Tuesday March 9th, 9am — 8pm PST

Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya is excited to discuss dating and relationships, breakups, couples therapy, books, writing, pitching/freelancing, food/cooking, general life advice.


12pm-2pm PST: Vanessa Friedman, Drew Gregory, Ro White

Kayla is hanging around, and she will be joined by…

Vanessa has on sunglasses and a hate, her face is turned up towards the sun, the copy reads: Ask Me Anything During Autostraddle's Advice-a-Thon! Tuesday March 9th, 9am — 8pm PST

For Vanessa Friedman, truly the sky is the limit! Ask about anything! The history of Autostraddle, sex and dating, getting an MFA, writing, big grief, friendship, existing on the internet for better or worse for 10+ years, DIY home project, cooking and baking, gardening, being sad, managing COVID in community, and advice of any kind!

Drew has long curly brown hair and bangs, her shirt reads "But Daddy I love her." around her is the following copy: Ask Me Anything During Autostraddle's Advice-a-Thon! Tuesday March 9th, 9am — 8pm PST

Drew is excited to talk about Movies! Dating! Trans stuff!

Ro is in a black and white photo holding a microphone, they have a shaved head, the copy reads: Ask Me Anything During Autostraddle's Advice-a-Thon! Tuesday March 9th, 9am — 8pm PST

Ro White is prepared to talk about how to build a career as a performer, mental health sex, sex toys, relationships, dating, body image.


3pm-5pm PST: Drew Gregory, Shelli Nicole, Himani, Ro White, Natalie

Drew and Ro are both doing a second shift! And they will be joined by…

Shelli has on a black tank top with small straps and lip gloss, her hair is tossed to the side, the copy reads: Ask Me Anything During Autostraddle's Advice-a-Thon! Tuesday March 9th, 9am — 8pm PST

Shelli Nicole, who is excited to hang out with everyone and chat about dating, pop culture, communication skills.

Himani has short cropped grey hair and glasses, the copy reads: Ask Me Anything During Autostraddle's Advice-a-Thon! Tuesday March 9th, 9am — 8pm PST

Himani who’s ready to talk about living alone in the pandemic, coming out older, navigating limited relationship experience, as well vegetarian and vegan cooking.

And Natalie, an all around expert on sports, politics, TV, and music!


6pm-8pm PST:  Vanessa Friedman, Valerie, Bailey

Vanessa is coming back to hang out for our last shift of the day! She’ll be joined by…

Valerie has pink and blue hair tossed to the side, the copy reads: Ask Me Anything During Autostraddle's Advice a Thon, Tuesday March 9th, 9am - 8pm PST

Valerie Anne who’s excited to chat about queer television, D&D, friendship stuff, and all your writing advice needs.

Bailey has a black t-shirt and a backpack and is looking off to the side, the copy reads: Ask Me Anything During Autostraddle's Advice-a-Thon! Tuesday March 9th, 9am — 8pm PST

And Bailey who is ready to talk to you all about budgeting, race, school, sobriety, travel, work, quite literally whatever floats your boat!