So this is actually a really complicated and sticky prompt, right? Because, what even is queer sex? What even is a first time? Where do you draw the line? Do you have to draw a line? Is queer sex any sex a queer person has? Does it require both / all people to be queer / lesbian / gay / bisexual? I’m really not afraid to say I don’t know and I’m not going to answer that for you because only you can answer what it means to you, for yourself. As Drew says in her response, which, when I read it I nodded and said “yes absolutely” out loud: “I think we get to choose our own firsts.” I think she’s really spot on. We make our own rules, define our own firsts, tell our own stories.
The Autostraddle team approached this prompt in a lot of different ways, each as valid and interesting as the others, but all of them so very different. I’m really grateful for what their honesty and vulnerability has revealed about the endless possibilities and multitudes that comprise queerness, all the winding paths that we can take, all the different ways we can touch and connect, love and fuck each other, view our queerness and our relationships to our sexualities and to each other.
Thank you, always, for being an A+ member and for holding this space open for all of our possibilities.
xoxo,
Nico
