Interview With My Ex: Holden

Welcome to Interviews With My Ex-Girlfriend, in which Autostraddle writers get back in touch with their ex-girlfriends to ask them Five Simple Questions:
How long did we date?
Why did we break up?
What did you learn from our relationship?
What do you miss most about me?
Would you invite me to your wedding (why/why not)?

Holden and I met through a queer mentoring collective that had been started by a Ph.D student for his dissertation work. The mentoring collective fell apart, but the two of us have remained close since. We both have a love for 1970s musical theatre, outlandish gospel music, and Hall & Oates. I got them to stay over in my on-campus apartment for the first time by just happening to have a spare toothbrush. I tried to ...

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Ari

Ari is a 20-something artist and educator. They are a mom to two cats, they love domesticity, ritual, and porch time. They have studied, loved, and learned in CT, Greensboro, NC, and ATX.

Ari has written 330 articles for us.