Voice memos, FaceTime, short videos, live photos, nudes, role-playing, classic texting — sexting can look like a lot of different things. I’m always interested in hearing about people’s relationships, philosophies about, and strategies for sexting, which are all as varied as how people think and feel about sex itself. Do you sext before or after you’ve hooked up with someone new? Does your top/bottom/switch dynamic look the same over sexting as it does during sex? Do you get visual? Aural? We consider these questions and more below!
8 Queer Sexting Experts on How We Digitally Do It
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Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya
Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya is the managing editor of Autostraddle and a lesbian writer of essays, fiction, and pop culture criticism living in Orlando. She is the former managing editor of TriQuarterly, and her short stories appear in McSweeney’s Quarterly Concern, Joyland, Catapult, The Offing, The Rumpus, Cake Zine, and more. Some of her pop culture writing can be found at The A.V. Club, Vulture, The Cut, and others. When she is not writing, editing, or reading, she is probably playing tennis. You can follow her on Twitter or Instagram and learn more about her work on her website.
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i used to find sexting sort of embarrassing, but my current girlfriend really showed me how fun it can be. it’s a great way to dip your toes into something new, we do it a lot while i travel for work, which i do a lot. great tips all around!
I like it ,ti’s so important to me
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Lol drew gonna break up with her gf to date a writer bruh
Ok question though, logistically and app-wise, WHERE are y’all sexting? On regular old texts? Whatsapp? Via instagram? Snapchat? Where are we sending these nudes into cyberspace? Do you delete them afterwards? Am I being overly paranoid?