To the extent that there’s anything approaching a roadmap to gay dating for women and nonbinary people, you’re reading it. JK, even with our prodigious back catalog of tips and deep dives on lesbian/queer/gay dating, it’s basically impossible to ever feel like you’re doing this right. We don’t either! Like, truly, ever. Learn from our mistakes (and our exes’): here are the things we wish we had known before we started gay dating.