Hi friends! You know that phrase ‘this is why we can’t have nice things?’ I know you love to say it. I love to say it too. But you know what? I call bullshit. At least for you, and for me, and for our friends and our lovers and our Autostraddle family: I’m putting my foot down. We CAN have nice things. We (you!) deserve safety and shelter, and good books, and good sex, and all sorts of different kinds of love. We (you!) deserve friends, and crushes, and nudes on your phone, and cookies in your oven, and a fire in your hearth. WE CAN HAVE NICE THINGS. Go forth. Contain and deserve multitudes. I dare you.

This week, Janet kissed Janet…kissed Eleanor kissed Chidi on The Good Place.

It’s the most wonderful time of the year: Year-end round-up season! From Rachel, here are 50 of the best feminist books of 2018.

Cameron ruined my life.

Kayla brought her For Your Consideration series home to nestle in our (sometimes broken) hearts.

Vanessa asked: what if single people got the wedding gifts we all deserve?

Speaking of things we all deserve, here are some classic sex toys you need in your life.

ALSO speaking of things we deserve, is Ellen coming back to stand-up?

Heather reviewed Dumplin’, which might be one of the best fat-positive movies I’ve seen this decade.

Have you been keeping up with But Make It Fashion? This series is about so much more than clothes, it’s about relationships and faith and addiction and humanity and I am SO into it! Read it. Read it!

And then then there were your comments!

On Boobs on Your Tube: Janet Smooches Janet Smooches Eleanor on “The Good Place”:

The Hit That Award to Lisa:

I hit this click bait headline like Janet hit Janet hit Eleanor. Now to watch the episode…

On NSFW Lesbosexy Sunday Has Female-Presenting Nipples:

The Tank You Very Much Award to Snaelle:

Female-presenting nipples: When a woman gifts you with the vision of her boobs.

On Holigay Gift Guide: Proof We Have the Perfect Merch for Every Kind of Gay:

The A to Z Award to Beth:

Me: oh cool, I’m sure one of these categories will speak to me! Me: *scrolls through* Me: IIIIIIIIIIIII’M EVERY LESBIAN, IT’S ALL IN MEEEEEEEE

On A Heart Emoji by Any Other Name: A Brief Investigation of Flirty Emoji:

The Tinder Award to Sally and Stef:

Sally: I could not resist the terrifying emoji builder challenge, but possibly took the terrifying part of it too literally? Yes, that is many hands pulling a featureless face into the fiery pits of hell. For best results, view while humming O Fortuna. / Stef: …do you wanna go out sometime?

And the Bleeding Heart Award to pips:

the heart with a dot below it is the menstruation heart you cannot change my mind.

On For Your Consideration: For Your Consideration:

The For Your Consideration: Sincerity Award to Felicity:

This series saved me and I am so grateful. I had an awful, sudden break-up that broke me in a lot of ways early this summer. I saw the first “For Your Consideration

And on Holigay Gift Guide: Fancy Wedding Gifts, but for Your Single Friend for the Holidays Instead:

The Nailed It! Award to Madeline:

I’m just saying that I’m as likely to blow up a kitchen as I am to make any given food item but even I want that Stand Mixer because OH MY GOD THE COLOR IS SO CUTE!!! The matching color of the luggage would be a perfect compliment when I’d have to live out of a hotel to repair the damage from blowing up my home.

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