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Actresses Born Before My Grandma Ranked by How Badly I Want Them to Top Me

I am a sucker for a mid-atlantic accent and a beauty in black and white.

Drew Burnett Gregory —

Jan 4, 2024

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What Does It Mean to Be a “Bottom” or “Submissive” in Lesbian Sex?

What does it mean when to identify as a “bottom” or a “submissive” in queer sex? I come armed with data and some very vague answers.

Riese —

Sep 5, 2023

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tops and bottoms

sex

Service Tops, Bratty Bottoms and Pillow Princesses: Other Words You Use to Describe How You Have Sex

We’ve been talking about tops, bottoms and switches for a few weeks and today we’re doing a little glossary of the other words you use to describe how you have…

Riese —

Jul 31, 2023

sexual assault

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first person

How Bottoming Helped Me Heal From Sexual Trauma

I had to learn how to feel safe in the world in order to bottom. For me, surrender is healing.

Stuti —

Sep 29, 2022

The Gay B C's of Sex

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The Gay B C’s of Sex: P Is for Power Bottom

Perhaps the power bottom is in the eye of the be(hole)der.

Ro White —

Sep 1, 2022

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love + sex

Let’s Talk About (Queer) Sex: Power Dynamics Are in the Eye of the Beholder

What do we feel our sexual IDs “mean” about us as “people”? Do they have overlaps with our sense of self outside of bed? Do we notice others assuming these…

the team —

Oct 1, 2020

tops and bottoms

love + sex

Let’s Talk About (Queer) Sex: So You’re a Top/Bottom/Switch

How have you defined (or not) your role over time? Has it changed, did you at first think you “were” one thing and now you ID differently? how did that…

the team —

Aug 26, 2020

14 Knuckles

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14 Knuckles: Can Two Switches Have Sex?

Can two switches have sex? I think so, and I think there is something beautifully different about having sex with someone with whom sexual options are truly abundant.

Mat —

Jul 30, 2020

14 Knuckles

tops and bottoms

first person

14 Knuckles: I Want to Buy You A Matte Black Audi

I was always thinking about them — what I’d bring, what I’d wear, what we’d do when we saw each other next. I wanted to dote and caress every moment…

Mat —

Jun 23, 2020

covid-19

kink

sex

Topping From the Bunker: Tips for Long-Distance Kink

Good news: there are no geographic limits to being a kinky slut, and I’m willing to lend you my perverted imagination.

Ro White —

May 11, 2020

black history month

black history month 2020

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Ain’t I A Bottom

Many Black women are raised to give our apparent struggles the stiff upper lip. We’re taught to be loud, and proud, and bigger than the world sees us. And at…

Mandy Harris Williams —

Feb 29, 2020

tops and bottoms

sex

Started from the Bottom: A Lifelong Bottom’s Adventures in Topping

Much like how everyone told us “OMG you’re both Geminis? This will never work,” we were also told “OMG you’re both bottoms? This will never work.” Joke’s on everyone else;…

BJ Colangelo —

Oct 31, 2019