special

feminism

how to be gay

lesbian sex

How I Learned to Talk (In Bed): Why This Queer Woman Cares About Consent

I had already committed, in my mind, to taking on consent activism for the rest of my life. Then I came out of the closet.

Carmen —

Aug 26, 2011

how to be gay

sex advice

lesbian sex

You Need Help: Bottoms Up and Helping Your Girlfriend

Can a top be a bottom without selling her soul? And how to talk to a partner who isn’t what she used to be.

Laneia —

Aug 8, 2011

how to be gay

marriage equality

lesbian weddings

If You Ain’t No Punk Holla Gays Need Prenups GAYS NEED PRENUPS

“As an aspiring talk show host who also happens to be a lawyer and a formerly engaged Gay American, I know a lot about the ins and outs of marriage,…

Bevin —

Jul 26, 2011

101s

greatest hits

dating

Rejection 101: A Lesbian’s Guide To Getting Turned Down, Keeping Your Head Up

“It’s okay to be angry. It’s okay to feel misled. It’s okay to feel stupid. It’s okay to listen to ‘Jar of Hearts’ on repeat.”

Intern Grace —

Jul 19, 2011

bklyn boihood

butch/femme

love + sex

I’m Neither Butch Nor A Top

“I’m rather tired of people reacting with shock when they find out I dress the way I do and identify as a bottom.”

bklyn boihood —

Jun 29, 2011

how to be gay

special

lesbian sex

The Politics of Lesbian Sex: Before, During, After

Before sex, during sex and after sex. Sex, sex, sexy sex.

Sarah H —

Jun 18, 2011

Daily Fix

how to be gay

relationships

Open Thread: The Perils of Being a First Girlfriend

Will your girl eventually want another girl? Is your long-term relationship robbing her of sexual growth and personal development? This is a good opportunity to talk about yourself under the…

Laneia —

Jun 14, 2011

coming out a little later

greatest hits

first person

Everything You Ever Wanted to Know About My Sexual Orientation And Were(n’t) Afraid To Ask

The eyes are all asking are you in, or are you out?

Riese —

Jun 1, 2011

how to be gay

special

dating

How to Date… Again

I emerged from the winter of my dating discontent with a few good rules, which are probably more like guidelines since I’m genetically incapable of following rules. So here they…

Sarah H —

May 31, 2011

Daily Fix

how to be gay

relationships

Unofficially Official: There’s More Than One Way to Have a Lesbian Relationship

So, casual dating is dead, and I’m on a mission to bring it back with this handy guide to classifying what the hell is going on with you and that…

Alex —

Apr 21, 2011

bklyn boihood

how to be gay

dating

What Do You Mean You’re Not Monogamous?

In which we discuss the most common misconceptions about polyamory and nonmonogamy in an attempt to help everyone be less stupid.

bklyn boihood —

Mar 24, 2011

how to be gay

special

friendship

How to Be Gay When All Your Friends Are Strai But Probably Love You Anyway

Tips for introducing that girl you’ve been dating to your uber-hetero friends. Plus how to throw a gin bucket party! So much relevancy to so many of your interests.

Guest —

Feb 22, 2011