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If I Didn’t Initiate Sex in My Marriage, We’d Never Have Sex — Is This Normal?

Advice for a reader who’s frustrated with initiating sex, plus upper lip hair removal, and tips for sharing an apartment with a partner queerly and successfully.

the team —

May 17, 2024

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I’m A Newly Single Older Lesbian Baffled By What My Dates Expect From Me Sexually

An older lesbian needs advice for coping with dates expecting her to desire penetration, plus advice on the politics of dietary restrictions, finding love while allergic to cats, and the…

the team —

May 3, 2024

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How to Find Local Kink Community and Also How to Hire a Sex Worker

“There’re contingencies of queer freaks everywhere, sometimes it just takes a little more effort.”

Vanessa —

Sep 22, 2022

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Into the A+ Advice Box #60: SEX

A+ Member sex questions — from spanking to long-term relationship sex — answered!

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May 20, 2022

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LIVE QUEER SEX 101 WORKSHOP: Register for How to Have Gay Sex for the First Time with Luna Matatas

This month we have pleasure coach and experienced workshop leader Luna Matatas to teach you everything you need to know about how to have great gay sex for the first…

The Editors —

May 5, 2021

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Into the A+ Advice Box #27: A Pattern of Growing Tired of Dating Cis Men

What if you don’t like receiving oral sex, but want to? What if you canNOT get your new crush/person out of your head, but need to focus on work? What…

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Jan 22, 2021

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How to Write a Really Hot Sext in 5 Easy Steps

Here is a beginner’s guide to sending really hot sexts to your casual date, your girlfriend, and every babe in between. You’re welcome.

Vanessa —

Jan 14, 2021

13 Days of A+

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Merry Fistmas and a Happy New Transcript!

We have the transcript as well as links to any products that were shown during Merry Fistmas: A Virtual Vaginal Fisting Workshop, AND the link to the recording, all wrapped…

Nico —

Dec 15, 2020

13 Days of A+

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Merry Fistmas: A Virtual Vaginal Fisting Workshop with Malic White, TODAY at 1pm PST

We’re kicking off the 13 Days of A+ with a virtual vaginal fisting workshop! Merry Fistmas will take place on Crowdcast live at 1pm PST, but the recording will be…

Nico —

Dec 13, 2020

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Into the A+ Advice Box #24: How to Have Your Acrylic Nails And Do It All, Too

“THIS STEP IS VERY IMPORTANT, DO NOT PUT THE BOILING HOT TEA BAGS ON YOUR EYELIDS!!!” Queer advice on breaking up with someone over social distancing opinions as well as…

the team —

Dec 4, 2020

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Here’s Your Roadmap to Finding Your Authentic Sexual Self

Guides often suggest a masturbation practice, getting to know your own unique fantasies, or even challenging yourself to watch porn. But there’s no one perfect method; here’s a bit of…

Christina Tesoro —

Sep 15, 2020

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Into the A+ Advice Box #14: What to Say to a Friend Proposing 6 Months In?

What do I say when I think my friend might be rushing into marriage? Trauma and opening up a relationship, exploring sexually with a long-term partner, feelings about a (possibly…

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Jul 3, 2020