personal essay

but make it fashion

personal essay

first person

How I Learned to Tie a Tie Without My Dad

Perhaps he would have loved me enough. I’ll never know, and my eschatology doesn’t include a heaven from which re-embodied souls watch over our earthly lives. All I have is…

Adrian —

Nov 26, 2018

body image

but make it fashion

issues

The Loneliness of Being Fat at Camp

“I shower. Get dressed. Read or listen to music until my hair is mostly dry and I can brush it. I don’t wear makeup and I don’t know how to…

Allison —

Nov 21, 2018

but make it fashion

personal essay

issues

The Implication of a Bag

“I was unwilling to buy a binder. It seemed like a declaration, the kind I was nowhere near ready to make yet. But for that winter, I had the bag.”

L. B. —

Nov 15, 2018

africa

but make it fashion

issues

When You Wear An Agbada

“To understand my relationship with this symbol of masculinity, we’ll have to start with my journey of queerness I had no idea I had embarked upon until I was turning…

Itenoria —

Nov 14, 2018

personal essay

sexual assault

coming out

The Closet Let Me Feel Anything and Everything

Closets suck, generally speaking, but sitting in mine gave me joy. This is a coming out story that doesn’t neatly fit in the queer community, much less my own mind.

Grecia Magdaleno —

Nov 8, 2018

but make it fashion

fatness

issues

Femme Fashion Is Queer Fashion

“I sat there staring at my laptop screen soaking in the news that my love of flirty summer dresses, brightly hued tights, wine-colored lipstick and smiling radiantly in photos made…

Reneice Charles —

Nov 8, 2018

gay marriage

marriage equality

lesbian weddings

Love That Looks Like Me: Finding My Queer, Non-Binary Place in the Wedding Industry

“And there was Susan and Rachel at the heart of it all, dancing to the band Susan had sworn would play her wedding if she ever got married. As they…

Ainsley —

Nov 2, 2018

personal essay

first person

Compassion Training

I surrounded myself with pieces of paper organized by titles. “Things I want.” “Things I need.” “Things to buy.” “Things to throw- away.” “Things to do.” “Things to fix.” The…

Katie —

Oct 29, 2018

drag

personal essay

first person

Mommy’s Little Hellraiser

I looked less and less like my mother— the image of womanhood I grew up with — and I was scared. Was she disappointed that I wasn’t like her? Did…

Maura Lee Bee —

Oct 24, 2018

personal essay

food and drink

Having Too Many: How Queer Family Helps Heal My Relationship to Food

She has boxes of recipe cards; mostly I know their stories and not their flavors. She needs to know what I cook for dinner regularly; she eats a dinner of…

Jay —

Oct 18, 2018

bicycles

personal essay

first person

Food and Water, Silence and Solitude: The Bike Trip That Returned Me to Myself

In 2014, after learning how to care for a person on the edge between life and death, I went on the bike ride that would, ultimately, return me to myself.

Mat —

Oct 16, 2018

judaism

LGBT history

first person

Escaping Eden: Finding Lilith in Queerness

Lilith after all has become a sign of every socially unacceptable aspect of women, including and especially our sexuality.

Aliza —

Oct 11, 2018