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  • Against a yellow background, a woman with brown skin and shoulder-length, wavy brown hair puts her hands over her face. She is wearing a sleeveless black shirt and a black watch.
    dating

    How Ghosting Harms Queer
    Communities, According to a Philosopher

    Em Hernandez
    Feb 17, 2022
  • A person with dark brown skin and black curly hair wears a light blue shirt with a white tank underneath. They lean on a couch and look at their phone.
    dating

    I Used to ‘Compensate’ for My Blackness in
    the Dating World — Now I Embrace It

    Lola Renn
    Nov 29, 2021
  • A phone screen shows icons for Bumble, Tinder, Plenty of Fish, Hinge and OKCupid
    dating

    Dating as a Single
    Dyke in My 60s

    Elaine Bennett
    Nov 8, 2021
  • Two white coffee cups are on white plates with spoons. Each cup features latte art of a heart.
    first person

    Well, That’s Mortifying: That Time I
    Let My Friend’s Mom Crash My Date

    Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya
    Oct 2, 2021
  • Against a yellow background, a woman with brown skin and shoulder-length, wavy brown hair puts her hands over her face. She is wearing a sleeveless black shirt and a black watch.
    dating

    How Ghosting Harms Queer
    Communities, According to a Philosopher

    Em Hernandez
    Feb 17, 2022
  • A person with dark brown skin and black curly hair wears a light blue shirt with a white tank underneath. They lean on a couch and look at their phone.
    dating

    I Used to ‘Compensate’ for My Blackness in
    the Dating World — Now I Embrace It

    Lola Renn
    Nov 29, 2021
  • A phone screen shows icons for Bumble, Tinder, Plenty of Fish, Hinge and OKCupid
    dating

    Dating as a Single
    Dyke in My 60s

    Elaine Bennett
    Nov 8, 2021
  • Two white coffee cups are on white plates with spoons. Each cup features latte art of a heart.
    first person

    Well, That’s Mortifying: That Time I
    Let My Friend’s Mom Crash My Date

    Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya
    Oct 2, 2021
dating
ghosting
Against a yellow background, a woman with brown skin and shoulder-length, wavy brown hair puts her hands over her face. She is wearing a sleeveless black shirt and a black watch.
dating

How Ghosting Harms Queer Communities, According to a Philosopher

When I’m ghosted and when others like me are ghosted, it takes on an extra sting.
Em Hernandez —
Feb 17, 2022
dating
online dating
A person with dark brown skin and black curly hair wears a light blue shirt with a white tank underneath. They lean on a couch and look at their phone.
dating

I Used to ‘Compensate’ for My Blackness in the Dating World — Now I Embrace It

As a teen, my insecurities made me feel like my Blackness was something that dragged down my worth.
Lola Renn —
Nov 29, 2021
dating post-vax
lgbt elders
A phone screen shows icons for Bumble, Tinder, Plenty of Fish, Hinge and OKCupid
dating

Dating as a Single Dyke in My 60s

Singlehood in my late 50s to early 60s feels like trying to climb a sheer mountain cliff armed with only a bottle of lube
Elaine Bennett —
Nov 8, 2021
online dating
Two white coffee cups are on white plates with spoons. Each cup features latte art of a heart.
first person

Well, That’s Mortifying: That Time I Let My Friend’s Mom Crash My Date

We’re making small talk with a random white lady, and it’s all my fault.
Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya —
Oct 2, 2021
dating download
online dating
A woman with glasses and a ponytail leans back on a couch, scrolling on a phone displaying the Struck dating app on the screen
love + sex

Dating Download: Three Lesbians Try Dating App Struck and Leave It to the Stars

“I was very turned on by the concept as I have made very public that I am on the hunt for a Taurus wife.”
the team —
Apr 20, 2021
101s
online dating
Two women pushing ice-cream cones on each other's noses and laughing, background is a pattern of various beverages
dating

How to Go on a First Date That Doesn’t Suck

Be who you are just as hard as you can. Also, be on time.
Ryan Yates —
Jan 18, 2021
advice
how to be gay
A Very Sensible, Queer Guide to Sending the First Message on Dating Apps
lesbian dating apps

A Very Sensible, Queer Guide to Sending the First Message on Dating Apps

14 first messages that will have you burning up your matches list (with queer pop culture references!).
Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya —
Jan 13, 2021
instagram
online dating
How to Successfully Flirt With the Babe of Your Dreams on Instagram
lesbian dating apps

How to Successfully Flirt With the Babe of Your Dreams on Instagram

Any app is a dating app if you have confidence and a good selfie. Combine that attitude with Instagram’s many features for actually getting to know what someone is like…
Rachel —
Jan 13, 2021
online dating
tinder
How to Choose Dating App Photos That’ll Have Babes Swiping Hell Yes
lesbian dating apps

How to Choose Dating App Photos That’ll Have Babes Swiping Hell Yes

You want to look like your best self: fun, hot, interesting, and lez be real, it doesn’t hurt if you look like you might actually send the first message.
Vanessa —
Jan 12, 2021
online dating
How to Write a Swipe-Worthy Dating App Bio
lesbian dating apps

How to Write a Swipe-Worthy Dating App Bio

You have to actually say something in your dating app bio! You just do, I’m sorry. Here is how and how not to do that.
Rachel —
Jan 12, 2021
dating download
online dating
A brown-skinned person's hands with manicured nails hold a smart phone, scrolling through Lex posts.
love + sex

Dating Download: Three Lesbians Try Lex and Get Sexy With Words

“The first months of Lex were frenzied and horny and I loved it so much. Even if I didn’t match with anyone I loved the energy. Now it’s people talking…
the team —
Nov 30, 2020
online dating
video games
Two Animal Crossing neighbors, one who is brown and wearing a beanie, and one who is white wearing a red beanie, fish together while smiling.
lesbian dating apps

IRL Dating Is Canceled, but Animal Crossing Is Perfect for Cute Queer Dates

Sweetly enough, it’s possible to have a shocking number of cute ass dates on Animal Crossing. I’m lucky to be quarantined with my girlfriend, but we’re running low on date…
Rachel —
Apr 21, 2020
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