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coming out

You Need Help: I Just Came Out, and I Feel Weird

Coming out isn’t a magic trick that makes us suddenly understand ourselves completely.

Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya —

Nov 17, 2020

education

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coming out

You Need Help: I Never Imagined I’d Live Past 20. Now What?

Babe, I promise you’re right on time. In 2020 I can’t be sure of hardly anything, but I am sure that you are good. You belong right where you are,…

Adrian —

Oct 27, 2020

advice

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health

You Need Help: How Do I Become the Protagonist of My Own Life?

Who were your fictional heroes? What were the stories that were told to you in the songs that you played on loop? Who were the artists who sang them, and…

Christina Tesoro —

Sep 3, 2020

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friendship

You Need Help: My Friend Has a Crush on Me

“She promised not to make things awkward between us, since she knows I’m not available, and hoped it wouldn’t make things awkward on my end – but here’s the problem.…

danijanae —

Aug 11, 2020

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mental health

friendship

You Need Help: How Do I Get My Best Friend to Go to Therapy?

“Here is the good news—your best friend does have a therapist! Here is the bad news—that therapist is you!”

Christina Tucker —

Jul 21, 2020

family

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parenting & family

You Need Help: Should I Cut Off My Racist Dad?

My family is part of the problem, but if I choose to just ignore this fact, do I become part of the problem too?

Ro White —

Jul 2, 2020

coming out a little later

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coming out

You Need Help: How Do I Let Go of Feeling Guilty After Coming Out Late in Life?

I’m happy and grateful to be out, but I can’t get past feeling like I have created pain and difficulty for so many people.

himani —

Feb 18, 2020

Lists/Top 10s

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holigays

Five Perfect Holiday Gifts for the 8,000 Spiders Who Raised You in That Damp Cave

Check out this list so you don’t have to phone it in again this year by getting your 8,000 mothers another handful of flies!

Seth Rubin —

Dec 13, 2019

autostraddle classics

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christmas

Autostraddle’s Ultimate Holigay Toolkit

A handy collection of our very best holigay content to help you make it through this special time of year. Good luck out there!

the team —

Nov 28, 2019

christianity

community

first person

You Are Not the Only Queer Christian, I Swear to God

That’s what friendships with queer and trans Christians have taught me: it is blessed indeed to want more, more of everything, more love and more gender and more faith and…

Adrian —

Sep 26, 2018

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money + work

You Need Help: How to Be More Assertive (or, When to Clap Back at Men)

It takes a great deal of bravery to stand up to our enemies, but just as much to stand up to our friends.

Heather Hogan —

Jul 14, 2018

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school

You Need Help: Taking the Leap to Study Abroad

“Moving to Portland would be a dream come true, but I’m scared about being away from my support network, and finding people to live with who I can trust. Should…

Creatrix Tiara —

Jun 26, 2018