how to be gay

how to be gay

you need help

love + sex

You Need Help: Brand New Gays and Social Ashtrays

Should a social smoker quit just to please her girlfriend? And how to stop dating guys and start getting real (if that’s what you want to do).

Laneia —

Jul 27, 2011

how to be gay

marriage equality

lesbian weddings

If You Ain’t No Punk Holla Gays Need Prenups GAYS NEED PRENUPS

“As an aspiring talk show host who also happens to be a lawyer and a formerly engaged Gay American, I know a lot about the ins and outs of marriage,…

Bevin —

Jul 26, 2011

101s

greatest hits

dating

Rejection 101: A Lesbian’s Guide To Getting Turned Down, Keeping Your Head Up

“It’s okay to be angry. It’s okay to feel misled. It’s okay to feel stupid. It’s okay to listen to ‘Jar of Hearts’ on repeat.”

Intern Grace —

Jul 19, 2011

how to be gay

lesbian nightlife

the scene

The Gay Bar: Where Hopes and Dreams (and Bathroom Hook-Ups) Come True

Cubbyhole, where everyone knows your name. (Featuring our “first gay bar ever” stories)

Jess —

Jul 5, 2011

bklyn boihood

butch/femme

love + sex

I’m Neither Butch Nor A Top

“I’m rather tired of people reacting with shock when they find out I dress the way I do and identify as a bottom.”

bklyn boihood —

Jun 29, 2011

how to be gay

NSFW

lesbian sex

How to Have Lesbian Sex Tips from NSFW Sunday

~6-7 of you think you know a thing or two about lesbian sex, the rest of you probably do too, everyone should read this

Riese —

Jun 19, 2011

how to be gay

special

lesbian sex

The Politics of Lesbian Sex: Before, During, After

Before sex, during sex and after sex. Sex, sex, sexy sex.

Sarah H —

Jun 18, 2011

Daily Fix

how to be gay

relationships

Open Thread: The Perils of Being a First Girlfriend

Will your girl eventually want another girl? Is your long-term relationship robbing her of sexual growth and personal development? This is a good opportunity to talk about yourself under the…

Laneia —

Jun 14, 2011

greatest hits

how to be gay

friendship

So You’re Gay and Your Friends Are Straight, Now What?

So let’s say all your friends are straight and they’re totally okay with you being gay but also sometimes say the most irritating things ever? A conversation on how/when to…

Guest —

Jun 9, 2011

coming out a little later

greatest hits

first person

Everything You Ever Wanted to Know About My Sexual Orientation And Were(n’t) Afraid To Ask

The eyes are all asking are you in, or are you out?

Riese —

Jun 1, 2011

how to be gay

special

dating

How to Date… Again

I emerged from the winter of my dating discontent with a few good rules, which are probably more like guidelines since I’m genetically incapable of following rules. So here they…

Sarah H —

May 31, 2011

autostraddle social

Daily Fix

community

Introducing Autostraddle Social 1.0 : Social Networking For Total Weirdos

Like match.com for sharks

Riese —

May 10, 2011